This is Beneath It All, a mini version of my podcast (Beneath The Seams) — where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes.

In today’s episode, we get into:

✨ How faith redefines the creative process

✨ Partnering with God instead of performing for the internet

✨ The difference between divine timing and delayed obedience

✨ Why fear disguised as preparation keeps you stuck

✨ Scriptures that ground your creativity when you doubt your gifts

If you’ve ever felt like your creativity is inconsistent, blocked, or losing meaning — this one’s for you.

00:00 – Let’s take it back to the beginning: God as the first Creator

01:35 – Why I started praying through my creativity, not just about it

03:10 – James 4:17 → Disobedience isn’t always doing the wrong thing — it’s delaying the right one

05:02 – Ephesians 3:20 → God’s pace isn’t punishment, it’s protection

07:48 – Ecclesiastes 11:4 → Stop checking the weather; plant anyway

10:26 – Colossians 3:23 → Creating with excellence as worship

12:14 – Nehemiah 6:3 → Protecting your peace, pace, and purpose — “I can’t come down.”

14:08 – John 10:27 → Discernment over data: hearing God’s voice in your creative process

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💌 Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com

What does it really mean to be compatible with someone?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this — and honestly, I think intellectual compatibility might be my biggest struggle. Not chemistry, not vibes, not attraction… but finding someone who can actually meet me where my mind is.

In this episode, I’m talking about:

-Why being “chosen” doesn’t make you more special — God already did that

-Why I can’t date someone who isn’t spiritually grounded

-The 5 layers of compatibility (and why intellect ranks high for me)

-The Baby Mama story — and the moment I realized we weren’t equally yoked

-Why visionary women struggle to “fit” into a man’s plan

-My recent dating app voice notes (yes, you’re gonna scream 😩)

If you’ve ever felt too deep, too complex, or too much to be understood — this one’s for you.

Let’s go Beneath The Seams! 🤐

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00:00 Coming Up — “I’ve never been asked for my hand in marriage, and I don’t wanna be a baby mama.”

02:10 Defining compatibility

09:12 Why intellectual connection matters more than just a vibe

15:40 The Baby Mama story — and the laughter that told me everything

20:02 Spiritual alignment as a non-negotiable

26:45 Lifestyle preferences: hiking vs. brunch & finding middle ground

32:04 Power couples & merging visions

38:20 Storytime: “You’ll miss your blessing” 😭

42:11 Storytime: The 1:30 AM “you up?” text (sir, please)

44:26 Listener prompt — which type of compatibility do you crave most?

🎧 Listen to Beneath The Seams wherever you stream podcasts

💬 Join the conversation in the comments — rank your top 3 types of compatibility

🖤 Subscribe for new episodes every week

Connect with me:

Website → https://beneaththeseams.com

Instagram + TikTok → @kalariggins

Email → Kala@KalaRiggins.com

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I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller.

I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves.

Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. (all while looking GOODt!)

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Contact:

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If you’ve ever called yourself a “low-maintenance friend” but secretly crave deeper connection… this conversation is for you.

We talk about…

-Why the “low-maintenance” trend quietly excuses neglect.

-Loneliness as an epidemic—and how we’re drifting from community.

-Medium-maintenance friendships: presence, checking in, reciprocity.

-Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (discernment matters).

-Behavior checks: stop flaking, raise emotional awareness, be curious.

-Life stages & growing apart: naming why connection feels harder now.

-Faith lens: God gave us each other—community is sacred stewardship.

Let’s go Beneath The Seams!

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00:00 Coming Up!

00:24 Beneath The Seams manifesto (why we go below the surface)

01:40 Welcome back — what this space is & why this topic now

03:02 The trend: why “I don’t require much” is quietly isolating us

05:05 Maintenance analogies: nails, car, faith → relationships

06:42 Personal truth: feeling detached despite having “friends”

09:18 Growing apart as life changes (distance, kids, routines)

11:06 The danger of “low” settings → from monthly to yearly to… strangers

12:55 Naming what you need: depth as a love language

15:08 Loneliness online & IRL; post-pandemic isolation habits

17:10 Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (use discernment)

18:36 The medium-maintenance baseline:

20:28 Presence IRL & putting the phone down

21:44 Reciprocity confession: “Do I have friends because I maintain them?”

23:12 Follow the nudge: when someone crosses your mind, call/text

24:35 The “365-day rule”: are we still friends if we haven’t spoken in a year?

26:04 “Maturity” as a mask for neglect

27:22 Faith lens: Genesis 2:18, Proverbs 27:17, disciples lived *together*

29:05 Behavior checks: stop flaking; the cost of community is inconvenience

31:02 Emotional awareness & curiosity: be in your friends’ business (lovingly)

32:28 Personal commitment: leave the house more; invite community in

34:00 Open invite: are you isolated or thriving in friendship?

35:12 Reviews/help the show grow + share with a friend

36:05 Closing blessing — and see you next week

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Resources & Scriptures Mentioned

Genesis 2:18 — “It is not good that man should be alone.”

