Episodios

  • Over-functioning, Can you change it?
    May 1 2025

    Keywords

    over-functioning, relationships, co-parenting, boundaries, emotional intelligence, self-care, empowerment, women, parenting, mental health


    Summary

    In this conversation, the hosts discuss the dynamics of over-functioning partners, particularly in the context of relationships and co-parenting. They explore the emotional toll of over-functioning, the importance of setting boundaries, and the need for self-care. The discussion also emphasizes the role of women in breaking the cycle of under-functioning partners and empowering the next generation to foster healthier relationships. The conversation concludes with practical strategies for change and healing, encouraging listeners to recognize their worth and seek supportive communities.


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    Takeaways

    Over-functioning often leads to burnout and resentment.

    Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.

    Women are often conditioned to take on more responsibilities in relationships.

    Co-parenting dynamics can exacerbate over-functioning issues.

    Recognizing one's own over-functioning is the first step to change.

    Empowering the next generation involves teaching emotional intelligence.

    Women are increasingly choosing to be single rather than settle for under-functioning partners.

    Healthy relationships require reciprocity and mutual support.

    Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

    Communities of support can help women navigate relationship challenges.


    Chapters


    00:00 Introduction to Over-Functioning Partners

    05:58 Understanding Boundaries and People-Pleasing

    06:33 The Impact of Conditioning on Relationships

    06:43 Introduction to Over-Functioning Women

    09:40 Understanding Over-Functioning Dynamics

    12:50 Co-Parenting and Over-Functioning

    15:50 Weaponized Incompetence in Relationships

    18:44 The Gender Dynamics of Over-Functioning

    21:43 Breaking the Cycle of Over-Functioning

    24:43 Awareness and Change in Relationships

    30:50 The Importance of Balance in Relationships

    33:36 Learning to Receive and Ask for Help

    36:43 Recognizing Over-Functioning and Under-Functioning Dynamics

    38:42 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Children

    43:40 Breaking the Cycle for Future Generations

    46:46 Empowerment and Community Among Women

    49:54 Navigating the Challenges of Modern Parenting

    52:50 The Complexities of Co-Parenting

    55:47 Understanding Under-Functioning Partners

    59:05 The Burden of Expectations in Co-Parenting

    01:01:55 The Financial Dynamics of Divorce

    01:07:51 Learning and Evolving Through Experience

    01:09:42 Introduction to Co-Parenting Dynamics

    01:09:46 Navigating Legal Aspects of Co-Parenting








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  • Building a Community for Women in Crisis
    Apr 1 2025

    Keywords:

    The Sparrow Collective, divorce support, women's empowerment, community housing, financial literacy, holistic wellness, nonprofit funding, collaboration, women in crisis, supportive living

    Summary

    In this conversation, Susan Trippi of the Sparrow Collective discusses the challenges women face during and after divorce, including financial burdens and the need for supportive communities. The Sparrow Collective aims to provide a holistic living environment for women and children impacted by divorce, offering various support services, including legal, financial, and emotional assistance. The discussion also highlights the importance of community involvement and collaboration in creating impactful solutions for women in crisis.takeaways

    • The Sparrow Collective is a response to the needs of women going through divorce.
    • Women often bear the financial burden of divorce for years.
    • Housing costs are a significant concern for women post-divorce.
    • The collective aims to provide a supportive living community for women and children.
    • Wraparound support services will be available to residents.
    • Funding for the collective comes from state, federal, and private sources.
    • The model of the collective can be replicated in other communities.
    • Community involvement is crucial for the success of the collective.
    • Women are increasingly seeking support and resources during divorce.
    • Connection and community are vital for healing and empowerment.
    • Empowering Women Through Divorce: The Sparrow Collective
    • Building a Community for Women in Crisis
    • The Financial Burden of Divorce: A Call to Action
    • "This is a significant need for women and children."
    • "We are the disruptors of the status quo."
    • "It's a game changer for us."
    • "Divorce is challenging in so many ways."
    • "We are done with that. We're not available for that."
    • "We are always open to collaborating on workshops."
    • "We all have something within us that we can contribute."


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  • ADHD and Co-parenting
    Mar 20 2025

    Summary


    In this conversation, the hosts discuss the complexities of co-parenting, particularly when one or more children have ADHD. They explore the challenges faced by parents in maintaining consistent routines and communication, the importance of structure for children with ADHD, and various strategies to support these children effectively. The discussion also highlights the significance of positive reinforcement, the need for clear communication between co-parents, and practical tools to help manage ADHD behaviors. The episode concludes with resources for parents seeking additional support.

    Takeaways


    Co-parenting can be challenging, especially with ADHD involved.

    Routine and structure are crucial for children with ADHD.

    Communication between co-parents is essential for the child's well-being.

    Using positive reinforcement can motivate children to complete tasks they dislike.

    Transitions between homes can be difficult for ADHD kids.

    Visual aids and checklists can help children manage their routines.

    It's important to model calm behavior for children.

    Parents should prioritize the child's needs over personal differences.

