Why January and New Year’s Resolutions Make You Feel Like You’re Failing

January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best.

In this trauma-informed episode, we explore why January so often triggers self-criticism, shame, and the sense that you’re “not consistent enough” or “not disciplined enough” - and why this isn’t a personal failing.

This isn’t a motivation or willpower problem. More often than not, it's a capacity issue.

We talk about how cultural ideas around productivity and self-improvement ignore emotional labour, people-pleasing, burnout, and the invisible ways many women are already holding everything together.

In this episode, we explore:

• why the 'New Year, New You' approach and the month of January amplifies shame and self-blame
• how people-pleasing and over-giving drain capacity
• things to consider when you deem yourself 'not consistent enough'
• the difference between healthy consistency and survival-based rigidity
• why pushing harder doesn’t create safety or change
• questions to ask yourself when considering what you want to change
• and how to reconnect with yourself without pressure or reinvention

This episode is an invitation to move away from “What’s wrong with me?”
And towards a gentler, more honest question: What am I already carrying, who for - and at what cost?

If January leaves you feeling behind, frozen, not good enough or quietly exhausted, this episode is for you.

This episode is part of She Is Here™ - a podcast for women who worry that they're too much and yet not enough. Charlotte Bailey a trauma-informed psychotherapist explores people-pleasing, trauma, conditioning, nervous-system safety, and combines, clinical expertise with relatable lived experience and spoken word poetry to help you remember and reconnect with who you were before you were taught to be less. So you can begin to feel safe being seen - just as you are.

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