Acting Business Boot Camp

By: Peter Pamela Rose
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  • Hi I’m Peter Pamela Rose, Casting Director and certified Life and Career Coach for the Entertainment Industry. My goal is to break down the business of being a working actor into a simple, actionable, step by step Roadmap.
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  • Episode 302: Gossip and the Acting Community

    Episode 302: Gossip and the Acting Community
    Sep 18 2024
    This week we're going to talk about gossip. Oh my god, I used to love gossip. I used to love to talk about other people, what they were doing. Ugh, it was so amazing. Can you tell I was a teenager in the 80s? But today I'm going to talk about why gossip is actually not that great. And I have really been the target of gossip as well, and maybe I had to burn through some karma there. It's really hurtful, so hurtful when you are the one being gossiped about and you find out that somebody else is saying something about you, whether it's good or bad. If it's good, it's nice, but if it's not so nice, it's not great. And I think we probably have all been on both sides of it. If not, you're probably not human. But I want to talk about why it's not great as an actor. And it's something that I have really honed in on. It's been a long time now, but yeah, it's just something that I've really tried to curb. Because it's not nice. Gossip isn't nice. And I know this is not this might be one of those podcasts where you're like, I don't want to listen to this one. Let's listen to another one. But if you're feeling that way, make your ears grow bigger. So here's the thing about gossip. Number one. I have five points about this. It erodes trust. Yeah. It's very hard for me to trust someone who's talking shit about somebody else. Basically, what it does is gossip, it undermines. It undermines trust. It really undermines, and I also, there was once I had an acting teacher at Guildhall who said, if you don't want to be judged, don't judge. Because it really undermines trust, and especially if you're in a production of some sort, whether that be film, television, theater, commercial, it doesn't matter, it really erodes trust. It also creates an environment, and you create your own environment in this industry of suspicion. And it breeds insecurity. Oh my god, let's talk about acting class. I want my acting class where I need to be free, to be free of gossip and bad talk. And the thing is that people then if there's an environment of that, you become wary. You become wary of sharing personal information that really might be helpful for the work. And isn't that what we're trying to do? To become better actors. They may feel or someone may feel or I may feel that information that I shared while trying to find truth in a character might be misused or spread or might damage a relationship. So this idea that, gossip at the moment sometimes it feels so good, and let's talk about why it feels so good. It feels so good because it gets the focus off of ourselves. I have to tell you, I just had this feeling come over me, which was like, yuck. And that's the whole thing. Gossip is really yuck. Because what it is doing is It brings me back to this phrase, winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners. And that's why gossip is so harmful to us, but also to others. But I wanted to do a podcast about this because I feel this is not a subject that is brought up enough around in the acting community. And it needs to be because we are a creative community. The other thing is, and this is, it's very painful is that it really can damage people's reputations. There's two sides to every story, and maybe we don't know the whole story. And also, why is it our business? I find I, in the past, I've tried to make something that isn't my business, because I didn't want to focus on my life and take responsibility for what is going on with me. And damaging somebody else's reputation is so unfair. It's so unfair. The thing is that when we keep the focus on our own lives and our own creativity and on our acting training and on our business and on our core work, when we do that, man, we don't have freaking time to gossip or to focus on somebody else. And also, I was teaching this in my private class and actually in the weekly class as well, this thing about assumptions. We assume things about people. Or we assume that somebody means something when they don't. Watch assuming that somebody means the same thing that you do. We always want to get clarity. Are you saying, just so we're clear, nobody ever is upset about getting clarification. I once heard that assumptions are the mother fucker of all fuck ups, and that is such a great phrase. So I don't want to assume something about somebody else, just because somebody else had said it about them. And this is a biggie. This is a biggie. You know what gossip also does? It increases stress and anxiety. And I don't know about you guys. I don't know about you. I don't need any more stress. I don't need any more anxiety. And this is the thing, it also can make you feel very isolated. You think that you're connecting with somebody about how bad somebody else is or what somebody else did. But ultimately, it's going to lead to some kind of anxiety and possibly even some kind of depression, depending on which way of the spectrum you like to go. I ...
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    15 mins
  • Episode 301: Abandonment and the Actor

