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  • #243 | How Your Attachment Style Affects Addictive Behaviors
    Jul 28 2025

    Have you ever wondered why some people turn to addictions while others don't? In this eye-opening episode, I dive deep into the fascinating connection between our attachment styles and addictive behaviors. Drawing from my years of experience as a therapist, I explain how the way we were nurtured as children impacts our emotional regulation and potentially our relationship with addictive substances and behaviors.

    In this episode, you'll discover:

    - The crucial link between your early childhood experiences and how you cope with stress and emotions as an adult

    - Why people with different attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant) tend to gravitate toward specific types of addictions

    - Real-world solutions and alternatives to help break free from addictive patterns, illustrated through an inspiring client success story

    Whether you're struggling with addiction yourself or trying to understand a loved one's challenges, this episode offers valuable insights into the emotional roots of addictive behaviors. I'll share practical strategies for developing healthier coping mechanisms and building more secure relationships.

    Join me as we explore this important topic and learn how understanding our attachment styles can be the key to breaking free from addictive patterns.

    Together, we'll make the world a safer place for love and connection.

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    Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

    Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

    You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

    • Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
    • 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
    • Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife

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    16 m
  • #242 | The Joy of Kissing: Rekindling Passion Through Life's Most Intimate Act
    Jul 21 2025

    Have you noticed that kissing has taken a backseat in your relationship?

    As a relationship expert who's helped countless couples rekindle their passion, I've discovered that many couples who once shared passionate kisses now rarely lock lips – some haven't kissed in months or even years. In this episode, I dive deep into the science and emotion behind kissing, sharing why this intimate act is crucial for maintaining a vibrant, connected relationship.

    What you'll discover in this episode:

    - The fascinating brain chemistry behind kissing and how it naturally boosts feel-good hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and norepinephrine – the same chemicals that made you fall in love

    - Why kissing is more than just foreplay, and how it can actually heal relationship tensions and rebuild intimacy (even when you're not in the mood)

    - Practical tips for bringing back the art of passionate kissing, including communication strategies and techniques to make your kisses more meaningful and satisfying

    - The surprising reason why you shouldn't wait for the "perfect moment" to kiss your partner, and how consistent kissing can transform your relationship

    Whether you're looking to reignite the spark in your relationship or deepen your current connection, this episode offers valuable insights into the power of kissing. As someone who fell in love with my wife after our first kiss (she's still a phenomenal kisser!), I understand firsthand how transformative a simple kiss can be.

    Join me as we explore this intimate topic and learn how to make kissing a priority in your relationship again.

    Remember, we're making the world safe for love, one kiss at a time.

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    Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

    Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

    You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

    • Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
    • 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
    • Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife

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    7 m
  • #241 | Attachment Styles & Infidelity: What You Need to Know
    Jul 14 2025

    In this episode, Infidelity expert Todd Creager explores the crucial connection between attachment styles and infidelity - a topic he's helped thousands of couples navigate throughout my career. Drawing from his extensive experience as a relationship expert, Todd helps you understand how your early attachment patterns might be influencing your current relationship dynamics and potentially contributing to infidelity.

    In this episode, you'll discover:

    • The three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how they directly impact your vulnerability to both committing and experiencing infidelity

    • Why people with avoidant attachment styles are more likely to engage in infidelity, and how it relates to their difficulty in emotional intimacy

    • How understanding your attachment style can be the key to preventing infidelity and building a more secure, fulfilling relationship

    • The surprising opportunity that lies within the crisis of infidelity - a chance to build an even stronger, more secure bond with your partner

    Whether you're healing from infidelity, worried about your relationship's vulnerability, or simply want to build a stronger connection with your partner, this episode offers valuable insights into creating what I call an "earned secure relationship." Through my warm, practical approach, I'll show you how it's possible to shift your attachment style and create the deep, lasting love you deserve.

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    Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

    Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

    Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

    You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

    • Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
    • 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
    • Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife

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    13 m
  • #240 | Attachment Styles: How They Affect Your Love Life
    Jul 7 2025

    In today's episode, I'm discussingsomething I see constantly in my therapy practice - attachment styles and how they profoundly impact our intimate relationships. As this topic becomes increasingly mainstream, I want to help you understand what your attachment style means for your relationships and, most importantly, how you can develop healthier patterns.

    In this episode, you'll discover:

    • The four main attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) and how they develop from our earliest relationships
    • Real-world examples of how attachment styles show up in adult relationships, from the partner who panics when their spouse is 10 minutes late to the one who never shares their feelings
    • How to develop an "earned secure attachment" - the gold standard for healthy relationships, regardless of your starting point
    • The encouraging truth about neuroplasticity and how your attachment style can change with awareness and the right support

    Whether you're struggling to understand why your relationships follow certain patterns or you're simply curious about improving your connection with your partner, this episode offers practical insights and hope for positive change. As someone who's helped countless couples navigate these waters, I can tell you that understanding attachment styles is often the first step toward profound relationship transformation.

    Join me for this important conversation about making your relationships safer, stronger, and more fulfilling. Remember, we're all in this together, and there's always hope for positive change.

