• Prodependence

  • Moving Beyond Codependency
  • By: Robert Weiss
  • Narrated by: Corey Gagne
  • Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (103 ratings)

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Prodependence

By: Robert Weiss
Narrated by: Corey Gagne
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Human beings are meant to work together, not to go it alone. We enter the world reliant on others for shelter, nutrition, and emotional support, and these core requirements to do not change as we grow older. Yet somehow, as we move into adulthood, our intrinsic need for emotional connection (i.e., love) gets discounted. This despite the fact that people who spend their lives "apart from" rather than "a part of" do not function as well as those who feel emotionally connected. 

Nowhere is this more apparent than when dealing with addiction. Nevertheless, loved ones of addicts, instead of being encouraged to care for themselves as well as their addicted loved one, are often encouraged to care for themselves instead of their addicted loved one. 

Prodependence, a new psychological term created by Robert Weiss to describe healthy interdependence in the modern world, turns this around. Rather that preaching detachment and distance over continued bonding and assistance, as so many therapists, self-help books, and 12-step groups currently do, prodependence celebrates the human need for and pursuit of intimate connection, viewing this as a positive force for change. Simply stated, prodependence occurs when attachment relationships are mutually beneficial - with one person's strengths filling in the weak points of the other, and vice versa. And this can occur even when an addiction is present.  

In Prodependence, Weiss presents a research-based social and psychological understanding of human interdependence, accepting and even celebrating human interdependency in ways that are healthy and life-affirming for each person. This groundbreaking work presents a new paradigm for useful and healthy support, offering both the lay person and professional an evolved prism through which he or she can examine, evaluate, and improve not just relationships affected by addiction (though that's the primary focus of this audiobook), but relationships in general.

©2018 Robert Weiss (P)2018 Audible, Inc.

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Great content but horrible voice

Great content. I have heard Rob speak before and wished he would have voiced the book. Sounded like a computer was reading to me.

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Life changing for addict and caregiver

I am the addict and my husband the caregiver and for 7 months following disclosure of addiction, we have gone through 30+ books trying to help us through this most difficult time of our life. My husband first started listening to it and recommended it to me. I reluctantly started listening since so many books have failed my expectation and need for recovery. On the other hand, this book has changed me and my caregiving husband. It sheds such a different light on what and why addicts become addicts and why caregivers shouldn’t be blamed for the attempts to help the addict. PLEASE, before purchasing another audio book on addiction and co dependence, listen to this book!!!!! I can’t express my love for it enough.

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No such thing as loving too much!!

I love how Rob compares it to someone being diagnosed with cancer...
No one would bat an eye if we continued to care for our loved one in that situation yet when we care for the addict, we are Codependent?!?! I think not! Thank you for such a great book Rob!
#prodependentforlife

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Wonderful Help

As the wife of an addict who was labeled codependent, I want to thank you for this book. I spent 6 months with a therapist who kept trying to put me in a box I didn't fit in and telling me how unhealthy I was without even listening to me first. I left my sessions confused and hurting rather than hopeful. What I needed was someone to guide me on a path to help more effectively rather than shame me for doing the best I could in the middle of my crisis. If you know or are married to an addict, read this book. You will find help and compassion and search for better help now that you know it does exist.

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Keep an Open Mind

Having been introduced by my mother to the books Co-dependent No More and Women Who Love Too Much as a child, it always felt a little shaming and wrong to support those we loved who were addicts or whose behaviour was not healthy. This book sheds a more positive light on that love and offers hope and support that it is in fact not wrong, but courageous and admirable.

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Brilliant and long overdue

It’s time to stop shaming and blaming and pathologizing those close to the addict. I encourage everyone who has love an addict to read this book

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Great focus on LOVE

Overall great. Solid breakdown of the science for people without a practice to understand. I very much enjoyed this book.

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Very helpful book

Thank you for writing this book. I appreciate the concepts and support in this book.

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Advancing our understanding of our selves

I appreciate this exploration of the importance of our connection and emotional support of one another. He helps me better understand the need to move beyond indepedence to interdependence

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Concept is good

I like the concept but I don’t love how it’s explained. I didn’t fully understand it until the last chapter. I would also like to hear how prodependence applies to other people, not just loved ones of addicts.

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