    Episode 301: Abandonment and the Actor
    Sep 11 2024
    Try out The Weekly Accountability Group Book a Free Consultation with Peter Today I'm going to talk about the abandoned actor and this is something that I have been really delving into on a deeper level in my private work, the private work I do with clients, but also in my weekly classes. And it's the idea of when we audition, or when we go to a set, or anything, maybe it could even be in your personal life when some kind of pressurized situation happens. We abandon ourselves. And I'm gonna start talking about I, just to make this easier to explain. I would abandon myself. Meaning, I would abdicate my feelings, my point of view, my talent to everybody else but myself, and that's what I mean by abandonment. One of my weekly classes is in my sister coaching company called Chiropractor for the Mind. And what I teach is emotional self sufficiency. And it's emotional self sufficiency, by teaching you emotional intelligence and teaching you to raise your intelligence emotionally. And this idea of emotional self sufficiency, let me just talk about that for one moment, is that when I'm just talking about me, when I am emotionally self sufficient, that means whatever comes my way in life, I am able to coach myself, I am able to help myself out of that emotional confusion. And emotional confusion is a problem for an actor because when you go in to do a scene, you want to be in the moment, emotionally on point. You want to be emotionally understood. You want to be able to access every single emotion in you in the moment. But if you are emotionally confused as a human being, oh boy, do we have a problem. So here's the thing, through core work, which is all that I talk about, that's how we become emotionally unconfused. And it is also where this ability to coach yourself is so important, and that is especially important when it comes to this idea of how do you abandon yourself. Now, a lot about abandonment has to do with feeling that you are a victim, thinking that you can't handle it, that you can't manage the situation you are in. But as all of my teachings have taught me and others, it is that we will never be given more than we can handle, but we will be given more than we can control. I'm just going to use the audition situation to keep this easy. Why when we walk into a meeting or an audition, why do we feel the need to abandon us? Why all of a sudden does it matter what the writer, director, producer, casting director thinks, but not what we think? And one of the things I talk about with my private clients and in the weekly classes are, this idea that if I go in and pretend I am the character of Sally. If I believe I'm Sally, if the only person that I am focusing on that needs to believe that she is Sally is Peter Pamela Rose, guess what automatically will happen? Automatically, everybody else in the room will. And I've only had to put the focus on making myself believe. And when I do that, I am not abandoning myself. I am not abandoning myself. Now let's just talk about anxiety and abandoning ourselves. I want to talk about a few points of When I start to feel that I am, like, abdicating my responsibility for myself to someone else, the number one thing I need to do when that happens is, I need to become aware. And I need to acknowledge my feelings. I talk about awareness, acceptance and action. the first step in core work is becoming aware because you don't know what you don't know, right? So becoming aware. And as I am aware and I accept that, “oh, look, I am doing this,” then I can, then that awareness happens, the acceptance that I am doing it happens, and then I want to move very quickly into action. The subject of awareness and acknowledging is really about recognizing and validating my emotions and also allowing myself to say, “okay, it's okay to feel it,” but this is the thing, if I try to say it's not happening, or just go away please, which is what I always like to say to my anxiety, it's not going to work. I need to be in the room, with my feelings and go, this is happening, okay, how am I going to help myself with this? How am I going to walk through it? And this is the thing. I don't want to judge it. I just want to acknowledge it. Because as soon as I start to judge it as being something bad that is happening, that's me trying to get rid of it. Not gonna work. It's not gonna work. I need to figure out how me and my, let's say, anxiety can function together so that I can say, Oh, look, there you are. Oh, okay. You don't want to eat. Okay. What do I know? I need to do need to make sure when was the last time I ate. Okay. It was an hour ago. Okay. Set my alarm for three hours from now. That's when I'm going to eat. In other words, I need to practice tough love with myself and support myself and love myself through the feeling of abandonment. I also recommend that when this happens, you immediately go to either talk to someone, Journal, talk ...
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    13 mins
  • Episode 300: What's at Stake AKA The Most Important Podcast You Will Ever Listen To

    Episode 300: What's at Stake AKA The Most Important Podcast You Will Ever Listen To
    Sep 4 2024

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    This podcast is called what's at stake. AKA the most important podcast you'll ever listen to.