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    Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

    Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

    Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

    You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

    • Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
    • 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
    • Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife

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    13 m
  • #239 | The Hidden Cost of Not Fixing Your Communication Patterns
    Jun 23 2025

    In this episode Therapist and relationship expert Todd Creager is diving deep into something he's observed over decades of working with couples - the devastating hidden costs of not addressing broken communication patterns in your relationship.

    Having worked with countless couples, he's seen how unresolved communication issues can slowly erode what was once a sacred connection, leading couples to simply "settle" for a shell of what their relationship could be.

    In this episode, you'll discover:

    • Why those "little arguments" are actually symptoms of deeper disconnection, and how to identify what's really causing conflict in your relationship

    • The surprising ways poor communication patterns can impact your physical health, from cardiovascular issues to a weakened immune system

    • How to recognize when you're settling for less in your relationship and what to do before reaching the point of no return

    • The truth about why most of us struggle with healthy communication (hint: it's not your fault) and how to break free from protective patterns that keep us stuck

    Here's the reality - most of us never had good role models for healthy communication.

    But that doesn't mean we have to accept a disconnected relationship. Whether you're constantly bickering or avoiding difficult conversations altogether, this episode will help you understand why you're stuck and how to move toward the deep, fulfilling connection you deserve.

    Don't wait until your relationship reaches a crisis point. Join me to learn how to transform your communication patterns from ones that lead to disconnection to ones that foster love, understanding, and true intimacy.

    Together, let's make the world safe for love.

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    Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

    Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

    Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

    You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

    • Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
    • 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
    • Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife

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    13 m
  • #238 | Why Love Isn't Enough: Breaking Free from Repeating Arguments
    Jun 16 2025

    Have you ever wondered why you and your partner keep having the same arguments over and over, despite how much you love each other? In this powerful episode, I dive deep into why love alone isn't enough to break free from repetitive conflict patterns and what you can do to create lasting change in your relationship.

    Here's what you'll discover:

    • The surprising reason why we get stuck in survival mode during arguments, and how our childhood experiences shape our current relationship patterns

    • A practical, two-part solution to break free from repetitive conflicts through curiosity and awareness

    • The transformative power of slowing down and recognizing your blind spots to create deeper connection with your partner

    Whether you're feeling frustrated by constant bickering or simply want to enhance your relationship, this episode offers valuable insights to help you move from reactive patterns to conscious, loving communication.

    I share personal examples and practical strategies that you can start using today to create the joyful, passionate partnership you deserve.

    Ready to transform your relationship? Listen now to learn how to break free from repeating arguments and create a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner. Remember, it's not about perfect communication - it's about growing together through understanding and awareness.

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    Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

    Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

    Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

    You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

    • Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
    • 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
    • Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife

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    13 m
  • #235 | The Truth About Your "Broken" Self: It's Just Nervous System Overload
    Jun 12 2025

    In this powerful episode of the Let's Talk About Love, Sex and Infidelity podcast, I'm going to share why those moments when you freeze up, explode, or feel emotionally flooded aren't signs that you're broken – they're actually your nervous system trying to protect you. Through my years of experience as a therapist, I've seen countless individuals and couples transform their relationships once they understand what's really happening in their body during these challenging moments.

    In this episode, you'll discover:

    - Why your "fight, flight, or freeze" responses aren't character flaws, but natural protective mechanisms rooted in your nervous system

    - The fascinating science behind the vagus nerve and how it influences your reactions in relationships

    - Real-life stories of transformation, including how one client overcame his inability to speak to adults through understanding and rewiring his nervous system

    - Practical techniques to help you and your partner move from triggering each other to creating a safe, connected relationship

    If you've ever wondered "what's wrong with me?" during relationship conflicts, this episode will give you a completely new perspective on your reactions and provide hope for lasting change. I'll share both the science and the solutions in my warm, accessible style, helping you understand that you're not broken – you're just need tools to help your nervous system regulate in healthier ways.

    Ready to transform your relationship? Don't miss my special offer for my "From Bickering and Escalating to Connecting and Loving" program, where you'll learn exactly how to put these insights into practice with your partner.

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    16 m
  • #237 | Why Just Talking About It Isn't Working - Moving From Conflict to Connection
    Jun 9 2025

    Ever wonder why talking about relationship problems sometimes makes things worse?

    In this episode, Todd Creager therapist and relationship expert shares why "just talking about it" isn't always the solution – and what you can do instead.

    He's seen countless couples struggle with communication, only to end up more frustrated than when they started. But there's hope, and he's here to show you a better way.

    In this episode, you'll discover:

    - The crucial difference between "venting" and "sharing," and why one builds connection while the other creates distance

    - How to move past surface-level "secondary emotions" like anger and frustration to reach the vulnerable, primary emotions that lead to real understanding

    - Simple techniques to create a safe space for authentic communication, including non-verbal cues that can transform your conversations

    Whether you're struggling with constant arguments or just want to enhance your relationship's communication, this episode offers practical insights to help you and your partner truly connect.

    Join Todd Creager as he explains how to make your conversations count and create the deep, meaningful connection you've been seeking. Because when we communicate with the right intent, amazing things happen. As always, I'm here to make the world safe for love.

    Want to go deeper?

    Check out my comprehensive program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" where I share even more tools for lasting relationship transformation right here: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

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    Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

    Todd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

    You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

    ✅ Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets

    ✅ 10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist

    ✅ 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM

    ✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs

    ✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife

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    13 m