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  • Episode 418 : From Betrayed to Brave: How (and When) to Talk to Your Kids About Betrayal

    Episode 418 : From Betrayed to Brave: How (and When) to Talk to Your Kids About Betrayal
    Apr 28 2025
    In this deeply personal and powerful episode, Dr. Debi Silber reflects on the significance of Episode 418 and explores one of the most emotionally charged topics in betrayal recovery: how your children are affected by betrayal—and what to consider when deciding whether to share your story with them. Whether your kids were young when the betrayal happened or are now grown and sensing something was never quite right, this episode offers guidance, compassion, and clarity for navigating this complex family dynamic. 🔍 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why kids often sense something is wrong, even if they don’t know the details The emotional cost of keeping betrayal hidden from children What happens when they find out from someone else—and how that can feel like a second betrayal How to check your intentions before opening up Why the energy in your home matters—and what your kids may be picking up The difference between sharing out of pain vs. sharing as part of your healing journey What it looks like when a betrayer is truly rebuilding—and how that can impact your kids Dr. Debi’s personal story of telling her four children—and how it shaped their growth, healing, and strength as a family The role of honesty, spiritual growth, and aligned action in rebuilding trust The importance of giving kids a voice and a space to process their own emotions 💡 Key Takeaways: There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Every family must decide what's right for them. Honesty, done with intention and care, can be a powerful part of healing—for you and your children. Kids notice more than we think. Trying to fake wellness only teaches them to ignore their instincts. The energy in the home speaks volumes. Even if nothing is said, everything is felt. Rebuilding isn’t just between partners—it includes your children too. You can’t rebuild with the same person who broke everything. The betrayer must be willing to transform and come clean. Healing is uncomfortable—but necessary. It’s a choice between “hard now, easy later” or “easy now, hard later.” ✨ Dr. Debi’s Story: Dr. Debi shares how her husband told their children about the betrayal, her decision to be transparent, and the profound impact it had on her family. From grueling healing to remarriage—with new vows and their kids as the bridal party—she offers a rare glimpse into what full-circle transformation looks like when everyone is committed to truth, growth, and healing. “I didn’t just want to heal—I wanted to rebuild. Not just me, but my family. And that required honesty, integrity, and love—at the deepest level.” 🛠️ Resources Mentioned: The 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough: https://thepbtinstitute.com/reclaim/ Trust Again (Book by Dr. Debi Silber) The Rebuild Program (For those who betrayed and want to heal): https://thepbtinstitute.com/rebuild/ The PBT Institute Community (Join the healing conversation): https://thepbtinstitute.com 📣 Final Words: This episode is a must-listen for any parent navigating betrayal. Whether you're still reeling from the pain or beginning to rebuild, you’ll leave with tools, reflection prompts, and the reassurance that while the path is hard—it’s also transformative. Trust your gut. You know what’s right for your family. And if you decide to open up to your children, do it with intention, clarity, and love. Connect with Dr. Debi Silber: 🌐 ThePBTInstitute.com 📘 Trust Again - Book 🎓 Rebuild Program: https://thepbtinstitute.com/rebuild/ 🎤 Speaking & Workshops: https://thepbtinstitute.com/speaking/
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  • 417: How Unhealed Betrayal Impacts Your Business Performance

    417: How Unhealed Betrayal Impacts Your Business Performance
    Apr 21 2025
    If you're in business—whether you’re running your own company, leading a team, or working within an organization—this episode is for you. Dr. Debi Silber dives deep into how unhealed betrayal isn’t just a personal issue—it has direct, tangible consequences on your professional performance, leadership, confidence, decision-making, and success. In this eye-opening solo episode, Dr. Debi unpacks how betrayal silently sabotages your ability to lead, sell, build, and succeed—years or even decades after the betrayal occurred. Whether you're an entrepreneur, executive, or employee, you'll gain powerful insights on how trauma is showing up in your business (often without you realizing it) and what you can do to change that. What You'll Learn: Why betrayal impacts more than just your relationships—it affects your performance