• Adopt the Holy Pause to Stop Overreacting
    Jan 9 2026
    If one of your goals for the year is to stop overreacting, it is time to adopt the Holy Pause. Have you found yourself overreacting when all that was necessary was a simple, rational response? It happens to all of us because of automatic negative thoughts, also known as negativity bias. Something happens, or someone says something, and our brain determines it to be a threat; our nervous system is activated, and we overreact. This is why a pause is crucial if you want to stop overreacting. Why are you overreacting? The first step to stop overreacting is recognizing when it happens. Answer these questions: Negativity Bias (automatic negative thoughts) If any of the above are true, your brain is going to automatically think and feel something negative. We call this negativity bias. Your brain is more likely to think something negative than to think everything is fine and you are safe. In fact, 80% of your thoughts are negative. So, if you are someone who tends to overreact, realize you are not alone and there is a reason for it. However, it is not okay to accept it and not attempt to change and be better. Generational Patterns of Overreacting Perhaps you've experienced generational patterns of overreacting. Do you have family members whom you witnessed overreacting and from whom you learned this behavior? If anxiety is part of your genetic makeup or the genetic makeup of your parents or grandparents, chances are you experienced negative reactions much of your life. But as I've said before, anxiety is not an excuse for poor choices and overreacting. There is damage from overreacting. The power of a Holy Pause. If you want to change, the first step is to become aware of what is happening before overreacting. Awareness is crucial to using the Holy Pause. How is change possible? You can stop overreacting. Change is possible when you start renewing your mind. To understand where to begin to renew your mind, you must recognize that the mind is separate from your brain. Your brain is miraculously capable of changing, growing, and being retrained; we call this neuroplasticity. It is not stagnant or stuck. It is dynamic, and when you renew your mind, you gain power over your neuropathways. Scripture and renewal of the mind. In Romans 12:2, Paul tells us not to conform to the world, but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. When we renew our mind and release the negative, we can rebuild our emotional state by training the prefrontal cortex (the executive function center) to take charge rather than succumbing to the fight-or-flight response triggered by the amygdala (the fear center). Read the full shownotes and access all links. SSFI conference link Schedule a consultation discovery call today. Friend, if you are ready to take intentional action, get the root of what is causing you to overreact, discover wholeness and flourishing in your life and relationships, and heal from anxiety and past experiences, schedule a free consultation discovery call with me. Additional Free Resources Download additional resources to navigate anxiety and renew your mind through journaling and Scripture.
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  • Ep: 415 - Strategies To Discover Joy with Maria Hendershot
    Dec 30 2025
    You don't have to earn joy. In fact, you can rediscover joy in the chaos of day-to-day living. It is possible to rediscover joy. Finding joy can often feel like a distant dream. Yet, rediscovering joy isn't about achieving constant happiness; it's about embracing a fulfilling life, even amidst chaos. Joy isn't something we need to create, but something to embrace and redefine in our lives. Understanding Joy as Wholeness Joy goes beyond fleeting happiness—it's a deep-seated wholeness. It involves accepting ourselves, in all our emotions, and finding beauty in the everyday. By redefining joy as wholeness, we open up to the possibility of feeling joyful even during challenging times. Rediscover Joy - it becomes a practice. Rediscovering joy is a journey, not a destination. It requires practicing mindfulness and gratitude. Simple pauses throughout your day can cultivate joy. Whether it's the beauty of a sky or the warm embrace of a sunny day, these moments remind us of life's richness. Overcoming Joy's Thieves: Emotional Disconnection and Comparison Recognizing the Paradox of Joy Using Joy as Your Compass Website for Maria Hendershot Link for Maria's Book: She Rises Additional links and resources: Seven Weeks Coffee Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Read the full show notes and access all links.
