Fierce Intimacy

De: Terrence Real

Narrado por: Terrence Real

Proven Skills for Navigating the Real Challenges of Intimate Relationships

What does it take for couples to sustain love? How can you deepen your relationship even when you and your partner disagree, fight, or let each other down? “Intimacy isn’t something you have. It’s something you do”, teaches Terry Real. “It’s a minute-by-minute practice of connecting to others through empathy, vulnerability, and accountability.” With Fierce Intimacy, this renowned author offers a revolutionary way of living in connection - one that allows you to cherish your partner, yourself, and your relationship in equal measure.

How to Communicate with Love and Respect - Even When You Argue

Terry’s approach to relationship is called “full-respect living” - to skillfully and honestly assert your needs while also honoring your partner’s needs. In these six sessions, he presents invaluable training for individuals and couples on developing the skills necessary for this authentic way of connecting. You’ll begin by learning how to clear away the outdated beliefs and habits that keep you from developing healthy self-esteem. Then Terry will help you and your partner transform the Five Losing Strategies that sabotage relationships into the Five Winning Strategies that lead to clear communication, trust, and mutual support.

“When we dare to be more vulnerable and open and honest, we are forging new territory”, says Terry Real. Whether you’re still seeking a partner or want to breathe new life into your existing relationship, Fierce Intimacy brings you essential tools for connecting with true respect, uncompromising honesty, and ever-deepening love.

Highlights

• The adaptive child - how to recognize and defuse self-sabotaging habits
• Unhealthy self-esteem traps for men and women
• Identifying your CNI (Core Negative Image) - a key to making arguments constructive instead of destructive
• The Feedback Wheel - a four-step approach to revolutionize your communication
• The Five Losing Strategies: our impulses to control, retaliate, and be right all the time
• The Five Winning Strategies for shared happiness, connection, and success

Download the accompanying reference guide.©2018 Terry Real (P)2018 Sounds True

Take lots of notes & markers to go back to & listen time after time

This is a great book; it includes information that allows you to identify behaviors and give them names, it then explains the reason behind such behaviors and dynamics and THEN it gives practical, simple, hard and incredibly effective practices to change the way you are towards yourself and in your relationship for the healthier- listen to it! Better more, practice it!!

This guy is a genius

Lots of really good tools in this book to fix what ails your relationship. The author does a good job narrating his own work.

Required Listening

I wish I could relive my marriage (if not my whole life) in the light of this information. There are other amazing voices in current relational wisdom (Brown, Perel, Tatkin), and I recommend all of these wholeheartedly as well.
What I feel sets this series apart is that it seems to touch on every important aspect of self knowledge, relational behavior, and the changes that must be made to make space for connection with oneself and with another. This is a no nonsense, no sugarcoating perspective that really penetrates the defenses, and then generously bestows the tools to retrain those very defenses to transform into healthy boundaries and strength/vulnerability that ultimately work in your (and your partner's)favor.

A must listen!

FULL of useful, supportive and actionable insight. I have already recommended it to a bunch of friends and clients. Thank you, Terry!

So good

His principal are so sound and applicable to couples. I loved the conversational tone of this. It felt like we were just having a chat. So helpful!

Relational advice for the real world

I am so grateful that I stumbled on Terence Real via a reference on one podcast. This book touches some key facets of a couples relationship and the techniques Terence mentions can be applied to almost immediate effect. Of course, mastering these things takes years but as he mentions towards the end, it’s so impactful that it’s worth even doing poorly at the start.

PHENOMENAL!

Read/ listen to this book. whether you're living alone, in a relationship, living together apart. Woman or man. Young or adult. Straight or LGBTQ+. Therapist or not. Parent or not. We're a part of modern society after 50 years of feminism - and the journey has only started.

Relational competences are skills that we have to come together to build. It's not a straight, glorified path to heaven. But but getting more learning from specialists and therapists in how to do it and get better at it, we're all becoming part of the orchestra to make the world a more loving and comprehensive place to live ❤️

Worthwhile

Helpful and encouraging. I will listen again and probably again. Would also recommend to others.

Looked right in my eyes and spoke to me

The skills taught are vital to understand and navigate relational crisis. The narration felt like author was sitting with me and getting real about our flaws and protective strategies. i feel hopeful with what i have learned in this book and look forward to apply it. Thanks so much for writing this book, Terry!

He caught me

Caught me in some of my incorrect thinking about depression. Many exercises to execute and many skills to practice.