at work How shattered trust leads to overthinking, indecision, micromanagement, and burnout The hidden link between betrayal and stress-related illnesses, brain fog, insomnia, and more Why unresolved emotional pain leads to undercharging, people-pleasing, and poor boundaries How healing restores your confidence, clarity, energy, and ability to lead and grow The business case for understanding the 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough Key Topics Covered: The ripple effect of betrayal in business settings How betrayal affects your ability to trust yourself, your team, and leadership The emotional and physiological toll of carrying unhealed trauma into the workplace Signs betrayal is hurting your performance (and that of your employees) Indecision, overthinking, and poor boundaries: where they really come from Why burnout and reactive decision-making are often symptoms of a deeper wound The cost of unaddressed trauma on productivity, visibility, and financial success What happens when you heal—and how it elevates every part of your professional life Quotes from the Episode: “If you don’t trust the person you trusted most—and then you stop trusting yourself—how do you trust a boss, a coworker, or a collaborative partner?” “You can be showing up to a meeting, making decisions, promoting your brand… but if you’re carrying unhealed betrayal, you’re not showing up fully.” “Burnout, poor boundaries, fear of visibility—these aren’t business problems. They’re symptoms of a personal wound that hasn’t healed yet.” Resources & Links: 🎓 Learn more about the PBT Institute 🔍 What Stage Are You In? Find out here 💼 Want to bring the 5 Stages of Healing into your organization? Contact us about corporate programs 🌟 Explore our flagship program Reclaim 🧭 Become a Certified PBT® Coach/Practitioner Take Action: Ask yourself: Where has betrayal impacted my business, my confidence, or my ability to lead and grow? Once you’re aware of it—you can finally begin to change it. And when you heal, every part of your life and business transforms.
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  • 416: The Link Between Emotional Stress and Breast Cancer

    416: The Link Between Emotional Stress and Breast Cancer
    Apr 14 2025
    In this powerful episode, I sit down with my longtime friend and expert in integrative healing, Carol Lourie, to explore the connection between emotional stress, betrayal, and breast cancer. We discuss the impact of trauma on chronic metabolic diseases, the fear-driven medical model, and how women often feel betrayed by their bodies after a diagnosis. Carol shares invaluable insights into proactive health strategies, integrative healing, and the importance of listening to your body. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The potential link between emotional stress, betrayal, and breast cancer Why many women don’t recognize betrayal as a form of trauma How chronic metabolic diseases, including cancer, are influenced by emotional distress The significance of early detection and advocating for your own health How women feel betrayed by their bodies after a breast cancer diagnosis The importance of being an informed and assertive patient How fear plays a role in medical oncology and why you don’t have to rush into treatment Integrative strategies to support healing alongside medical treatments How to reduce environmental toxins that contribute to disease The role of mindset and lifestyle in creating a “pro-health” life Key Quotes: “There is always a connection between upsetting experiences—betrayal being one of them—and the creation of a chronic metabolic disease.” “Your psyche and your body will continue to turn the volume up until you start paying attention.” “Women say, ‘I ate properly, I exercised, I took care of myself… and I still got breast cancer.’ They feel betrayed by their bodies.” “Fear is a huge part of the medical model, but cancer is not a medical emergency. You have time to research and make informed choices.” “You can’t heal betrayal, or breast cancer, by numbing or avoiding. Healing requires deep inner work and lifestyle changes.” Resources and Links: Connect with Carol Lourie: www.carollourie.com Contact Carol directly via the “Contact Me” section on her website Learn more about integrative oncology and healing approaches Dr. Debi & Betrayal Resources The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again. For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back. For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke. Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz Want to become a Certified PBT Coach/Practitioner? Check out our FREE masterclass here. If you found this episode valuable, please share it with someone who needs to hear it and leave a review to help others find this important conversation!