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  • Ep. 414 - Parenting and Addiction: Truths every parent needs to know - Part II with Kim Castro
    Dec 23 2025
    Parenting and addiction are not two words you want in the same sentence, but unfortunately, addiction happens, and thus, parents need to know the facts about it. The Inherited Pattern of Addiction Addiction isn't just about individual choices; it often stems from generational patterns and dysfunction. Many people facing addiction today can trace their struggles back to influences and events in their family history. The interplay of epigenetics and unresolved emotional issues can shape how children are raised and how they handle challenges, impacting their potential for addiction. Recognizing Warning Signs in Children Parents might wonder what the early indicators of their child's potential addiction could be. It's essential to pay attention to changes in behavior, such as shifts in interests, friend groups, or academic performance. Unexplained isolation, carrying certain items everywhere, or noticeable changes in physical appearance can also signal underlying issues. Always trust your instincts; if you suspect something, there's often a valid reason behind it. The Role of Anxiety and Emotional Neglect Balancing Boundaries with Understanding Handling Older Children and Adult Addiction Relapse During the Holiday Season Holidays can amplify stressors, leading to a spike in relapses. Increased pressure, financial strain, and family dynamics can overwhelm someone in recovery. Families can support their loved ones by keeping celebrations manageable and straightforward, and avoiding substances that might trigger a relapse. Planning and open discussions about expectations can alleviate holiday-induced anxiety, helping maintain sobriety. Faith as a Pillar in Recovery About Kim Castro Kim Castro is committed to helping individuals, families, treatment programs, and addiction counselors develop and grow. She utilizes cutting-edge treatment modalities to deliver a gold standard of clinical care. For over a decade, Kim was the Executive Director of Recovery Outfitters, Inc. Kim is a certified master's-level counselor and certified clinical supervisor who instructs counselors seeking or maintaining credentials. She earned a master's degree in Conflict Management and a bachelor's degree in psychology from Kennesaw State University. Kim is recognized as a Subject Matter Expert in the field of addiction, even helping to revise the international master's-level certification for addiction counseling. In addition, she integrates both Faith-based and Clinical approaches to addiction treatment. Website for Kim Castro Read the full show notes and access all links. Additional Resources Download Kim's Guide on Helping vs. Enabling Book Recommendation: Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
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  • Ep. 413 Addiction and Parenting: Truths Every Parent Needs - Part 1 with Kim Castro
    Dec 16 2025
    Addiction and parenting aren't words you want in the same sentence, but many parents have to deal with it. Here's what you need to know. Addiction and parenting are complex topics that often intersect in unexpected ways. Many parents may believe that addiction is something distant, affecting others but not their children. However, addiction does not discriminate. It can affect anyone, regardless of family background. Understanding the intricacies of addiction's impact on parenting and children is crucial for prevention and management. The Reality of Addiction Addiction is not solely the consequence of dysfunctional families. Many children raised in loving, supportive environments may still experience addiction due to various factors, including genetics and peer influence. Awareness and education about addiction are essential. It's not just about alcohol; substances like marijuana and prescription drugs pose significant risks today. Our society often underestimates the dangers associated with these substances, continuing to spread misconceptions about their safety. The Importance of Connection and Authenticity Human beings crave connection and authenticity. When these needs are unmet, individuals—especially youth—are more susceptible to addiction. The lack of connection can lead to the use of substances as a means of escape. A vital aspect of prevention in parenting and addiction is creating environments where children feel truly connected, understood, and valued. Addressing Misconceptions and Building Resilience Healing Past Trauma for Better Parenting Making Informed Decisions on Addiction Treatment Moving Forward with Knowledge and Compassion Read the full show notes and access all links. Website for Kim Castro Download Kim's Guide on Helping vs. Enabling Book references: The Addiction Inoculation by Jessica Lahey It Didn't Start with You by Mark Wolynn Schedule a discovery call with Robyn to start your journey to overcome anxiety and heal, transform, and grow.
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  • Ep. 412 Why Are You People Pleasing?
