Compelling People

The Hidden Qualities That Make Us Influential
Narrated by: Tim Andres Pabon
Length: 9 hrs and 1 min
4 out of 5 stars (192 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

How people judge you - and how to come out looking good.

You will never look at people the same way again - including yourself - after this lively look at how we make character judgments. Drawing on cutting-edge social science research as well as their own work with Fortune 500 executives, members of Congress, and Nobel Prize winners, authors Matt Kohut and John Neffinger demystify the process we use to size each other up.

It turns out that we judge each other primarily on two critical criteria: strength and warmth. The authors explain the inner workings of each, the tension that makes it so hard to project both at once, and the successful strategies that the most admired among us use to win respect and affection. Offering practical advice for a range of common and challenging situations, Compelling People shows you not just how people already see you, but how to make sure your best qualities shine through.

©2013 John Neffinger and Matthew Kohut (P)2013 Gildan Media LLC

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Fantastic read on the subconscious of influence

Where does Compelling People rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

It does not speak about the typical ways to influence others (mirroring, etc.) but delves into the subconscious. The authors state that people exhibit a mixture of warmth and strength which are similar to leading through fear or compassion.

The author also touches on stereotypes and speaks to the danger of exhibiting characteristics which pigeon hole you into a negative stereotype. IE Why Obama can never exhibit anger less he fall into the "angry black man" stereotype.

It's a great read.

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Long book on one simple concept

The entire book is written around the idea that people are defined by their strength and warmth and that compelling people find the right balance between the two based on the context of the situation.

So, yes, an interesting concept - but not worth a couple hours. I skipped the second half for the most part.

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Pop Culture Pap

Most the book sounds like it was taken from a Reader's Digest article. Not worth the price of admission.

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kinda ok. here is my opinion..

he knows a lot about a lot but.
here is the But... he is racist..
he doesn't know he is.. but he is..
he doesn't understand.. perhaps it's due to over intelligence. perhaps.
I would call him the average liberal
kinda weak... and sorry....

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Amazing concepts, impeccable narration

Some of the concepts were new for me, and others were old, but explained in a new way. This book contains the best information I have found on this topic.

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Phenomenal, highly recommend

I was sincerely blown away by this book. I’m going to recommend it to all friends, family, and whoever is reading this.

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Read Presence instead

It's not that this a bad book, but Presence is the same message, just better.

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Eye Opening

This was very enlightening and has colored all my interactions since I started to read it.

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Misleading Title.

Would you try another book from John Neffinger and Matthew Kohut and/or Tim Andres Pabon?

No. This book purports to help the readers better understand themselves and so improve their behavior. It actually is more about womens lib, minority rights and the dominence of straight white men. If I had wanted to read about those subjects, I would have bought a NOW book.

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Did Tim Andres Pabon do a good job differentiating all the characters? How?

No

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

YYyyeeccchhHH

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excellent

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