Existential Kink

Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power; A Method for Getting What You Want by Getting Off on What You Don't

By: Carolyn Elliott PhD

Narrated by: Carolyn Elliott PhD

A smart, sexy guide to embracing the repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve.

“We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark - very dark.”

Each of us has a dual nature: we are light (conscious) and dark (unconscious). The dark side of our personality - the “other”, the shadow side - is made up of what we think is our primitive, primal, negative impulses - our “existential kink.” Our existential kink also drives the dark or negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we’re undeserving, not worthy. But it also is the source of our greatest power.

In Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliot, PhD, offers a truth-telling guide for bringing our shadow into the light. Inviting us to make conscious the unconscious, Elliot asks us to own the subconscious pleasure we get from the stuck, painful patterns of our existence.

Existential Kink provides practical advice and meditations so we truly see our shadow side’s “guilty pleasures”, love and accept them, and integrate them into our whole being. By doing so, Elliot shows, we bring to life the raw, hot, glorious power we all have to get what we really want in our lives.

©2020 Carolyn Elliott, PhD (P)2020 Blackstone Publishing

Wish I had read this 30 years ago...don't wait!

I will listen to this audiobook over and over until the deep wisdom shared by Carolyn takes root. While every sentence resonated with me, I know it will take several listens for the information to coalesce. Do yourself a favor, get started right away so you can begin the practice...lives are changed by this kind of work.

Excellent! Even better than I expected

Positively one of the best books I have read for improving ones life. Carolyn Elliott packs a ton of information into such a short time and she narrates her work with enthusiasm. I have a lot of work to do but feel I have recieved many tools for my journey.

Brilliant

Brilliant. Eye-opening. An absolute classic. This is one of those books that you come across, that change your life forever. In my opinion, EK should be taught in school - it's certainly taught me invaluable lessons that I will eternally hold very close to my heart.

Unique and fresh perspective

Love this perspective on healing. So sick of the manifestation books that refuse to discuss that manifestation is more about releasing THEN you attract. Thanks Carolyn for such a phenomenal book. I highly recommend.

If you've been working on yourself for a while...

This is a powerful book to help you get to where you desire to be...

I devoured this audio in one day and I'm already feeling major shifts in my body... A know that everything spoken here is a deep truth...

We incarnated into these bodies to feel the bliss in EVERY situation, not just some...

I have been buzzing with orgasmic energy (not full orgasm, but this blissful buzzing) since finishing it every time I realize how much I'm benefitting from the situations my subconscious has set up for me...

It feels so freeing and delightful to bask in these situations I've created without making them wrong or bad anymore...

There is such a freedom in these pages and I have been messaging everyone I know to read this! Life changing!!

Not sure what to think

Ultimately this book did help me. I am new to shadow work, so this was a good place to start. And it lead me to learn more elsewhere. But in learning more about the practice, I am starting to realize that this is a bit gimmicky. I never “got off” on any of the realizations of my shadow self. The kink aspect comes off as shock value to re-package the basic tenets of shadow work. And there were more than a few cringey moments where she reveals herself as extremely out of touch with those of us in a lower tax bracket. I would recommend this to some, but suggest your tongue be firmly in cheek if you want to take the practice seriously.

Empowering, sexy, fun and radical

I loved listening to this book. Carolyn reads it playfully and proposes some deeply empowering concepts and practices that are confronting yet so liberating. I’ll probably listen to this one several times.

both entertaining and useful

Very useful concepts. well read. good listen overall. The concept of shadow work isn't the easiest to grasp. this explanation was helpful for me.

I just love this work and this book

Carolyn is clear, hilarious, and her voice is so pleasant to listen to. I can’t wait to re-listen and start all the exercises.

Potent. Powerful. Transformative. Sexy.

I loved everything about Existential Kink, and the audio book version.
I’ve been wanting a process like this my whole adult life and am so glad I found it.