    Dec 9 2025
    People-pleasing is an indication of anxiety and nervous system dysregulation. So why are you people-pleasing? People pleasers frequently have experienced emotional chaos, abuse, emotional neglect, anxiety, or trauma that has left them feeling unsafe. The need to feel safe and to keep the peace drives people-pleasing. What is people pleasing? According to Psychology Today, people-pleasing is a need for approval and validation from others. People pleasers habitually focus more on helping others than caring for their own needs. In addition, people pleasers fear rejection and prioritize others' happiness over their own. Why are you people-pleasing? The need to people-please is multifaceted but includes the following: Avoid conflict We often see people-pleasing in those who have experienced trauma, anxiety, and emotional dysfunction in the family unit. If parents have used physical punishment, yelled and screamed, and the child has felt unsafe, they will strive to please others to keep peace in their environment. People-pleasing then becomes a pattern in other areas as well and carries forward into adulthood, relationships, and career. Emotional neglect When a child experiences emotional neglect, intentional or unintentional, they may strive to gain approval as a means of emotional connection. Again, these people-pleasing tendencies will carry over into adulthood in most, if not all, aspects of their lives. Anxiety If a person has anxiety, they are living in an abnormal state of fear. They may feel they are unable to cope, so they please others to avoid disrupting their ecosystem. Meaning, if they please others, they won't have to face challenges they fear they cannot handle. In addition, when someone is anxious and their nervous system is not regulated, they may experience a fawning response. Fawning is people-pleasing. Therefore, we can associate a dysregulated nervous system with the need to please others. Guilt and shame If a child grows up in a dysfunctional home or has anxiety, they may develop a sense of guilt and shame that their life has not been similar to or as good as that of others around them. In addition, they may feel that the dysfunction, yelling, screaming, fighting, abuse, or trauma may have been their fault. So many things can lead to someone feeling guilt and shame, but a sense of abnormalcy can exacerbate this. People-pleasing becomes a coping mechanism for emotional instability. What does it look like to be a people-pleaser? Consequences of pleasing others and sacrificing your own happiness. How to overcome being a people-pleaser. Things you can focus on to change from a people-pleasing mindset. It's not easy, but it's doable. Read the full show notes and access all links. https://therobyngraham.com/why-are-you-people-pleasing/
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  • Ep. 411 - Lean On God To Find Strength Through Hope with Ashley Morgan Jackson
    Dec 2 2025
    Strength can be found through hope in the Lord. Life is full of challenges, and we often seek a source of strength to carry us through. Many have found that leaning on God and embracing hope can provide the resilience needed to face life's ups and downs. This concept of "strength through hope" is not just a comforting thought; it's a transformative approach to navigating struggles. Seen in Your Struggles When facing struggles, it is crucial to recognize that you're not alone. God always sees you and knows your challenges. Embracing strength through hope means acknowledging that you are seen and that the Lord has a divine plan to guide you. By letting go of the need to control everything and trusting in God, you open yourself to healing and growth. Embrace Your Vulnerability Vulnerability can be daunting, especially when we are expected to have it all together. Yet, it is in these moments of openness that we truly find our strength through hope. Being vulnerable allows us to connect with our inner selves and with others, creating a communal bond. It reminds us that even when we feel weak, the Holy Spirit is ready to provide strength and bolster us. Strength through hope, not control Living with Purpose and Surrender Guarding Your Heart and Mind Read the full show notes and access all links. About Ashley Morgan Jackson Ashley Morgan Jackson is an author, speaker, and encourager for women who want to heal, grow, and get honest with God. Wife. Mom. She is a big prayer prayer-er and is here to talk about the stuff that might get in our business but leaves us changed. Website for Ashley Morgan Jackson Additional resources: You, Me, and Anxiety Teen Edition You, Me, and Anxiety Parent Edition Download the eBook: 15 Journaling Prompts and Scripture Verses Are you ready to overcome anxiety and begin your deep healing journey? Schedule a discovery call with Robyn today!
