This is Beneath It All, a mini version of my podcast (Beneath The Seams) — where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes.

In today’s episode, we get into:

✨ How faith redefines the creative process

✨ Partnering with God instead of performing for the internet

✨ The difference between divine timing and delayed obedience

✨ Why fear disguised as preparation keeps you stuck

✨ Scriptures that ground your creativity when you doubt your gifts

If you’ve ever felt like your creativity is inconsistent, blocked, or losing meaning — this one’s for you.

00:00 – Let’s take it back to the beginning: God as the first Creator

01:35 – Why I started praying through my creativity, not just about it

03:10 – James 4:17 → Disobedience isn’t always doing the wrong thing — it’s delaying the right one

05:02 – Ephesians 3:20 → God’s pace isn’t punishment, it’s protection

07:48 – Ecclesiastes 11:4 → Stop checking the weather; plant anyway

10:26 – Colossians 3:23 → Creating with excellence as worship

12:14 – Nehemiah 6:3 → Protecting your peace, pace, and purpose — “I can’t come down.”

14:08 – John 10:27 → Discernment over data: hearing God’s voice in your creative process

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💌 Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com

What does it really mean to be compatible with someone?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this — and honestly, I think intellectual compatibility might be my biggest struggle. Not chemistry, not vibes, not attraction… but finding someone who can actually meet me where my mind is.

In this episode, I’m talking about:

-Why being “chosen” doesn’t make you more special — God already did that

-Why I can’t date someone who isn’t spiritually grounded

-The 5 layers of compatibility (and why intellect ranks high for me)

-The Baby Mama story — and the moment I realized we weren’t equally yoked

-Why visionary women struggle to “fit” into a man’s plan

-My recent dating app voice notes (yes, you’re gonna scream 😩)

If you’ve ever felt too deep, too complex, or too much to be understood — this one’s for you.

Let’s go Beneath The Seams! 🤐

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00:00 Coming Up — “I’ve never been asked for my hand in marriage, and I don’t wanna be a baby mama.”

02:10 Defining compatibility

09:12 Why intellectual connection matters more than just a vibe

15:40 The Baby Mama story — and the laughter that told me everything

20:02 Spiritual alignment as a non-negotiable

26:45 Lifestyle preferences: hiking vs. brunch & finding middle ground

32:04 Power couples & merging visions

38:20 Storytime: “You’ll miss your blessing” 😭

42:11 Storytime: The 1:30 AM “you up?” text (sir, please)

44:26 Listener prompt — which type of compatibility do you crave most?

🎧 Listen to Beneath The Seams wherever you stream podcasts

💬 Join the conversation in the comments — rank your top 3 types of compatibility

🖤 Subscribe for new episodes every week

Connect with me:

Website → https://beneaththeseams.com

Instagram + TikTok → @kalariggins

Email → Kala@KalaRiggins.com

Let's stay connected!

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I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller.

I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves.

Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. (all while looking GOODt!)

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If you’ve ever called yourself a “low-maintenance friend” but secretly crave deeper connection… this conversation is for you.

We talk about…

-Why the “low-maintenance” trend quietly excuses neglect.

-Loneliness as an epidemic—and how we’re drifting from community.

-Medium-maintenance friendships: presence, checking in, reciprocity.

-Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (discernment matters).

-Behavior checks: stop flaking, raise emotional awareness, be curious.

-Life stages & growing apart: naming why connection feels harder now.

-Faith lens: God gave us each other—community is sacred stewardship.

Let’s go Beneath The Seams!

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00:00 Coming Up!

00:24 Beneath The Seams manifesto (why we go below the surface)

01:40 Welcome back — what this space is & why this topic now

03:02 The trend: why “I don’t require much” is quietly isolating us

05:05 Maintenance analogies: nails, car, faith → relationships

06:42 Personal truth: feeling detached despite having “friends”

09:18 Growing apart as life changes (distance, kids, routines)

11:06 The danger of “low” settings → from monthly to yearly to… strangers

12:55 Naming what you need: depth as a love language

15:08 Loneliness online & IRL; post-pandemic isolation habits

17:10 Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (use discernment)

18:36 The medium-maintenance baseline:

20:28 Presence IRL & putting the phone down

21:44 Reciprocity confession: “Do I have friends because I maintain them?”

23:12 Follow the nudge: when someone crosses your mind, call/text

24:35 The “365-day rule”: are we still friends if we haven’t spoken in a year?

26:04 “Maturity” as a mask for neglect

27:22 Faith lens: Genesis 2:18, Proverbs 27:17, disciples lived *together*

29:05 Behavior checks: stop flaking; the cost of community is inconvenience

31:02 Emotional awareness & curiosity: be in your friends’ business (lovingly)

32:28 Personal commitment: leave the house more; invite community in

34:00 Open invite: are you isolated or thriving in friendship?

35:12 Reviews/help the show grow + share with a friend

36:05 Closing blessing — and see you next week

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Resources & Scriptures Mentioned

Genesis 2:18 — “It is not good that man should be alone.”

Proverbs 27:17 — “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

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I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller.

I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves.

Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. (all while looking GOODt!)

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Connect with me:

Podcast Website: [https://beneaththeseams.com/](https://beneaththeseams.com/)

Instagram + TikTok @kalariggins

Contact:Kala@KalaRiggins.com]