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In her own voice: best-selling author Rachel Hollis is back to show us how to get through life’s unavoidable hard stuff. Listen here to hear five of her favorite pieces of advice.

"The things that you grow the most from are never planned..."
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"The most surprising but surprisingly effective advice…"
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"What motivates me? A goal, any goal..."
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"How do I keep moving forward in the tough times? I mean, I'm in it right now..."
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"The thing that I turn to when I need motivation or inspiration..."
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  • "The things that you grow the most from are never planned..."
  • "The most surprising but surprisingly effective advice…"
  • "What motivates me? A goal, any goal..."
  • "How do I keep moving forward in the tough times? I mean, I'm in it right now..."
  • "The thing that I turn to when I need motivation or inspiration..."

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The New York Times best seller

Fear. Grief. Loss. Betrayal. Rachel Hollis has felt all those things, and she knows you have too. Now, she takes you to the other side.

With her signature humor, heartfelt honesty, and intimate true-life stories, number one New York Times best-selling author Rachel Hollis shows listeners how to seize difficult moments for the learning experiences they are and the value and growth they provide.

Rachel Hollis sees you. As the millions who listen to her number one New York Times best sellers Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing, attend her RISE conferences, and follow her on social media know, she also wants to see you transform.

When it comes to the “hard seasons” of life - the death of a loved one, divorce, loss of a job - transformation seems impossible when grief and uncertainty dominate your days. Especially when, as Didn’t See that Coming reveals, no one asks to have their future completely rearranged for them. But, as Rachel writes, it is up to you how you come through your pain - you can come through changed for the better, having learned and grown, or stuck in place where your identity becomes rooted in what hurt you.

To Rachel, a life well-lived is one of purpose, focused only on the essentials. This is a small book about big feelings: Inspirational, aspirational, and an anchor that shows that darkness can co-exist with the beautiful. 

©2020 Rachel Hollis (P)2020 HarperCollins Publishers

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I was really enjoying the book until....

I have really enjoyed Rachel's previous material and have recommended her books to several friends. However, this book I believe gives some very dangerous advise regarding hiding your pain and emotions from your children. I grew up watching my mother try so hard to hide her pain from my fathers death. She hid it to the point of illness and she suffered mentally from it. I also suffered because regardless of how well you try to hide the pain, the ones that love you can see right through it. Teaching your kids that adults need to hide their pain away is not healthy and I stopped listening after that. Pain is real, and children learn from example. If we teach them how to deal with pain and trauma they will have the tools needed to deal with their own. If we teach them that adults are not allowed to show pain, I feel we are setting them up for a life full of depression and guilt.

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  • MJ
  • 10-01-20

Repetative information many past 35 already know.

Literally repeats simplistic logic and rhetoric many life coaches have already put out there, including herself.

What stood out most was listening to her share how she gave it to her friend who was going through a divorce because her friend chose to share her pain with her daughters. Rachel states "fake it" and " never" let your kids see you not holding it together. "Scream into a pillow" but never let them see you are suffering. It's so obvious she chose to put this on others because of her own childhood trauma with her parents not holding it together when her brother passed. It's totally okay and necessary for our kids to see we have emotions and have hard, bad or sad days. Any psychologist will tell you that! There is a difference between sharing emotions and hard days with your children verses making them "carry it," like she sternly tells other not to do. I believe You can still " show up" for your children all while keeping a healthy line of communication letting them know you're having a tough day. You're preparing them for the real world and real emotions in this life and showing them you are not exempt from feeling sad. She gets such an intense tone on this matter, it just screams she is still hurting from her own past childhood. You should probably fix you and your trigger Rachel before you choose to try to fix others on that matter. She states she knows many will disagree with her. Well, she got one thing right.

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Maybe too soon?

I loved the previous two books this author wrote however this one does not inspire and falls flat. Maybe If the author wrote the book later after some time has passed from her previous book success and divorce this book would resonant better. It’s also disappointing how the author wrote non stop about her marriage on her blog and podcasts and books then now the content has phased out anything about her marriage. It was the most important thing in her life - more than her children then she divorces, but doesn’t really offer any insight how her marriage failed. It leaves a big hole and wonder if she’s just peddling to continue the wave of success.

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Rambling

It’s a ton of rambling. I thought she was gonna let us know what happened in her marriage and how to help or avoid. I liked her other books this one is not good. Sorry Rachel

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no divorce details

same story she has told us in her last 2 books. we know about her brother and we know about the twins. we wanted and this was sold as divorce. not worth the credit.

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Nothing new from the other books

Rachel uses the same life events from her other books into this one (her childhood, brother, adopted daughter). I was expecting more details about the complications in her relationship and lessons learned from choosing the path of divorce; unfortunately, this was not the purpose of this book. I am still not sure why she would write a repetitive book. I do not recommend it to people who read her other books.

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Save your money,

Rachael’s not even being transparent or courageous in her own writing. She basically talks about her kiddish fears and folklore. Cites a few things from Carol S, author of Mindset. A bunch of mom analogies.

