Today’s episode is packed with your listener questions! From co-dependency, to comparison and divorce. In Part 1 I answer a listener question about what to do about a man she’s dating who is ‘hot and cold’, and generally inconsistent. I explain that first and foremost, in order to heal from co-dependency we must develop a keen eye for identifying relationship dynamics. I explain that the one he is exhibiting is the “bait and switch” and that she ultimately needs to create a standard for behaviour she tolerates and then move towards what she appreciates and away from what is distressing. I also recommend she revisit the Ladder of Trust. In Part 2 I describe a tool previously touched upon, called The Comparison Tool. I add more detail to it, describing how I avoid the natural but brutal act of comparison. I explain that inheriting people’s well fortune also means inheriting their woes, and that ultimately, it is safer to deal with the devil you know – ie. your own circumstances. In Part 3 a listener writes in to express her devastation that after her husband divorced her, he and his family seem happier than ever. I caution that social media is far from an accurate depiction of how  people are truly doing; pictures are a curated snapshot of what people want you to see. I also advise that dysfunctional dynamics follow people, so if her husband was not doing his self-development work with her, he won’t have suddenly become more enlightened with someone else.

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