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  • Episode 410: Being Unstoppable Through Faith with Jeanette Peterson
    Nov 28 2025
    Faith is the key to being unstoppable, no matter what life challenges you face. Many struggle with perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the need for control. These challenges often arise from emotional neglect or personal trauma. They create a cycle that feels impossible to break. Understanding that you are not alone in this struggle is crucial. Knowing that you can rely on your faith as a source of strength can be transformative. Finding Freedom in Faith When life feels overwhelming, faith offers liberation. It's about embracing Jesus and letting the Holy Spirit guide you. This reliance can make you truly unstoppable. Faith empowers and provides peace in life's chaos. It reminds you of your intrinsic worth and identity beyond societal pressures. Breaking Free from Fear Fear often binds us, leading to anxiety and self-doubt. Faith teaches us that we weren't created with fear but with power and love. As you shift your focus from fear to trusting God's plan, your perception of life's burdens changes. Leaning into your faith helps ground emotions and find stability. The Healing Journey: A Path to Being Unstoppable Healing is neither linear nor simple; it involves peeling back layers of pain. This journey, though painful, eventually leads to freedom. God requires us to engage actively, taking courageous steps toward healing. The process demands resilience, but on the other side, you emerge stronger and unstoppable. Community and Support: Essential for Transformation Often, our struggles obscure our view of our worth and potential. Alongside faith, community plays a vital role. Sharing stories of transformation and faith can offer encouragement. They show that renewal and freedom are possible. Being part of a supportive community strengthens resolve and provides a sense of belonging. Letting Go to Discover Your True Self Releasing past burdens allows self-discovery. As God works in your life, you realize you are enough as you are. Embrace your uniqueness with confidence. Aligning with God's purpose enables you to live authentically and be unstoppable. Faith transforms lives by replacing insecurity with purpose. Embracing faith leads you to liberation, making you truly unstoppable in facing life's challenges. About Jeanette Peterson Jeanette Peterson is a Kingdom Impact Activator, speaker, and author who equips women to walk boldly in their God-given assignments. She is the founder of All the King's Women, a global movement for high-capacity Christian female leaders called to build beyond business into movement-level assignments. She is the host of the Unapologetically Unstoppable podcast and a trusted voice for high-level Kingdom women who are assigned to influence industries, culture, and nations. Jeanette equips women to rise in clarity, obedience, and divine alignment so they can walk confidently in the mandate God has placed on their lives. Through prophetic identity activation, apostolic strategy, and Spirit-led discernment, she helps women hear God clearly, break confusion, and step boldly into leadership with authority and fire. Website for Jeanette Peterson Buy Jeanette's book: Unapologetically Unstoppable Start your healing journey and overcome anxiety: Schedule a call with Robyn today.
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  • Episode 409: Grieving Through The Holidays: Strategies To Navigate Grief with Margo Fordonski
    Nov 25 2025
    Anyone who has experienced loss needs strategies to navigate grief throughout the holiday season, as grieving through the holidays can steal the joy of the season. Grieving through the holidays can be one of the most challenging experiences. Around this time, the sparkle and warmth of the season can amplify feelings of loss and sadness. It's an everyday reality that many face, but there are strategies to navigate grief that can help ease this burden. This guide offers insight into transforming the daunting holiday season into a time of remembrance and healing. The Tender Trigger: Grieving Through The Holidays The holiday season is known to be tender for those grieving. Despite being termed the "most wonderful time of the year," the holidays can be a turbulent emotional landscape. Expectations from media, society, and even oneself can seem overwhelming. Grieving individuals don't just carry the weight of the past year's traditions but also the absence of loved ones. This reality underscores the importance of being gentle with oneself and finding personal pathways through the holiday season. Intentional Planning: Strategies To Navigate Grief One of the best strategies to navigate grief is intentional planning. Forethought and intention can transform a potentially burdensome time into a peaceful period. Start by reflecting on what you want from the holiday season. It may mean altering or simplifying traditions and setting boundaries around social activities. The goal is to create an environment where moments of peace and joy feel possible without undermining your emotional needs. Planning ahead allows for proactive removal of potential stressors, paving the way for a more serene season. Self-Care: A Fundamental Strategy About Margo Fordonski Margo Fordonski is on a mission to help other grieving moms learn to fully grieve. Through compassionate coaching and personalized strategies, she guides grieving moms in finding peace, resilience, and renewed hope. Margo believes that healing involves honoring your child's memory and finding ways to keep them present in your life as you move forward. Website for Margo Fordonski Book: She Rises Download the Free eBook - A Holiday Grief Support Guide Read the full show notes and access all links. Start your journey to overcome anxiety today! Schedule a discover call with Robyn. Download 15 Journaling Prompts and Scripture Verses.
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