For so many of us in psychologically and emotionally abusive relationships, using our voice wasn't safe. It was met with silence, dismissal, punishment, or chaos. We learned to stay quiet to survive… or to scream just to feel seen. In this episode of Wildly Her, we explore what it really means to find your voice after living in emotional invisibility.

We talk about why validation and being seen are basic human needs, how the lack of them shapes our identity, our relationships, and our nervous system, and why learning to speak up doesn’t happen overnight. This is an honest conversation about unlearning the lie that your needs don’t matter, and anchoring into the truth that your existence alone is proof that they do.

You’ll hear about the difference between speaking from survival versus speaking from grounded self-trust, and how important it is to use your voice without bulldozing others. If you’ve ever struggled to trust your voice, felt invisible in your relationships, or wondered why speaking your truth feels so terrifying, this episode is for you.

This is about reclaiming your voice with clarity, courage, and compassion… and finally learning what it means to be validated as you.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

Resources:

The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score

Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/

How to be Accountable by Joe Biel and Faith G. Harper (available on Amazon) - https://www.amazon.com/How-Accountable-Responsibility-Boundaries-Relationships/dp/1621062368/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=186408013837&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.4VrBeng2vHdB_Ckni_gNJvOfN_RIGiSFOsaDkD5MZep_GyKvqZVj-xT-Nep1TUaZbGILbMYaFLssrYBtFgRyv_qW_nJ3SG99vgYueNEUz1I.PKI2wUOl-Da-HmQqT9jOssUkKelnGq5SlQPQQvK_Uko&dib_tag=se&hvadid=779663702282&hvdev=c&hvexpln=0&hvlocphy=9027239&hvnetw=g&hvocijid=10033227653149758238--&hvqmt=e&hvrand=10033227653149758238&hvtargid=kwd-2399023181015&hydadcr=21931_13324213_8896&keywords=how+to+be+accountable+joe+biel&mcid=1b1d3209be94380e8817322753e279de&qid=1765211785&sr=8-1

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In this episode of Wildly Her, we dive into how rejection can shape our identity. Rejection doesn’t always show up as a single moment. It's on replay when we're under psychological and emotional abuse. Sometimes it becomes a quiet narrator in our minds and it begins to shape how we see ourselves, how we love, how we show up, and what we believe we deserve. In this episode, we walk through the subtle and sneaky ways rejection weaves itself into identity: the defensiveness, the people-pleasing, the perfectionism, the isolation, addiction, and even self-hatred.

I share how these patterns form, why they feel so powerful, and how they’re actually rooted in old survival wiring and not truth. And then we’ll shift into hope. Because the brain is not fixed. The identity shaped by rejection is not the one you’re bound to.

Together, we’ll explore the science and soul of healing. The neuroplasticity of the brain brings the hope of the rewiring process that helps you quiet the old narratives, build new neuropathways of worthiness, and reconnect with the parts of yourself that rejection tried to bury.

This is the episode that reminds you: You are not defined by who walked away, who abused you, or who failed to see your worth. Your mind can heal. Your identity can be rewritten. And you were never unworthy to begin with.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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In this episode, I shine a light on one of the most exhausting parts of psychological and emotional abuse: the way an abuser twists the narrative to make you look like the problem. From flipping blame to provoking emotion and then shaming you for having it, these traps are designed to confuse your mind, shake your confidence, and make you doubt your own reality.

I break down some of the most common manipulation tactics—how they’re set, how they feel, and why they work on even the strongest, most self-aware people. Then we shift into the healing side: practical, in-the-moment tools you can use to stay grounded when someone is actively distorting your truth. You’ll learn how to pause, re-center, recognize the tactic for what it is, and reclaim the clarity that is rightfully yours.

This conversation is meant to help you name the traps, understand the patterns, and step back into your own power. You are not the crazy one.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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In this episode of Wildly Her, I open up about the well-intentioned advice I received that actually caused me more confusion in my healing.

I felt pressure to be thankful for what I endured and to forgive in ways that dismissed my pain and furthered abusive behaviors. I talk about how the misconceptions behind these messages, especially for survivors of psychological and emotional abuse, can cause more pain and slow our healing.

Well-intended people may want to help us, but unless someone truly understands how psychological and emotional abuse affects victims, the advice may be unintentionally harmful to survivors.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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In this episode of Wildly Her, we’re talking about survival mode. The automatic behaviors we adopt to endure psychological and emotional abuse, and how those same behaviors can follow us long after we’re “safe.” I’m sharing pieces of my own story and the subtle survival patterns that became my “normal” during years of narcissistic abuse.

These coping habits once protected me but eventually they kept me small, silent, and disconnected from myself. Survival mode wasn’t a choice. It was a nervous system response. But healing is a choice. And it starts with awareness.

Together, we’ll explore what survival mode can look like in everyday life, the hidden ways trauma trains us to respond, please, perform, or disappear, and why we often don’t recognize survival behaviors while we’re living in them.

If you’ve ever looked at your reactions and wondered, “Why am I like this?” I hope this episode will feel like someone finally turning on the lights. You are not “broken.” You learned to survive. And now, you get to learn how to live.

This conversation is tender and honest, and I hope it helps you recognize your own patterns with compassion, not shame. Healing begins with noticing.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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In this episode of Wildly Her, we’re diving into the topic of narcissism. We discuss what it is, how it shows up, and some of the different types of narcissists. This conversation is for awareness and education only—not for diagnosing anyone. Any use of this podcast for diagnosis is strictly prohibited.

I’ll share some of the common characteristics associated with narcissistic behavior, along with traits seen in certain types, to help listeners recognize patterns that may have impacted their relationships or sense of self.

If you believe you’re in a relationship with someone who exhibits these traits, I encourage you to seek guidance from a licensed professional who can help you navigate what’s best for your specific situation.

This episode is about understanding, not labeling so we can learn, heal, and grow. Awareness helps us see where manipulation or control may have distorted our truth, and reminds us that no matter how much we’ve lost ourselves, it is absolutely possible to heal and be who we were always meant to be.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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In this Wildly Her interview, I sit down with author Mia Hanks, writer of Bride Made: A Memoir, to talk about escaping narcissistic abuse, the lasting impact of emotional manipulation, and the power of reclaiming your story. As a survivor, Mia shares the truths she uncovered about narcissistic relationships, and together we explore what it means to rise from the wreckage of abuse with courage and grace.

Through her story and reflection, you are invited into a journey of self-awareness, resilience, and the hope that comes from speaking truth out loud.

This Wildly Her episode is for every woman learning to reclaim her name, her worth, and her wildly authentic life. Mia’s story mirrors the experience of so many survivors. Her courage is contagious, and her light shines into even the darkest corners of the soul.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

Mia's book, Bride Made: A Memoir, can be found on Amazon at https://a.co/d/1d60INA

You can also follow her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/npd.andme/

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In this episode of Wildly Her, I open up about the pivotal moments that pushed me to begin my healing journey. It wasn’t a single breaking point. It was a series of things that broke me and that led me to seek help. My counselor was the first person who didn’t try to fix my relationships or mold me to fit into them. Instead, she helped me discover the things inside of myself that I had buried like my shame, rejection, and distorted beliefs that were never meant for me to hold.

This episode is about the process of unwiring the lies we’ve been told about who we are and learning to separate our true selves from the false identities created by control and emotional manipulation. Healing begins when we release what doesn’t belong to us and discover the truth of who we are. Apart from the lies, we find strength, worth, and wholeness.

If you’ve ever felt lost in the chaos of trying to please, fix, or prove your value, this episode is your reminder that there is a way to discover you.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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