Existential Kink

Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power; A Method for Getting What You Want by Getting Off on What You Don't

A smart, sexy guide to embracing the repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve.

“We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark - very dark.”

Each of us has a dual nature: we are light (conscious) and dark (unconscious). The dark side of our personality - the “other”, the shadow side - is made up of what we think is our primitive, primal, negative impulses - our “existential kink.” Our existential kink also drives the dark or negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we’re undeserving, not worthy. But it also is the source of our greatest power.

In Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliot, PhD, offers a truth-telling guide for bringing our shadow into the light. Inviting us to make conscious the unconscious, Elliot asks us to own the subconscious pleasure we get from the stuck, painful patterns of our existence.

Existential Kink provides practical advice and meditations so we truly see our shadow side’s “guilty pleasures”, love and accept them, and integrate them into our whole being. By doing so, Elliot shows, we bring to life the raw, hot, glorious power we all have to get what we really want in our lives.

©2020 Carolyn Elliott, PhD (P)2020 Blackstone Publishing

Kink

This book spoke to me. She has some very good points about dealing with emotions, relationships and magic.

Holy sh*t

This book is life altering, truly. As an actor & hopeful writer myself, it inspires & empowers me to see how profound an effect a book can have.
First of all, Carolyn’s narration creates a comfortable, intimate experience - as if you’re hanging out with a friend who is really insightful.
I’ve never taken so many clip notes haha. So much food for thought that I hadn’t yet considered.
Thank you Carolyn!

surrender/letting go teachings finally clicked

the flavor of content in this book gave me a sort of permission that I didn't know I needed assuring my deeper self that's its safe to allow all those scary emotions to rise up and be experienced.

A guide to personal self-mastery, that actually works!

The single, most practical, guide to the essence of Shadow Work, Positive Thought (LoA) and general spiritual based therapy, or therapy based spirituality! Of the plethora of books I’ve ever read, which Carolyn Elliott references many, hers is the most important, relevant, freshest perspective on addressing the dualistic nature of our emotional disconnect from our capacity to experience peace, love, joy, happiness, harmony, prosperity, and deep satisfaction with our life, by using the art of transmuting our resistance to accepting everything, just as it is, (since we are experiencing it anyway, why not actually become congruent with ourselves & our experiences) to find the underlying desire that is unconsciously embedded in every motivation& outcome we manifest.

A must listen to/read, repeatedly, until mastered.

"Make it make sense"

Carolyn has done just that. She has truly helped me to get unstuck on my journey of life. I now understand this so called shadow work. I was warned about uncovering my dark side. I will no longer fear my shadows. With child-like excitement and play, I embrace my shadows now.