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How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism Audiobook

How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism

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Publisher's Summary

I remember when I aimed for perfect workouts: 30 minutes was the minimum.

I was in lousy shape.

I remember when I aimed for perfect dating: it couldn't be awkward, forced, or uncertain.

I didn't talk to women I was interested in.

I remember when I aimed for perfect writing: I wanted 1,000+ words of quality material per day.

I played video games instead.

I carefully avoided mistakes, endlessly ruminated about what I didn't do, and what I did do wasn't enough.

Then, I became an imperfectionist.

Everything changed. I had fun stories to tell, like the lesbian pizza incident and the most nervous "Hi" ever spoken by a human being. I learned more. I laughed more. I lived more.

I got in great shape, read more books, and improved my social skills. I wrote Mini Habits, which is being translated into a dozen languages.

I found I could mess up and still win.

Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. For example, kids are taught to color inside the lines, and any color outside the lines is considered a mistake that must be corrected. Imperfectionism frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal.

While the freedom of imperfectionism is impactful, it does not preclude us from having problems. Imperfectionists aren't so ironic as to have perfect lives, they're just happier, healthier, and more productive at doing what matters.

©2015 Stephen Guise (P)2015 Stephen Guise

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    Sandra Makuch 10-16-16 Member Since 2012
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    "Please read 8,100,352 times"
    Where does How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This is one of the most life-changing books I have ever read and listened to and read and listened to. I'm guessing it would impact anyone's life in a very positive manner, if taken to heart. Guise takes aim at perfectionism in an honest, engaging way and the wonderful advice is easily applied. Guise has a lot of down-home clarity and he impresses me with his humility and transparency regarding his own struggles with perfectionism. I highly recommend it.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

    The discussion of analog vs. binary ways of evaluating our efforts was particularly helpful.


    What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

    I found it hard to believe he is not Stephen Guise! Often when listening to recordings of books, I think the narrator is not understanding what he is reading; Penz reads it like he wrote it! He has a great voice and manner of speaking.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    Both - it was funny and made me laugh at the author and my own foolishness, but I also felt sad as I realized that I had created so much suffering for myself and others with my perfectionism, and that I had so little appreciated my own efforts, just because they were imperfect.


    Any additional comments?

    A must read for a healthy, productive life.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Domenikos Theotokopoulos 10-01-15
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    "A refreshing new way of pursuing achievement"

    I think the subtitle is very descriptive of the book: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism.

    The narration was excellent also.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Ben Huff 02-02-17
    Ben Huff 02-02-17 Member Since 2015
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    "love it"

    absolute gold.

    acute perfectionist.

    in recovery!

    encouraging, with practical actionable concise advice.

    going to listen to "mini habits" now...

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Jp 01-25-17
    Jp 01-25-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Helpful"

    As someone who has only recently realized that perfectionism is causing a lot of issues in my life, this book has been very helpful in giving me some insight and understanding as well as concrete solutions to counteract this detrimental way of thinking.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Dan Kelly Dallas, TX 05-14-16
    Dan Kelly Dallas, TX 05-14-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Good, but not perfect. ;-)"

    It has some really good ideas, ones that I will work on. But, in trying to cover helpful tips fur all of the types of perfectionism, there were only a few concepts that were directly applicable to my situation.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Jazzykitty TX 09-15-17
    Jazzykitty TX 09-15-17
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    "Game-Changer"

    This book clearly explains the root causes of perfectionism, low self-esteem, procrastination, etc. And he gives solid advice on how overcome it in an easy-to understand, often humorous way. It's a life-changing text.

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    Amazon Customer 07-14-17
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    "Great book for the perfectionist problem!"

    really enjoyed the book. So much helpful info and advice. I put into practice and made a lot of progress in places i was stuck before! Very happy with it!!

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    04-29-17
    04-29-17 Member Since 2015
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    "Right timing"

    I found this book at the right time in my life. Starting a new chapter in my life as i continue my life's journey with Bipolar disorder.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    C. Barry 12-13-16
    C. Barry 12-13-16
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    "Disappointing"
    What was most disappointing about Stephen Guise’s story?

    The author uses the same few examples over and over. Unfortunately, these examples were limited in scope as I believe all or at least the great majority were only based on one person (the author himself). While absolutely valid examples, I was looking for a wider range that would be more applicable.


    How could the performance have been better?

    The author slips into a condescending/shaming voice when referring to his past perfectionistic perspective. I found this quite sad and discouraging. It made me feel sad that he seemed to be shaming his "past self" rather than having empathy for himself as he looked back on his own story.


    What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

    Sadness & Disappointment


    Any additional comments?

    The author seems as though he may have more to offer, as he continues through his own journey.

    2 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    mohd 10-31-16
    mohd 10-31-16 Member Since 2017
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    "realy life changing"

    stop thinking just go buy and read or hear the book :) be an imperfectionist now,there's more to it
    then just to be imperfect

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  • Jonathan
    3/9/16
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    "Perfect for perfectionists"

    After so many other books have failed to pinpoint my problem this one just worked!
    It uses a great mix of charming analogy and scientific evidence to point out where problems lie and sets out so many great techniques to move forward in a lasting way!

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • Bob
    Bracknell, United Kingdom
    10/11/15
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    "Inspiration to act differently"
    What did you like most about How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

    I first read this book on Kindle and while I understood it intectually, it didn't motivate me to act differently. The Audible version is somehow (for me at least) easier to internalise.


    What other book might you compare How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism to, and why?

    Buddhism for Busy People. Not for the religious aspects, but for the recommendations on taking charge of your own life.


    What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

    I found the narration very engaging.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    I never feel compelled to consume any audio books in one sitting. I completed it in around 3 days, with time to digest the content between listens.


    Any additional comments?

    I just downloaded Mini Habits by the same author (I already have it in Kindle format) to see if that is also more compelling as an audio book.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • Dan
    9/20/17
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    "Brilliant book. Easy to listen to aswell."

    I've already read the physical book, but really wanted to read it again. Listening to it via Audible is easy, and great for the car. Applying the ideas on this book has genuinely changed my life and I really wanted a refresher. I listen to about 10 mins a day, and this book works really well for that.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • B Gee
    8/10/17
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    "Problem Solved"

    This has to be the best book ever. Like Stephen I have toiled around self help books for years now and everything I have tried only gave me short term success and I always seemed to hit a brick. Not that the contents of those books are not impactful but I think Stephen has tackled the fundamental issue most self help books fail. That is genius. This has revitalised my life and this review is my first step into writing my own book to add my quota to the good body of work in helping people build good habits. I hope to work with Stephen in the nearest future.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Zhangeldy Kaupynbayev
    7/11/17
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    "Very good"

    Very straightforward and concise. Very well written and narrated. Easy to understand and mind changing. Thank you.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Amazon Customer
    6/18/17
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    "Really insightful"

    I seem to get this idea...But if I have not it does not matter because I am a imperfectionist now...

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • M T.
    2/20/17
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    "perfect!"

    Inspiring. List of perfectionist traits spoke directly to me. Gave me practical hope for change.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Andy B
    10/23/16
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    "Brilliant!"

    Loved this, goes much deeper than I expected. A really excellent all round self improvement book, brilliantly written with some genuine laugh out loud moments. Narrator is excellent too.

    A great title and one I'll revisit often.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • C. E. Scurr
    9/15/16
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    "Useful and usable"

    Another very useful and usable audio book from Stephen Guise. With this and 'Mini Habits' I have taken a huge step up my learning ladder. Putting his suggestions into practice is easy and already bring positive results.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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