What is people-pleasing?

and why do so many of us not realise we’re doing it?

In this episode I talk about what people-pleasing really looks like - from the outside and the inside. Because I never used to call it people-pleasing either. I just thought I was being “nice,” “easy,” “helpful.” But behind that laid-back, dependable exterior? I was anxious, overthinking, and quietly abandoning myself every single day.

I cover:

• Why people-pleasing isn’t the same as being kind
• The subtle, everyday ways it people-pleasing in plain sight
• The internalised rules that keep us stuck in people-pleasing and guilt.
• Where people-pleasing comes from
• And why it can be so hard to stop people-pleasing, even when we want to change

This is the episode I probably should’ve made sooner. Whether you’re just beginning to notice your patterns, or deep in the work of unlearning them, I hope this offers the clarity, compassion, and language you’ve been looking for.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

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Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

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In this episode, I’m covering a question I've been asked on Instagram a few times now: “How do I know if my child is a people-pleaser and what can I do to help?”

To do this episode justice, I’ve invited the brilliant Becky—an Anxiety Coach for Teenagers and fellow recovering people-pleaser—to join me in exploring this important topic. Becky talks about the work she does, what people-pleasing can look like in teens, and the early warning signs for you to look out for.

Becky shares practical, compassionate strategies for helping teens break free from self-sacrifice and begin to build confidence, self-trust, and important emotional boundaries. Whether you're a parent, therapist, or educator, this episode offers hope, clarity, and tools to support the young people in your life.

For more info about Becky and to access her FREE resources head to her website https://www.thebeckyfunk.com/ and check out her Instagram

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

Have you ever read something online that didn't sit right with you?

Maybe you noticed your heart race and the real pull to say something - but after re-reading your response so many times, worrying it doesn't sound 'right' ... it just felt easier not to post it, to stay silent.

Or maybe it didn't even cross your mind to respond - it didn't feel like speaking up was an option you were allowed to choose.

In this episode, I share a real-life moment where I didn't agree with someone and I did speak up —and how that reflects a significant shift from people-pleasing, overthinking, and fear of being seen as “too much.”

In this episode I explore:

• The inner tug-of-war between keeping the peace and speaking your truth
• Why self-expression can feel so risky—especially for women in business and people-pleasers
• How therapy and nervous system safety helped me find my voice and how you can too.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between staying quiet or speaking up, this one's for you.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

There are so many layers to people-pleasing and when you become a Mum it can bring up so much for you! In this episode I've got Erin joining me - a somatic therapist from Baltimore who also works with people-pleasers, whilst we've followed each other on Instagram for a while, this is the first time we have 'met' and chatted.

This honest conversation covers different ways people-pleasing shows up in postpartum - drawing from our lived experience and professional experience.

We chat about; how it can reactivate fawning and over-functioning or intensify existing people-pleasing tendencies, what becoming a Mum can bring up for us about our own childhood, how being a mum can help heal our inner child, the impact of the pressure to be the perfect mother, why making mistakes and ruptures in relationships can be a good thing and lots more.

I hope you find it helpful. To find out more about Erin head to her website and check out her Instagram for fun, relatable and informative content

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

In this episode, I talk you through how to recognise when imposter syndrome is showing up in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.

I highlight the common signs that you’re caught in the imposter spiral (like over-preparing, avoidance, or constantly doubting yourself), and I guide you through how to challenge the thoughts that tell you you're a fraud or not good enough — without forcing false positivity.

You’ll also learn how to notice the protective behaviours that are keeping the cycle going, and how to start making small, manageable shifts that help you show up from a place of self-trust instead of fear.

If you’re a woman in business who struggles with showing up on camera without the cringe - you can download your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - to help you show up on video with confidence

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

Feeling out of your depth doesn’t mean you are. I'm talking about that all-too-familiar feeling of being out of your depth - even when you know logically you’re experienced and credible.

If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your abilities when stepping into something less familiar - be it launching a programme, showing up online, or taking a brave next step in your business - this one’s for you.

I cover what these feelings are signs of - and usually it's not that you're failing or incapable.

I'll explore why growth can feel like danger, even though you know rationally you're safe to try new things and put yourself out there.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

If you often find yourself saying 'yes' when you want to say no - despite 'knowing' it's ok to say no and to set healthy boundaries, then this episode will help you understand why it feels so difficult. Because despite the advice out there to 'just let them' 'let them be upset with you.. ' 'just say no' it's not as simple as that is it!? If it was we'd all be honouring our needs without feeling guilty and anxious about it!

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

This episode is for the girl you used to be - the one who learned to be agreeable, quiet, and easy so she could stay accepted and feel safe. The one who was called “shy” but was actually scanning the room. The one who hid her bigness to avoid being “too much.”
If you became what others needed, but lost touch with who you really are, this is your invitation to gently unmask. You were never too much or not enough. You were adapting. And now, you get to return to the version of you that was never broken - just hidden.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/