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I remember when I aimed for perfect workouts: 30 minutes was the minimum.

I was in lousy shape.

I remember when I aimed for perfect dating: it couldn't be awkward, forced, or uncertain.

I didn't talk to women I was interested in.

I remember when I aimed for perfect writing: I wanted 1,000+ words of quality material per day.

I played video games instead.

I carefully avoided mistakes, endlessly ruminated about what I didn't do, and what I did do wasn't enough.

Then, I became an imperfectionist.

Everything changed. I had fun stories to tell, like the lesbian pizza incident and the most nervous "Hi" ever spoken by a human being. I learned more. I laughed more. I lived more.

I got in great shape, read more books, and improved my social skills. I wrote Mini Habits, which is being translated into a dozen languages.

I found I could mess up and still win.

Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. For example, kids are taught to color inside the lines, and any color outside the lines is considered a mistake that must be corrected. Imperfectionism frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal.

While the freedom of imperfectionism is impactful, it does not preclude us from having problems. Imperfectionists aren't so ironic as to have perfect lives, they're just happier, healthier, and more productive at doing what matters.

©2015 Stephen Guise (P)2015 Stephen Guise

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Where does How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is one of the most life-changing books I have ever read and listened to and read and listened to. I'm guessing it would impact anyone's life in a very positive manner, if taken to heart. Guise takes aim at perfectionism in an honest, engaging way and the wonderful advice is easily applied. Guise has a lot of down-home clarity and he impresses me with his humility and transparency regarding his own struggles with perfectionism. I highly recommend it.

What was one of the most memorable moments of How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

The discussion of analog vs. binary ways of evaluating our efforts was particularly helpful.

What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

I found it hard to believe he is not Stephen Guise! Often when listening to recordings of books, I think the narrator is not understanding what he is reading; Penz reads it like he wrote it! He has a great voice and manner of speaking.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Both - it was funny and made me laugh at the author and my own foolishness, but I also felt sad as I realized that I had created so much suffering for myself and others with my perfectionism, and that I had so little appreciated my own efforts, just because they were imperfect.

Any additional comments?

A must read for a healthy, productive life.

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Good, but not perfect. ;-)

It has some really good ideas, ones that I will work on. But, in trying to cover helpful tips fur all of the types of perfectionism, there were only a few concepts that were directly applicable to my situation.

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Life Changing

This book will lift a weight off your shoulders if your are anything like me someone who wants to be good but does not always succeed. This book will tell you how to be a success step by step or mini habit by mini habit. Stephen’s examples are simple but easy to relate to and do illustrate how to implement the various strategies. I highly recommend this book as it is informative and entertaining and very enjoyable.

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Superb - This book identified my source issue

The narrator is great.
The book content spot on in the source of anxiety and depression, forgiveness...

Will see. I just read it, but this book might have saved my life.

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love it

absolute gold.

acute perfectionist.

in recovery!

encouraging, with practical actionable concise advice.

going to listen to "mini habits" now...

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Disappointing

What was most disappointing about Stephen Guise’s story?

The author uses the same few examples over and over. Unfortunately, these examples were limited in scope as I believe all or at least the great majority were only based on one person (the author himself). While absolutely valid examples, I was looking for a wider range that would be more applicable.

How could the performance have been better?

The author slips into a condescending/shaming voice when referring to his past perfectionistic perspective. I found this quite sad and discouraging. It made me feel sad that he seemed to be shaming his "past self" rather than having empathy for himself as he looked back on his own story.

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Sadness & Disappointment

Any additional comments?

The author seems as though he may have more to offer, as he continues through his own journey.

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It’s gold!

I first buy the digital book but didn’t want to stop reading and had to leave the house at one point. I bought the audio so the book can follow me everywhere I go. Do yourself a favour!

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Not particularly impressive, but still useful.

This is one of those books that didn't quite leave an impression on me, though that's probably because I had high expectations for it in the first place. I think I'll have to give this another listen to be able to implement the author's suggestions fully and really get a deeper understanding of the subject matter. Some of the suggestions in the book were a bit extreme and somewhat absurd (such as lying down in public just to put yourself out there), though some were quite concrete and were nicely summarized in the final chapter of the book.

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Great Real-World Examples and Actionable Tips

I appreciated that this book referenced some actual research, gave relatable examples, and provided concise but effective actions that I haven’t heard suggested elsewhere. What’s unique about this particular book is that it discusses multiple ways that perfectionism manifests itself. Although all didn’t apply to me, the ones that did left me with invaluable information. If you feel paralyzed by your need to do things the best you can, this book is for you. It’s already making a concrete difference in my life. After two years of wanting to start a blog, I finally eased up on my expectations of how perfect I thought it needed to be and have finally jumped in.