    Using timers can help children focus on tasks for short periods.

    Celebrating small achievements can boost a child's confidence.

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    Keywords


    co-parenting, ADHD, parenting strategies, family dynamics, peaceful parenting, communication, routines, transitions, positive reinforcement, parenting tools



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    59 m
  • Espresso Shot: What is a GAL
    Nov 20 2024

    Ally and Jill explain what a GAL in Massachusetts is and their experiences with them.

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    13 m
  • Espresso Shot: The holidays are coming!
    Nov 13 2024

    Ally and Jill talk holidays!

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    12 m
  • A family doesn't divorce; they restructure.
    Nov 6 2024

    keywordsco-parenting, divorce, family restructuring, Concilium process, support systems, women's empowerment, litigation abuse, family dynamics, domestic violence, conciliation, family law, co-parenting, attorney-client relationship, guardian ad litem, legal process, empowerment, judicial system, divorcesummaryThis conversation explores the complexities of co-parenting and divorce, emphasizing the importance of support systems, the Concilium process, and the empowerment of individuals, particularly women, during and after divorce. The speakers discuss the emotional and legal challenges faced by families restructuring after divorce and the need for a holistic approach that includes legal, financial, and mental health support. In this conversation, experts discuss the complexities of domestic violence cases, the importance of shifting control to the court, and the role of attorneys in empowering clients. They explore the long-term implications of co-parenting, the function of guardian ad litem, and the cost-effectiveness of the conciliation process. The discussion emphasizes the need for a holistic approach in family law, highlighting the significance of finding trained conciliant professionals.takeaways

    • A family doesn't divorce; they restructure.
    • Divorce is a legal process, but it's not just legal.
    • Women often face financial disparities post-divorce.
    • Divorce teaches valuable life lessons.
    • Managing anxiety is crucial during divorce.
    • Support systems are essential for navigating divorce.
    • The Concilium process offers a new perspective on family restructuring.
    • Empowerment is key for individuals going through divorce.
    • Litigation abuse can be a significant issue in family law.
    • Creating a new family structure requires collaboration and understanding. Control needs to shift to the court in domestic violence cases.
    • Attorneys play a crucial role in empowering clients.
    • Judges have the ultimate authority in attorney changes.
    • Conciliation offers a new approach to family law.
    • Long-term co-parenting considerations are essential.
    • Guardian ad litem provides a voice for children.
    • The conciliation process can be cost-effective.
    • Finding the right attorney is vital for clients.
    • A common language among professionals enhances collaboration.
    • Holistic approaches in family law benefit all parties.
    • Navigating Co-Parenting Challenges
    • The Role of the Concilium Process
    • "The control needs to shift."
    • "It's a snapshot in time."
    • "It's a common language."



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  • Replace financial shame with a plan - advice from a professional!
    Oct 10 2024

    co-parenting, divorce, financial planning, financial advisor, single parents, college costs, financial education, emergency funds, financial shame, support community


    Summary

    In this conversation, Jill and Ally discuss the complexities of co-parenting and financial challenges that arise during and after divorce. They emphasize the importance of community support, understanding financial implications, and the role of financial advisors in helping individuals navigate their new financial realities. The discussion also covers practical advice for single parents, managing expectations around college costs, and the significance of having an emergency fund. The speakers highlight the need for empathy and understanding in financial planning, especially for women who may feel overwhelmed by their circumstances.





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  • Co-Parenting Your LGBTQ+ Child
    Sep 10 2024

    Summary


    Hilary Smiley shares her experience of parenting a transgender child and the challenges she faced. She emphasizes the importance of early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics. Hilary discusses the medical aspect of caring for a transgender child, including puberty blockers and hormone therapy. She also talks about the emotional journey of accepting and affirming her child's gender identity. Hilary encourages parents to forgive themselves for any mistakes and to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being. The conversation explores the challenges and experiences of co-parenting a transgender child. We discuss the importance of open communication, patience, and understanding in supporting their children's gender identity. We also address common misconceptions and offer advice for parents who may be struggling to accept their child's gender identity. The conversation emphasizes the need for therapy and professional support for both the child and the parents. Overall, we highlight the importance of affirming and empowering transgender children to live their authentic lives.

    Keywords


    transgender, parenting, gender identity, early intervention, gender clinic, medical care, puberty blockers, hormone therapy, acceptance, emotional journey, co-parenting, transgender child, open communication, acceptance, therapy, support


    Takeaways


    Early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics is crucial for transgender children.

    Medical professionals play a vital role in guiding parents and children through the transition process.

    Parents may experience a range of emotions and challenges, but it's important to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being.

    Forgiving oneself for mistakes and being open to learning and growth is essential in supporting a transgender child. Open and honest communication is crucial when co-parenting a transgender child.

    Parents should be patient and understanding as their child explores their gender identity.

    Therapy and professional support are essential for both the child and the parents.

    Acceptance and affirmation are key to helping transgender children thrive.

    Parents should educate themselves and seek resources to better understand their child's experience.

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