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  • 415: Understanding Narcissistic Relationships

    415: Understanding Narcissistic Relationships
    Apr 7 2025
    In this powerful episode, Dr. Debi sits down with Dr. Anthony Mazzella, a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist, to break down the complexities of toxic narcissistic relationships. From love bombing and devaluation to trauma bonding and the psychology behind both the narcissist and their partner, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insights. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel stuck in a toxic relationship, or how to break free from unhealthy patterns, this episode is a must-listen. Key Topics Covered What is a narcissist? Understanding the key traits of narcissism and how they manifest in relationships. The cycle of narcissistic relationships: From idealization to devaluation, how the pattern keeps people trapped. Is love bombing intentional? The surprising truth about why narcissists appear so invested in the beginning. The ‘Shared Fantasy’ concept: Why both partners play a role in the toxic dynamic. The making of a narcissist: How early childhood experiences shape narcissistic tendencies. Why some people are drawn to narcissists: Exploring the unmet emotional needs that make individuals vulnerable to these relationships. Grandiose vs. Vulnerable Narcissists: Understanding the two primary types and how they manipulate relationships differently. Breaking the cycle: Steps to take if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist and want to heal. Can narcissists change? The truth about transformation and what it takes to create lasting change. Key Takeaways Not all narcissists intentionally manipulate—many are unaware of their own behaviors. The attraction to narcissists is often rooted in unresolved emotional wounds. Narcissists seek "supply" (validation) in different ways, depending on their type. More effort won’t change a narcissist’s behavior—understanding the root cause is key. Setting boundaries and shifting the dynamic can create positive change, but only if the narcissist is willing. Awareness is the first step toward healing—both for narcissists and their partners. Resources & Next Steps Learn More About Dr. Anthony Mazzella: Visit DrMazzella.com for his podcast, videos, and additional resources. Resources & Connect with Dr. Debi   The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again.   For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back.   For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.   Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz   Want to become a Certified PBT Coach/Practitioner? Check out our FREE masterclass here.     Subscribe & Leave a Review: If you loved this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts/Spotify! You can do that by: 1. Going to our Podcast Page- https://pbtinstitute.com/podcast/ 2. Scrolling down to “Listen on Apple Podcasts” and click the Link. It will take you to the Apple page-  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-betrayal-to-breakthrough/id1441968059?ls=2&mt=2   3. Clicking on “Listen on Apple Podcast. You’ll then be redirected to iTunes where you will see, “Ratings and Reviews. 4. Clicking “Ratings and Reviews” and under “Customer Reviews” you’ll see a link that says “Write a Review”. From there, you’ll be able to rate and review.  Thanks for listening and see you next time!  Final Thoughts If you’re struggling in a narcissistic relationship, know that awareness is the first step toward change. Whether you choose to leave or work through the challenges, understanding your own emotional patterns and boundaries is essential. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to navigate it alone.
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  • 414: Understanding Rejection and Emotional Healing

    414: Understanding Rejection and Emotional Healing
    Mar 31 2025
    In this episode, Dr. Debi sits down with Dr. G to discuss rejection, emotional patterns, and how childhood experiences shape our relationships and self-worth. They explore how these patterns influence betrayal, healing, and transformation. Dr. G shares powerful insights on how to identify, isolate, and eliminate emotional wounds to break free from the cycle of rejection. Key Topics Covered: The Formation of Emotional Patterns: By age 8, 80% of our emotional patterns are formed, and by age 18, our self-image is fully developed. This foundation significantly impacts our adult relationships. Personality Types and Their Impact: The four personality types—Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic, and Phlegmatic—affect how we respond to rejection and relationships. The Role of Family in Emotional Development: How childhood environments and parental relationships shape emotional habits, including anxiety, anger, and rejection. The Cycle of Rejection and Betrayal: How unresolved childhood wounds manifest in adulthood, leading to self-sabotaging behaviors in relationships. Breaking Free from Emotional Bondage: Understanding the concept of "Rejection Junkies" and how to heal past wounds by addressing the root causes rather than symptoms. Healing from Betrayal and Emotional Trauma: Real-life examples of overcoming past hurts, including how Dr. G and his wife navigated deep wounds in their marriage. Key Takeaways: Emotional patterns are deeply ingrained from childhood and shape adult relationships. Rejection can be overt or covert, with both having lasting effects on self-esteem and relationship dynamics. Opposites attract, then attack, then retract—understanding this cycle can help break negative relationship patterns. Healing from betrayal and rejection requires addressing the root causes, not just symptoms. Self-love and self-worth are critical to building healthy relationships. Resources & Next Steps: Take the Rejection Junkies Quiz: Visit RejectionJunkies.com and complete the quiz for a free 30-minute evaluation with Dr. G. Learn More About Dr. G's Work: Explore more on rejection, emotional patterns, and healing strategies through his website. PBT Resources & Next Steps Want more support? Join us inside the PBT Community where you’ll find courses, coaching, and live Q&A Coffee Chats to help you heal.  Reclaim for the betrayed: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back. Rebuild for the betrayer: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke. Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz Final Thoughts: Dr. G shares invaluable wisdom on overcoming emotional wounds and rejection. His insights remind us that while pain from the past shapes us, it doesn’t have to define us. Healing is possible when we recognize and break free from destructive patterns.
