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Prodependence

Moving Beyond Codependency
Narrated by: Corey Gagne
Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins
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Human beings are meant to work together, not to go it alone. We enter the world reliant on others for shelter, nutrition, and emotional support, and these core requirements to do not change as we grow older. Yet somehow, as we move into adulthood, our intrinsic need for emotional connection (i.e., love) gets discounted. This despite the fact that people who spend their lives "apart from" rather than "a part of" do not function as well as those who feel emotionally connected. 

Nowhere is this more apparent than when dealing with addiction. Nevertheless, loved ones of addicts, instead of being encouraged to care for themselves as well as their addicted loved one, are often encouraged to care for themselves instead of their addicted loved one. 

Prodependence, a new psychological term created by Robert Weiss to describe healthy interdependence in the modern world, turns this around. Rather that preaching detachment and distance over continued bonding and assistance, as so many therapists, self-help books, and 12-step groups currently do, prodependence celebrates the human need for and pursuit of intimate connection, viewing this as a positive force for change. Simply stated, prodependence occurs when attachment relationships are mutually beneficial - with one person's strengths filling in the weak points of the other, and vice versa. And this can occur even when an addiction is present.  

In Prodependence, Weiss presents a research-based social and psychological understanding of human interdependence, accepting and even celebrating human interdependency in ways that are healthy and life-affirming for each person. This groundbreaking work presents a new paradigm for useful and healthy support, offering both the lay person and professional an evolved prism through which he or she can examine, evaluate, and improve not just relationships affected by addiction (though that's the primary focus of this audiobook), but relationships in general.

©2018 Robert Weiss (P)2018 Audible, Inc.

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Erroneous Assumption Limits Usefulness

Not everyone who is deeply flawed sees their differences as a problem to be overcome. Some see their flaws as the flipside of their "greatness". This book is of little use in dealing with them.

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Life changing for addict and caregiver

I am the addict and my husband the caregiver and for 7 months following disclosure of addiction, we have gone through 30+ books trying to help us through this most difficult time of our life. My husband first started listening to it and recommended it to me. I reluctantly started listening since so many books have failed my expectation and need for recovery. On the other hand, this book has changed me and my caregiving husband. It sheds such a different light on what and why addicts become addicts and why caregivers shouldn’t be blamed for the attempts to help the addict. PLEASE, before purchasing another audio book on addiction and co dependence, listen to this book!!!!! I can’t express my love for it enough.

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Preatty innovating

Very insightful in to how the other half lives and perceives
Life with an addict.
Its about time this idea took off.


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Caring for the Support Community -- finally.

A real, and respectful support model for those who love people with issues. I'm sending this book everywhere and bringing it to my church.

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Great read! Hits the nail on the head.

this book was fantastic and describing the needs of the loved ones of an addict. It absolutely is the information that is needed to treat the loved ones. Easy to accept and understand makes great sense.

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No such thing as loving too much!!

I love how Rob compares it to someone being diagnosed with cancer...
No one would bat an eye if we continued to care for our loved one in that situation yet when we care for the addict, we are Codependent?!?! I think not! Thank you for such a great book Rob!
#prodependentforlife

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  • 02-23-19

An eye opener!

I really enjoyed this book! It has changed the way that I view my life. I used to think that Loving Detachment was the way to cope with addicts, this book has shown me otherwise. I now realise how wrong I was to try to totally detach from everyone. As Robert stresses in this book, no-one is an island, people need each other. Humans are social creatures & it's healthy to need human company. Although addictions are incredibly tough to deal with, accepting that, & trying to do your best is to be lauded, instead of being accused as being an enabler. I think that the Twelve Step Movement is on the wrong track & this book helps to bring a more sane, & rational approach, to dealing with an addict. Well done Robert Weiss! I hope that this book makes waves, & helps to bring about change in the Addiction Treatment Industry!