Proverbs 27:17 — “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

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I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller.

I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves.

Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. (all while looking GOODt!)

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Connect with me:

Podcast Website: [https://beneaththeseams.com/](https://beneaththeseams.com/)

Instagram + TikTok @kalariggins

Contact:Kala@KalaRiggins.com]

If you’ve ever started, stopped, felt sure, then doubted again… this conversation is for you.

We talk about…

• Why your story may include an unusual testimony.
• Start–stop seasons: and why they still count.
• How Perfectionist kills momentum.
• Letting life’s recurring lessons return with a new perspective
• Vulnerability as ministry: sharing the heavy parts without self-judgment.
• Letting your gift serve people, not your fear.
• The fear of being misunderstood: making peace with visibility, critique, and the reality that conflict is part of the calling.

Let’s go Beneath The Seams!

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00:00 Coming Up! — “I think God is preparing me for an unusual testimony”

01:38 Welcome back + what this space is (safe, unfiltered, inclusive)

02:32 Why I’ve been gone & why I’m choosing honesty over glossing it over

03:35 Today’s frame: everything I’m overthinking about the pod & my creative journey

04:22 Saying the same thing “again” (and giving myself permission to revisit themes)

06:02 Life is cycles: new levels, same core lessons → freeing myself from “it must be new”

07:14 Conflict talk: why “we resolved it, never speak again” doesn’t work for me

08:33 Art imitating life: taking off the producer hat → more raw, still polished

09:46 Killing momentum: the creative shame loop of “if it isn’t great, don’t post”

11:18 My minimum bar to publish: 3 simple checks to hit “upload” anyway

12:20 Vulnerability as a superpower (and why the heaviness still scares me)

13:58 Outfit moment — joggers, styled dress-as-top, sneakers, ASOS bag

14:46 Knowing yourself to be vulnerable; ministry beyond the pulpit

16:06 The “exposure” thing: playing it too safe online vs. how I am in real life

17:24 The viral video & the sneaky fear of being misunderstood

18:52 Prayer insight: “Conflict is part of the calling.” Making peace with visibility

20:31 My pre-record prayer & releasing control of how the message lands

21:28 Root-cause overthinking: why I analyze before I act (and when that helps)

22:30 Unlearning the expected success arc; “unusual testimony” over the “great lock-in”

24:18 Start–stop stories matter: success for those who struggled to stay consistent

25:42 Closing the “misunderstood” loop & choosing impact over approval

26:48 Do we ever fully “overcome” overthinking? Choosing better tools, not self-shame

28:22 Faith lens: weapons may form; faith changes how I weather them

29:20 Refusal to quit + permission to tell the truth about the challenge

30:26 Community check-in: tell me what you’re overthinking

31:02 Promise to grow in consistency

31:48 Final blessing: finding peace in the process → see you next time

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Resources & scriptures

• 2 Corinthians 12:9 — “My grace is sufficient for you…”
• Matthew 5:37 — integrity in your yes (mentioned thematically)

Join the conversation!

• Tell me what you’re overthinking this week — drop it in the comments or DM.
• If this episode gave you breath, share it with a friend who’s been stuck in start–stop.
• If you love the pod, a quick rating/review really helps us grow.

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I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller.

I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves.

Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. ( all while looking GOODt!)...

This one is for the millennial who wants to use the rest of 2025 to grow spiritually and strategically.

In this episode, I’m talking about how I’ve been using both scripture and structure (with a little help from AI) to rebuild my faith, strengthen my routines, and reimagine what a spirit-led soft life really looks like.

We talk about…

-Why I believe in "this AND that" spirituality (I love God and I love a cocktail)

-How I’m using ChatGPT to create a personalized spiritual plan

-What it means to stop overlooking the overflow in your life

-The difference between praying for a result vs. becoming the person who can steward it

-Why consistency feels boring for creatives—and how I’m fighting back with discipline and devotion

-How I’m using tools like Notion, AI, and storytelling to make faith practices feel personal and powerful

-Simple morning and evening prompts that keep my spirit aligned

-Why “God, get in my head before I do” is my favorite new prayer

Let’s go Beneath The Seams!

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0:00 — Teaser + The Podcast Won Award Win

6:30 — What Getting Serious Looks Like

12:40 — ChatGPT + My 6-Month Spiritual Plan

17:10 — Building a Faith Practice That Matches My Life

23:55 — Morning Prompts + "God Get in My Head Before I Do"

27:35 — The Overflow is Already Here

33:15 — Using Notion to Track Devotionals

38:00 — Creating a 12-Week Spiritual Strategy

44:20 — Bible Stories for the Deep Thinkers

50:00 — Why Creativity Makes Discipline Hard

55:45 — Faith Without the Fluff

59:15 — Final Thoughts + Community Check-In

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If something in this episode hit home, leave a review, drop a comment, and tell a friend to tune in. Let’s keep the conversation going—because beneath the seams, we’re all just figuring it out.

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I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin.