    There's that phrase that says that life is not a dress rehearsal.

    And for those of you who are in your teens, 20s, 30s, and I'll be even honest, your 40s, I didn't get that then. I didn't.

    I didn't get that life is not a dress rehearsal, but this is it. I didn't get that till 51.

    It was the end of COVID, and I was sitting on the balcony in our then apartment, and it was a beautiful apartment, it overlooked Marina del Rey and the water. And I realized at that moment. That I was not living up to my full potential in my life, and I had just had a year off as we all did of being isolated, and I don't know maybe that's what it took, a year of slowdown, to have it really sink in that this is it.

    There's not going to be another 50 again.

    There's not going to be another 49, there's not going to be another 48, there's not going to be another 47 and go all the way down to zero.

    There isn't going to be that anymore. That this is it.

    And what do I want to do with it? And while I was saying, what do I want to do with it?

    What do I want to do with this gift?

    Because it seemed to me, at 51, I was not really showing up for what I really wanted. and what I really wanted the second act of my life to be.

    And it started out with, I looked I was, I remember the way I was sitting and I looked down at my waist and I went, there's a really healthy body underneath there.

    And I started with that, I started with the discipline of, and I'd always exercise because I had a back injury when I was at Guildhall, and I started with that, and I started with that discipline, and I took that discipline into everything, because how we do one thing is how we do all things.

    And I want to read you a quote that I think also influenced my decision.

    And you know where this homework assignment is going, right?

    It's a Jen Sincero quote, and she writes the badass books.

    Now, I'm going to be honest with you, I did change one little bit out of this quote for the purposes of this podcast, but I think you'll get why I did that.

    “Because this is what I realized. You're gonna have to push past your fears.

    Fail over and over again. And make a habit of doing things you're not so comfy doing.

    You're gonna have to let go of old limiting beliefs and cling to the decision to create the acting career that you desire like your life depends on it.

    Because guess what? Your life does depend on it.”

    And that's the truth.

    That's the truth, and that's the realization that I got at such a deeper level three years ago.

    You're going to have to push past your fears, and you're going to have to fail over and over again.

    And you're going to have to make a habit of doing things you're not so comfy doing.

    And I talk about with my in my weekly class with actors, if you're interested in that. It is a very affordable class, and we offer a class for free.

    I talk with them about how when you're exercising, when it starts to feel uncomfortable, that's when you're building strength.

    Not hurt. But when it starts to feel uncomfortable, that's when you're building strength.

    Guess what? That's what it's like in life too.

    It's doing the uncomfortable things.

    So if you are ready to do some uncomfortable things, if you're willing to push past your fears and fail over and over again because the other thing I have learned is that it is in my biggest mistakes, I have my biggest lessons and I have my biggest growth.

    Let me repeat that. It's when I have my biggest mistakes that I have my biggest growth.

    I have my biggest learning.

    And you're gonna have to make a habit of doing things that aren't so comfy, if you are willing to do that. And finally, really and become.

    I hope you will honor me and let me honor you. That's actually where I want to go. Let me honor you with a free consultation. Let's talk this out. You're not alone in this journey. You don't have to be alone.

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An amazing and inspirational podcast

Peter always has just the right words and motivation for the moment. She knows exactly what life as a professional performer entails, and is a great help in getting you through the roller coaster of triumphs and disappointments that come with it. I highly recommend this podcast.

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