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Great book, highly recommend

He has a great way of describing the thought process of perfectionists and uses humor and logic to help us overcome this destructive mindset.

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  • Jonathan
  • 03-09-16

Perfect for perfectionists

After so many other books have failed to pinpoint my problem this one just worked!
It uses a great mix of charming analogy and scientific evidence to point out where problems lie and sets out so many great techniques to move forward in a lasting way!

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  • Bob
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Inspiration to act differently

What did you like most about How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

I first read this book on Kindle and while I understood it intectually, it didn't motivate me to act differently. The Audible version is somehow (for me at least) easier to internalise.

What other book might you compare How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism to, and why?

Buddhism for Busy People. Not for the religious aspects, but for the recommendations on taking charge of your own life.

What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

I found the narration very engaging.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I never feel compelled to consume any audio books in one sitting. I completed it in around 3 days, with time to digest the content between listens.

Any additional comments?

I just downloaded Mini Habits by the same author (I already have it in Kindle format) to see if that is also more compelling as an audio book.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-28-18

Fabulous listen

I don't often review things but I have to jump on here to tell you just how good this book is! My perfectionism makes me miserable from time to time but this book has helped me to relax. It is jam packed with useful advice and thought provoking ideas. They will make you stop and think about your perfectionism and will guide you towards a healthier way of thinking and living. This book has greatly helped me. I have just bought Mini Habits and I intend to purchase a hard copy of this book so I can highlight all the cool thoughts and suggestions. Loved the narration too. Nothing less than five stars from me. Yours... a former perfectionist. :)

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-09-18

Working methods

It gives very useful and working patterns to follow. Highly recommend it for people who struggle trying to be perfect every time.

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  • Ekaterina
  • 09-30-18

Are you still struggling with finishing a job?

The book is full of interesting incites and useful advices, highly recommend.

I never think about myself as a perfectionist, but when I was reading the book I recognised my own mindset, my habits and thoughts :)
I am an artist and I was struggling with finishing jobs within certain time frames, it was always hell of alterations -- even if a client was happy, I was seeing something that could be better. Then after some time I could look at all 28 different unfinished images for the commissioned character and understood that if I would finish any of them it would work well :) But noooo, I needed to do as best as I ever could! So I tried and tried and tried again, until I could see a small bit of potential, in my opinion. LOL :)

I understand that it won't change over night, but now I know how to fight it :)
Hopefully I will manage to improve it :)

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-28-18

detailed and clever strategies

Detailed and clever strategies to overcome crippling perfectionism. Have recommended it to friends! : )

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  • Pauline
  • 08-27-18

brilliant

so empowering. I finally understand why I act and think as I do. my life is already changing. It feels like a huge weight has been lifted.

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  • L. Marshall
  • 07-31-18

Best self help book ever !

I don’t usually leave reviews but having listened to this book I felt the need to let any potential listener know how good this book is. It covers lots of aspects of personal development and gives practical solutions to implement. A great listen !

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  • bebekwala
  • 05-17-18

Excellent

The best and most useful book I've read (well, listened to i suppose) on this subject so far... ..and over the years that's been quite a few. I think the source if the solution to counter-acting procrastination and perfectionism is herein (at least for myself). It gets to many of the real reasons and challenges, and provides solutions that are manageable and realistic rather than just more nonesense about simply finding a way to become more motivated. It's taught me much about myself, why I procrastinate and what type of perfectionist I am. The enduring and frustrating mystery of my own internal workings seems markedly unmysterious now. The narration is fantastic and keeps things easy-listenjng on occasions when the amount of info, concepts and ideas becomes condensed. However, the book is written well and generally 'to the point' so this isn't too often.

I know I'll be referring back to this book for on a regular basis. It very easily makes it inyo my personal top 5 best/most useful books I've had from Audible over the years. Great content - I'm glad I gave it a go : )

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-09-18

Highly recommended

Packed full of suggestions on how to put the techniques discussed into use in your day to day life.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-25-18

If you are a perfectionist this book is helpful

this book opened my eyes to the depths of perfectionism. I found myself nodding along to some parts and having my mind blow by others.

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  • Sharna
  • 03-07-18

Incredible!

I've listened to this twice so far and will continue to re-listen again and again

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  • Luke Kent
  • 01-10-17

fantastic!

amazing book. great narration! practical wisdom I have already started applying. just brilliant!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-27-15

Imperfectly Perfectly great!<br />

I have read the book. And now I plan to listen to it a second time. It is sweetly simple advice to life. This is my 5th time listening to iit. IT IS SIMPLY AMAZING!:) 6th time listening!