Ever get that feeling that the universe is nudging you to make a change? In this episode, we dive into those pivotal moments when everything points to "yes," and it's time to take the leap. Inspired by the journey from pleasing and perfectionism to purposeful action, I'm sharing a big shift I'm making—one that involves focusing more on helping business owners navigate their inner world to build confidence and overcome self-doubt. Whether you’re a business owner or not, these insights apply across life’s landscape. It's all about tuning in, walking your talk, and creating the life you want.

Key Takeaways:

1. The "Click" Moment – That feeling when you hear something, and it finally lands. Sometimes, it's the universe telling you it's time for change, and today, we're talking about what it looks like to truly embrace that.

2. Personal Growth in Business – Going into 2025, I'm shifting focus toward business owners and entrepreneurs who struggle with perfectionism, people-pleasing, and imposter syndrome. While this focus might be business-oriented, the themes—self-awareness, building inner confidence, and working with your nervous system—are universally relatable.

3. Lessons from the Journey – Through past episodes, we’ve explored everything from confidence and boundaries to tuning into your body and letting go of validation. I’m walking my talk, and this year has been about stepping into change, learning what’s working, and letting go of what isn’t.

4. Working with the "8 C's" of Internal Family Systems (IFS) – Revisiting my series on calm, clarity, and confidence, I'll show how these foundational tools help my clients—especially business owners—navigate self-doubt, make clear decisions, and lead from a place of inner calm.

5. The Power of Inner Work in Outer Success – In life and business, unchecked emotions impact decision-making and self-confidence. When you become aware of what’s happening inside, you’re empowered to guide yourself through fear and self-doubt, making you feel unstoppable.

What’s Next: I’ll be taking November and December off for a creative reset, returning in January with fresh insights focused on helping entrepreneurs align their inner work with outer success. Not a business owner? Keep listening—the principles still apply to anyone wanting to live a more intentional, satisfying life.

Quotes Worth Noting:

• "What’s the point of inner work if you don’t give it legs? It’s time to breathe life into the life you want."
• "When you calm your nervous system, clarity follows, and that clarity is where confidence begins."

Resources Mentioned:

• Already Free by Bruce Tift – On navigating anxiety and how it shows up across all areas of life.
• The 8 C’s of Internal Family Systems – Check out past episodes on the 8 C’s to deepen your understanding of calm, clarity, and confidence.

Connect and Share: If you know someone who might benefit from these insights, please share this episode with them. And if you’re here for the journey, make sure you’re subscribed and ready for January’s episodes, packed with fresh insights and practical guidance.

Stay Connected: Follow the podcast to stay in the loop on all upcoming episodes! And in the meantime, enjoy the holidays—see y’all in January!

Episode Summary:

We have a guest today - Liz Wilcox. Survivor contestant, Online Business Entrepreneur and genuinely funny human. The reason I’m super excited about this conversation is that Liz is one of those rare, real people who isn’t afraid to show up as her true self. And being in the online business building world, that is a breath of fresh air - which is why I call her the Fresh Princess of Authenticity - whoo hooo the 90s rule! She lets the people in her world see her exactly as she is, which is something so many of us – especially those of us who lean toward people-pleasing and perfectionism – long to do.

Showing up authentically and building fulfilling connections from that space? That’s the dream, right? Enjoy this behind-the-scenes convo with Liz as we learn how early on she embraced being who she is and the ripple effect that has had on her life.

Key Takeaways:

• Your Body is wise: Liz was sick as a kid, and she shares how holding on to emotions was causing some of her physical symptoms. We talk about how important the body is as a guide to overall health.
• Slowing down is necessary: Liz shares how she is learning to rest and step back as a way of moving forward sustainably.
• Three phases of successful business building: Liz shares what she has learned over the course of building her online business – the phases and stages that have allowed her to focus and stay resourced.

Episode Quote:

"I’ve just gotta be myself.”

Additional Resources:

Want more tools to help calm your nervous system? Grab my free guide with over 20 exercises that’ll help bring your anxiety from a 10 to a 4.

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If you've ever felt like confidence is just out of reach no matter how many self-help books you read or how often you try to "fake it 'til you make it," you're not alone. This episode dives deep into why building real, rooted confidence isn't about just gritting your teeth and forcing yourself through discomfort. Instead, it’s about understanding your body’s natural response to fear and learning how to work with it—not against it.

Key Takeaways:

• The Comfort Zone Cycle: We all love our comfort zones, but they’re also what keeps us from growing. When we avoid discomfort, we miss out on building true confidence.
• Why Pushing Through Isn’t the Answer: Sure, you can strong-arm your way through uncomfortable situations, but that often leads to burnout. Real confidence doesn’t come from "winning" over fear; it comes from learning to coexist with discomfort.
• The Role of the Nervous System: You can’t will yourself to feel confident. Instead, calm your nervous system and build from there. I’ll explain why getting out of fight-or-flight (or fawn) mode is the essential first step to lasting change.
• Using Calm to Find Clarity: Calming down gives you the space to see things clearly. It’s like turning on a flashlight in a dark room—suddenly, you see options you didn’t notice before.
• How Your Past Shapes Your Present Reactions: Our brains are wired to protect us, even from perceived threats. We’ll explore how old experiences have created patterns that affect you now.

Practical Tips:

1. Calm First:Before trying to build confidence, focus on calming your nervous system. I’ll share a few techniques for getting out of that reactive state so you can feel more grounded.
2. Break the Domino Effect:When you recognize the triggers from your past, you can stop the automatic reactions they create. This is key to feeling in control and confident in new situations.
3. Learn to Sit with Discomfort:Discomfort is part of the deal. But with a calm body and mind, you can approach uncomfortable feelings without immediately running from them.

Episode Quote:

"Confidence isn’t about fighting fear; it’s about finding calm in the face of it."

Additional Resources:

Want more tools to help calm your nervous system? Grab my free guide with over 20 exercises that’ll help bring your anxiety from a 10 to a 4. Check the link and get ready to tackle discomfort in a whole new way.

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