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Connect with me:

Podcast Website: https://beneaththeseams.com/

Book a call https://cal.com/kalariggins

Instagram + TikTok @kalariggins

Contact:

Kala@KalaRiggins.com

🎙️ Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack.

https://kalariggins.substack.com/

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This one is for the millennial who misses outside!

Social media told us to isolate, grind in silence, and only reappear when we’re fully healed. But what if hiding out is holding us back?

In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers on...

-What we lose when we stop socializing

-How community might be the key to your next creative breakthrough. spiritual awakening, and even financial glow-up.

-The glamorization of isolation and why “I like to be in the house” culture is overrated

-How socializing fuels your spiritual and creative energy (even if you're in a funk)

-Why your friends see you in ways you don’t see yourself—and how that reflection is essential

-How creativity finds you in joy, not just strategy

Let’s go Beneath The Seams!

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00:00 – Coming Up on the Episode

02:30 – Where I’ve Been + Why I Took a Creative Pause

08:15 – The Mini-Series You Might’ve Missed: Beneath It All

11:50 – Why I’m Reclaiming My Social Life

15:40 – That TikTok That Perfectly Captures the Outside Girl Era

21:25 – Isolation ≠ Healing: We Need Each Other

26:45 – How Being Social Fuels Your Creativity and Your Confidence

33:10 – You’re Not Lazy. You’re Just Lacking Joy.

36:55 – Physical + Mental Health Benefits of Being Outside

42:30 – From Tired to Rested: The Spiritual Reset That Happens in Community

49:40 – How People Help You See Your Gifts (and Call You Out With Love)

55:55 – A Word on Receiving Compliments + Celebrating Yourself

59:45 – My Helen Keller Award Nomination (!!)

1:02:00 – Final Thoughts: Community is Not Optional

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If something in this episode hit home, leave a review, drop a comment, and tell a friend to tune in. Let’s keep the conversation going—because beneath the seams, we’re all just figuring it out.

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I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin.

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Connect with me:

Podcast Website: https://beneaththeseams.com/

Book a call https://cal.com/kalariggins

Instagram + TikTok @kalariggins

Contact:

Kala@KalaRiggins.com

This is Beneath It All, a mini version of my podcast (Beneath The Seams) where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes.

In today’s episode, we get into:

• The Pain of Not Keeping Going
• How it Seems everyone is a season of starting over:
• Dealing with the not feeling "Normal"
• Finding Spiritual Clarity in Not Having a Traditional Path
• What it means to get Serious About Your Calling

Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack. https://kalariggins.substack.com/

Timestamps:

00:45 – Why "I Wish I'd Kept Going" Is My Constant Thought

02:15 – Starting Over: Why It Feels Like a Fresh Start for Everyone

04:00 – Why Trying to Be “Normal” Is Holding Me Back

05:30 – The Moment I Tried to Be Normal & Gave Up My Dream

07:00 – The Real Meaning of "Getting Serious" in Your Purpose

08:30 – Embracing What Makes You Different—Even When It Feels Like a Struggle

09:45 – The Launch of "Seamless" and What’s Coming Next

10:30 – How I’m Finally Staying True to Myself

Let’s stay connected: / @kalariggins

I'm Kala… host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires women to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here, it's all about creative ideas, bold style, and deep conversations.

This one is for the millennial who was raised with a bit of family drama...

In this episode, I sit with Life Coach Shawntrise Williams who is also my first cousin as we have a deeply personal conversation about...

-The family drama we never talked about—and how it’s still affecting us.

-That feeling of being disconnected and wishing we were closer.

-How the emotional and physical distance in our family made us question where we truly belong.

-The stories we never heard, leaving us with more questions than answers about our family.

-Why we’re finally speaking up and healing through honest, raw conversations.

Let's go Beneath The Seams!

Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack.

https://kalariggins.substack.com/

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00:00 – Coming Up Teaser

02:10 – Family Dynamics We Never Discuss

How unspoken tensions in our families affect us in adulthood.

06:25 – What It Was Like Growing Up in a Divided Family: Separations and the impact it had on us.

10:50 – The Secrets We Didn’t Know About Our Family

15:20 – Generational Trauma: The Weight of Family Drama

20:30 – The Family Bonds We Missed Out On and the things we wished we had experienced.

25:40 – Navigating healing from the wounds created by our family dynamics.

30:45 – The Role of Grandparents in Shaping Our Experiences

35:50 – Overcoming Family Disconnection as Adults

40:10 – The importance of opening up these conversations and healing together.

45:30 – Moving Forward: What we are doing differently in the future.

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Connect with the guest: Shawntrise Williams of LBH Life Coaching https://lbhlifecoaching.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacASY64nAutgKGx1OgwLzr-QWHlF1nGU5YlQaezzGUeYTFqbzfLiWMOfDvKCQ_aem_133vk92T6U24NEzVl8glpQ

https://www.instagram.com/lbhlifecoaching/

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I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about creative ideas...bold style...and deep conversations.