I was really looking forward to having her be real and say what she’s learned about herself and working with her husband.

Done. Don’t buy the book.

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Very disappointed!

I absolutely loved her first two books. This book was very repetitive and she retold a lot of the same stories or situations she used in the first two books. She also danced around what happened in her marriage and why she is getting a divorce. The overall vibe of the book was too depressing unlike her other books which were so inspirational and motivating.

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Couldn’t get passed the first chapter!

I could handle the over dramatics, but she lost me when she said she was disappointed in her country and the people rioting ( burning down hard working people’s dreams) was “powerful!”
That “unarmed black man” is a rapist, a criminal, was resisting arrest and putting his children in harm’s way! He had many opportunities to comply and CHOSE not to. She’s pathetic and will never get another dollar if my money. I’m returning the audible for a refund.
Plus, if you think she wrote this book in the midst of her divorce...Ive got a bridge to sell you! How pathetic to use your divorce to make a buck!

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In your face

Wow. This is not inspirational. Just Rachel Hollis, herself, cussing at you. Awful.

I really enjoyed her first book, Girl Wash Your Face. The next book, was okay but I had hopes this one would be better. Nope. I was wrong.

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  • Katt
  • 12-18-20

A book I didn't know I needed to listen too

Rachel wrote this book whilst the World was shutting down due to covid-19; people were having to stay at home, to protect their hospitals from overflowing, protecting themselves and loved ones from a virus which was killing hundreds. Whilst in this global pandemic Rachel is also going through a divorce with her husband, dealing with home schooling children and keeping her employees employed. She had to pivot in a heartbeat.

As with all of her previous books Rachel tells you her story. Chapter by chapter, She shares the wisdom she has learned having lived through it. She gives you easy ways to cope with whatever you could be coping with. She also shares wisdom she has learned from others. The techniques have helped her heal for her own sake and her loved ones so she can show up every single day for them and herself. She is an inspiration, she cuts through all the BS and can slap you silly with her words because You need to hear them. If you want delicacy Rachel will not be that, she will not hold your hand but show you you are not alone and build you up from within using your own power and strength.

I am not going through a crisis, like many have over 2020, thankfully, at first I believed her words were for others going through awful times - which it is - but I found strength in her strength and joy in her joys. Rachel teaches you to find joy in the painful times to remind you every day to live. To be the glass half full! To see hope so you can heal. I am so glad I listened to her book, I think everyone should listen/read it. I know her words will help me in future crisis.

If you have read her other books some of the advice is similar, which makes sense as it is a routine she promotes daily - yoir dream 10, your daily 5 (my names for them) - the methods she promotes her dairy for and new Rise app. These techniques if not heard before can be very useful. She goes into more detail about the dream 10 list, which I did not know so I found this very useful.

A great book for the current pandemic which may help people get out of their own head, lift it high and to keep going.

Thank you Rachel for sharing this through everything 2020 has thrown at you.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 10-21-20

Rachel’s best book yet

I’ve followed Rachel for years and read her books. I loved this book. It’s so personal and honest it brought me to tears in parts. To anyone going through a tough time - and let’s face it that’s most of us in 2020 and especially for anyone feeling lost after a change or loss this is such a great manual. Heartfelt stories with practical advice. It’s one to buy for yourself and a friend.

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  • Ann Kathrin Granhus
  • 03-11-21

Good

I think the book is good. Has a lot of good points. Quite updated since talks about covid some, still I loose a little the overal point if there was one, but def. Worth a read or maybe two times to understand it better.

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  • Bekah Thompson
  • 02-11-21

Wow!

Loved this, Rachel put her heart in to this. Made me smile, laugh and cry.
Thank you 🤍

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  • chapt
  • 10-27-20

just wow

ms hollis is one of the most honest and genuine speakers I have ever had the pleasure of following

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  • Lex
  • 10-09-20

Wonderful

Absolutely wonderful Rachel, it was poignant, thought provoking, inspiring, whilst also giving you hope that you will get through things xx

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  • Nicole
  • 02-17-21

i loved it. Rachel says it how it is.

I loved it. she is straight to the point an not scared to say it how it is. I found myself saying yes an nodding my head cause I agreed with her way of thinks.

I highly recommend ALL of her books. Especially girl was your face.

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  • RT
  • 11-28-20

Insightful and practical

Insightful and practical this has given me tools to navigate the muddy waters of my divorce and deal with Mummy-guilt and to start to rebuild myself financially.

I like the line “work like the devil is on your heels”

Excellent work Rachel.

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  • Katie
  • 10-25-20

Hugely impactful

Love Rachel’s books and podcast for her energy, positivity and so much wisdom from a life of intense sadness, challenges and achievements in family, work and life.
If you need something to give you hope or a reminder about how precious this gift of life is, this is it.
Jump straight to the last chapter for a hugely powerful (and emotional) reason to live, and live well.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-21-20

almost perfect

some really powerful messages I have recommended this book to many of my friends.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-14-20

A good resource to have!

This book has more than just tips to overcome grief, also life lessons for growth.