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  • 413: Rising from the Ashes

    413: Rising from the Ashes
    Mar 24 2025
    In this powerful episode, I sit down with Malaysia Harrell, a clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and military veteran, to discuss resilience, healing, and transformation after trauma. Malaysia shares her incredible journey—from working in high-intensity environments like prisons, child welfare, and disaster zones to surviving sepsis, multiple surgeries, and a near-death experience during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic. Despite facing unimaginable physical and emotional challenges, Malaysia refused to let her circumstances define her. She walks us through her healing process, the power of surrender, and how she reprogrammed her mind and body for complete transformation. If you've ever felt stuck in pain, this episode will show you that healing is possible—and that you have the power to rise from the ashes. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How trauma manifests in the mind, body, and spirit The connection between childhood trauma and the desire to serve others Why emotional detachment can be a coping mechanism How a near-death experience became a turning point in Malaysia’s healing The role of surrender in transformation How to use visualization and subconscious reprogramming for healing The impact of epigenetics and generational trauma Practical strategies for rewiring your mindset and body for resilience Key Takeaways & Insights: You can’t heal in the same environment that made you sick. Malaysia shares how stepping out of toxic environments was crucial for her transformation. Surrender is not weakness—it’s power. True healing begins when we let go and trust the process. Trauma lives in the body, not just the mind. Healing requires more than talk therapy—it involves addressing deep-rooted subconscious patterns and cellular memories. Your body is always speaking to you—listen to it. Malaysia’s experience with sepsis taught her that we must advocate for ourselves when we know something is wrong. Transformation requires a mindset shift. Through visualization, biofeedback, and reprogramming the subconscious, Malaysia rewired her mind and body for healing. Quotes from the Episode: “I was the one who needed saving, but I thought I had to save everyone else first.” – Malaysia Harrell “When I made the decision to heal, everything started to align.” “Surrendering isn’t giving up—it’s giving in to a higher plan for your life.” “You can’t be your own therapist—you have to allow yourself to receive help.” Resources Mentioned: Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz – A book on subconscious reprogramming and self-image transformation Heal – A documentary on the power of the mind in healing The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Understanding how trauma is stored in the body Medical Medium - Anthony William – Exploring natural healing through nutrition and detoxification Connect with Malaysia Harrell: 🔹 Website: www.malaysiaharrell.com  🔹 Instagram: @ malaysiahharrell  🔹 Coaching Services: Helping individuals transform their lives through deep healing and self-awareness. Resources & Connect with Dr. Debi  The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again.  For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back.  For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.  Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  Want to become a Certified PBT Coach/Practitioner? Check out our FREE masterclass here.  Take Action: Ask yourself: Where am I resisting surrender in my healing journey? Try visualization: See yourself already healed and embody that reality today. Assess your environment: Is your current space supporting or hindering your healing? Break generational patterns: Be the one who changes the story for future generations. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Screenshot this episode, tag us on social media, and let us know your biggest takeaway!
