Friendship is strange isn’t it? You make this unspoken agreement with another person to do what together? You aren’t dating. You aren’t co-workers. You aren’t “committed” like a life partner. What exactly are we agreeing to when we become friends? And how do you know if you are getting out of the lines of the agreement? Someone tells you. And if you are lucky, they are respectful and responsible about sharing their experience of your waning commitment. Today I share with you a recent exchange between myself and a friend that modeled for me the RIGHT way to do friendship. Welcome to a vulnerable share about how I was a bad friend and got called out on it. What makes this episode worth listening to:

1. Simple questions to help you do a Relationship Audit.
2. 3 respectful ways to share hurt feelings with a friend
3. How doing consistent inner work busts up long standing shame.

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One of my clients inspired this episode after a few big ah-ha moments in a session.

They finally let their irritation and fatigue guide them to a balanced way of being naturally kind and generous.

And now you get the benefit of their hard work!

What makes this episode worth listening to:

1. Discover how you’re confusing people by “just being nice.”
2. Get honest about who you are into and who doesn’t make the cut.
3. How to use what you value as a guide to decide how you spend your time and energy.

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Today I am talking about the main thing that keeps people pleasers and perfectionists from setting boundaries – fear! I am going to walk you through a mindfulness practice to help you feel more relaxed as you can build the courage to confidently set boundaries and say “no” when you need to.

Join me in this episode to learn how you can stop letting fear get in the way of not only boundary setting, but pretty much anything that stops you in your tracks.

In this episode:

• Debunking a common myth about boundaries
• How awareness puts you in a position of power
• Mindfulness exercise that desensitizes you to discomfort

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One of my pet peeves started this episode topic off – how social media posts about “boundary setting” are full of shit. Thankfully I have resolved my irritation, and I am sharing how you can as well.

I’d like to invite you to bring your OUTSIDE voice back into the rotation. Well, actually it’s the INSIDE voice that I am calling OUT.

This is all the things you practice saying in the shower or in the car and you never can imagine saying them IRL out loud.

I’ve got some good ideas about how you can make the IRL thing actually happen. What makes this episode worth listening to:

1. I ask you some super thought-provoking questions right at the beginning
2. Why you’ve said this more than you’d like to admit - “I’d never say that to their face!”
3. How to start moving the big boulder of FEAR that keeps you silent and resentful.

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Decisions scramble people pleasers. We want to make sure everyone is happy with what we choose, but that will never happen. Hard to hear, but it’s the truth.

Harder to hear is the reality that we, as pleasers, do not often consider OURSELVES when it comes to making decisions. We get lost in what other people want or what others are doing. No rocking the boat right? In this episode I share how I got totally lost and made a stupid decision that I still live with today. Not an earth shattering one, but one that got my attention and basically that is the main point of this episode – attention and awareness. Enjoy listening to me completely forget my mindfulness practice and get caught up in belonging with the group.

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• A simple 4 word mantra to guide you in decision making.
• The super power of getting comfortable with discomfort.

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Fear of conflict is on every pleaser and perfectionist’s list of “I-wish-this-wasn’t-such-a-big-deal-for-me”. It’s time to break this mountain of fear down! Because it is O L D! I’ll share a few reasons this fear has taken over, where it came from and then give you skills to move through fear (really any kind of fear) so you can feel more solid, more capable and more adult like when you need to have a conversation.

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Cut to the chase episode using mindfulness to work with negative stories that cause us to waste time and energy replaying past events. This is a common sticking point for people pleasers - over analyzing past conversations and worrying x10 that we upset someone or we were selfish and dominated the conversation.

Listen to this short episode to find out how to work with this runaway train of worry thoughts and ease up on yourself. Peace out Pleasers!

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It’s so easy to get caught in the decision making dilemma of – do I choose what is best for the other person or do I choose what is best for me? People pleasers live in an inner tug of war with their pleasing side wanting to keep the peace and their fledgling boundaries side wanting to protect their time and energy.

How do we get you off of this back and forth decision making conundrum?

Today I share how you can stop the fighting and start listening to these different parts of your personality.

Things to watch out for in this episode:

• How to change your inner critical voice to a guiding consultant voice.
• How to shift your feelings of shame and fear around anger to being more appreciative of its message.

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