We Should Get Together

The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships

De: Kat Vellos

Narrado por: Kat Vellos

We Should Get Together is the handbook for anyone who's ready for better friendships, now.

Have you recently moved to a new city and are struggling to make friends?

Do you find yourself constantly making plans with friends that fall through?

Are you more likely to see your friends' social media posts than their faces?

You aren't alone. Millions of adults struggle with an uncomfortable and persistent ache: platonic longing, which is the unfulfilled wish for authentic, resilient, close friendships.

But it doesn't have to be this way. Making and maintaining friendships during adulthood can be hard or, with a bit of intention and creativity, joyful.

Author Kat Vellos, experienced designer and founder of Better Than Small Talk, tackles the four most common challenges of adult friendship: constant relocation, full schedules, the demands of partnership and family, and our culture's declining capacity for compassion and intimacy in the age of social media.

Combining expert research and personal stories pulled from conversations with hundreds of adults, We Should Get Together is the critically acclaimed, much-beloved, modern guide for making and maintaining stronger friendships.

With this book, you will learn to:

• Make and maintain friendships when you (or your friends) keep moving
• Have deeper and more meaningful conversations
• Triumph over awkwardness in social situations
• Become less dependent on your phone
• Identify and prioritize quality connections
• Find time for friendship despite your busy calendar
• Create closer, more durable friendships

Full of relatable stories, evidence-based guidance, practical tips, and 55 suggested activities, We Should Get Together is the perfect book for anyone who wants to have dedicated, life-enriching friends and who wants to be that kind of friend, too.

©2020 Kat Vellos (P)2021 Kat Vellos

Best book on Friendship!

Kat's passion and experience comes through clearly in this well-thought-out distillation of her wisdom on friendship. I appreciate the time and experience she beings to bear and her warm way of communicating. Her reading voice is great too!

I've been searching for good books on friendship and belonging, and this is the best one yet, by far!

connection

Absolutely love this book. Life is connection to people. The author uses a friendly, welcoming style to help readers with ideas to have a richer connection with others.

Love this book

I have no idea how this book ended up in my queue, but I am so grateful it did and it couldn’t have been better timed. Thank you for the wonderful material within. Very validating and practical suggestions!

Enjoyable and Relatable

I enjoyed listening to this. The author has a warm, kind, animated voice. The examples were modern and real. I really liked the story about the software developer who moonlights as an Uber driver because he’s lonely and satisfied his cravings for human connection by talking to his passengers. I also liked her idea of hanging out with friends in homes instead of going out all the time to impersonal spaces that have built in deadlines.

Close to perfect for me

I am writing a book about friendships. :)
I really liked all of the content of this book and find it very honest and whole. The only thing that I would recommend for those who are listening to it because they find it hard to start new friendships is to start with the chapters about awkwardness. If you feel awkward in situations, than if you listen to the book from the beginning, it sound like: “… mmm ok, but how should I do this?” I think most peoples problem is not that they do not know what they should do but they do not know how. You can tell people to go to someone and ask them if they want to hang out, but what if 500 people all tell you no? I find the solutions good, but a little shallow.
The parts that were missing for me were the parts that go deeper about fears and about behavior that make it hard to make friend with others. I think that it’s easier to make a new friend when you are young, beautiful and have a normal human behavior, but it’s really much harder when you are really weird and most people find you irritating or just not a good company. Other then this missing topic, perfect book!