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  • 412: Healing Trauma & Betrayal

    412: Healing Trauma & Betrayal
    Mar 17 2025
    In this episode, I sit down with Alisa Gracheva, a psychotherapist specializing in trauma healing. We dive deep into the impact of betrayal on the mind, body, and spirit, exploring the commonalities between different forms of trauma and how they shape our emotional and physiological well-being. Alisa shares her personal journey—moving to a new country alone at 18, experiencing an abusive relationship, and ultimately discovering the tools to heal and thrive. We discuss the importance of meaning-making in healing, the role of spirituality in recovery, and how to shift from victimhood to empowerment. If you're struggling to move forward, this episode will give you insights, strategies, and encouragement to break free from old patterns and step into a stronger, more aligned version of yourself. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The common effects of betrayal and trauma on the body and mind How Alisa’s personal experiences shaped her approach to healing The power of finding meaning in painful experiences Why resilience is built through shifting your narrative How spirituality and self-awareness play a role in recovery The importance of changing your environment to create new patterns How to identify red flags and set stronger boundaries Practical steps to rewire your thinking and build self-trust Key Takeaways & Insights: Betrayal & Trauma Impact More Than Just Emotions – Trauma affects your physiology, emotions, and even spirituality. Recognizing these layers is key to healing. Meaning-Making is Essential for Healing – Viewing your pain from a broader perspective (instead of staying stuck in the story) allows growth and resilience. Your Environment Shapes Your Healing – Changing your physical, emotional, and mental surroundings helps break old cycles and rewire your thinking. Boundaries Are Essential – Setting boundaries isn’t just about others—it’s about holding yourself accountable for your healing process. Healing Requires Discomfort & Action – True transformation happens when you push past familiarity and challenge yourself to grow, even when it’s uncomfortable. Quotes from the Episode: “We cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it.” “One painful experience shouldn’t define your entire life. You are more than what happened to you.” “Healing is uncomfortable, but staying stuck is far worse.” “The people around you will change as you change—some will grow with you, and others will fall away.” Resources & Connect with Alisa Gracheva : Website: www.since.life Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alisa_art/ Resources & Connect with Dr. Debi  The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again.  For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back.  For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.  Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  Want to become a Certified PBT Coach/Practitioner? Check out our FREE masterclass here.  Take Action: Reflect on how betrayal has impacted you emotionally, physically, and mentally. Identify one limiting belief and reframe it into an empowering narrative. Make a small environmental change (new routine, new people, new mindset) to shift your healing process. Set one clear boundary to protect your energy and growth. If this episode resonated with you, take a screenshot and tag us on social media! Share your biggest takeaway!
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  • 411: The Shift from Pain to Power

    411: The Shift from Pain to Power
    Mar 10 2025
    In this episode, I sit down with Kristin Cary, founder of Living Truth, to discuss nervous system regulation after betrayal, the journey of healing, and the transformation that follows trauma. Kristin shares her personal story of betrayal, healing, and growth, offering invaluable insights into navigating betrayal trauma, understanding nervous system responses, and reclaiming personal power. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 🔹 Kristin’s Story – How discovering betrayal during pregnancy turned her world upside down and led her on a profound healing journey. 🔹 The 5 Stages of Betrayal Recovery – Why most people get stuck in Stage 3 and how to move into true transformation. 🔹 The Role of the Nervous System – Understanding fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses and how they show up after betrayal. 🔹 Unhelpful Advice vs. Real Support – Common myths and toxic messages given to betrayed partners. 🔹 Practical Ways to Regulate Your Nervous System – Grounding exercises, breathwork, and movement strategies to restore balance. 🔹 Healing as a Lifelong Journey – Why healing is not linear and how to embrace ongoing growth. Key Quotes: “Healing isn’t about getting over betrayal—it’s about transforming because of it.” “Your nervous system is always responding to perceived threats. Understanding those responses is key to healing.” “We can’t change what we’re unaware of. Learning to tune into our bodies is one of the most important parts of recovery.” “You are not responsible for someone else’s healing. You are responsible for your own.” Resources & Links: Learn more about Kristin Cary & Living Truth: www.living-truth.org Follow Kristin on[Instagram & Facebook at @ Livingtruth61 FREE Resource: Download Kristin’s helpful resources to start healing today! Join the Conversation: What was your biggest takeaway from this episode? Share in the comments or send me a message! Ready to move from pain to power? Take the next step in your healing journey today. Resources & Connect with Dr. Debi  The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again.  For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back.  For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.  Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  Want to become a Certified PBT Coach/Practitioner? Check out our FREE masterclass here.  Subscribe & Leave a Review: If you loved this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts/Spotify! You can do that by: 1. Going to our Podcast Page- https://pbtinstitute.com/podcast/ 2. Scrolling down to “Listen on Apple Podcasts” and click the Link. It will take you to the Apple page-  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-betrayal-to-breakthrough/id1441968059?ls=2&mt=2   3. Clicking on “Listen on Apple Podcast. You’ll then be redirected to iTunes where you will see, “Ratings and Reviews. 4. Clicking “Ratings and Reviews” and under “Customer Reviews” you’ll see a link that says “Write a Review”. From there, you’ll be able to rate and review.  Thanks for listening and see you next time!
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