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Growing up in a home where there is addiction or relationship trauma puts a child at great risk for long-term, post-traumatic stress effects that adversely compromise adult relationships. Best-selling author, psychologist, and psychodramatist Tian Dayton examines this trauma through an exploration of the way the brain and body process frightening or painful emotions and experiences in childhood. She shows how these traumas can become catalysts for unhealthy, self-medicating behaviors including drug and alcohol abuse, food issues, and sex, gambling, and shopping addictions.

©2012 Tian Dayton (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

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I loved it

I found this book not only helpful but enjoyable! Great content and great narration. Also, this book can help a wide range of people, not just ACOA's.

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Excellent Update for a Timeless Topic

What made the experience of listening to ACOA Trauma Syndrome the most enjoyable?

I do not have time to sit and read a book. I do have time to listen to one so this was the perfect version for me.

Who was your favorite character and why?

The whole book is a great read. You will find one section that provides updated content especially worthy of your attention. A contemporary review of existing medications and uses which may be pertinent for the reader (or you, or your client; wink wink). I was pleasantly surprised with these updates (Part II, Neurobiology of the ACOA Syndrome).

What does Elizabeth Hanley bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

The narration provides a great backdrop for the content; inflection, tone, pacing etc. all bring the words on the page to life. Nice narration.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

YES, and I did.

Any additional comments?

This topic has had thorough review over the years, but many texts are lacking in depth of content. I found this book offering detailed content superior to most of the 'pop-psych' books similar in the '90s (when the concept became more popularized). The historical texts I have found with great content for this topic ----- On the Family - John Bradshaw ----- It will Never Happen to Me.... Claudia Black ----- Struggle for Intimacy - Janet Geringer Woititz ----- Most others over the years I have found..... less robust. This book is well worth your time!

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Eye-opening! Insightful!

I needed help processing infrequent and unprovoked tantrums of anger (though I dared not call it that before). This book pleasantly helped me to process and recognize behaviors in myself and others. It has become a tool to help be more compassionate toward others. This is not limited to ACOAs, but to children of divorced homes, and other PTSD cases. Tian Dayton does a wonderful job of telling the story and bringing peaceful awareness of the people around you.

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A Better Understanding

If you had an alcoholic or dysfunctional parent, this book gives you a better understanding of why you feel and behave the way you do. This book is a wonderful opportunity to gain more awareness and compassion for yourself. Understanding the trauma syndrome and working to help yourself become more emotionally sober will not only bring huge benefits to your life but to the people around you, especially your children.

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Good information

Good information but the performance was monotone so it was hard to listen for long periods of time.

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Great Performance & Helpful Book

World-class narrator. Essential reading for any anyone who identifies as an ACoA. Highly recommended.

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my characteristics make sense now.

This book explained why I react to things the way that I do. For many years I thought my response was due to personality but now I see that I have fast more choice in my behavior than I believed I did.

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It's great if you can relate

Coming from a family in similar circumstances, this book was really enlightening. It felt as if someone finally was able to explain what had been inexplicable my whole life.

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it was interesting for a while then became quite repetitive. worth it to listen though.

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  • terry
  • 03-13-17

starting to heal

this book has answered many of my personal struggles in life . I would personally like to thank the makers of this book for the first steps and giving me the mental tools to start moving on from my childhood . Lots of love from central England

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  • J. M. Lulham
  • 06-30-18

Very good insights by the author unique to alcoholism

Very good insights into the damaging effects of problem drinking in families both past down directly from problem drinking within the current family and past down through behaviours and emotional abuse from a generation before .

Also draws a lot on the role of trauma and how that is acted out within relationships and families in destructive ways

Would recommend

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  • P. Howden
  • 01-02-17

This is a great book.

I enjoyed this book. Initially it was quite intellectual but it improved as the book progressed, in that the author used more emotion as the book moved on. I gave it four stars overall as I found the beginning of the book hard to grasp. Overall it's an informative book and I learned a lot from it. There is mention of the 12 steps but very little, which pleased me as I don't agree with the 12 steps.