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What if the anxiety you feel didn’t start with you at all? This episode uncovers how inherited trauma and unconscious patterns shape our lives,

Mark Wolynn is a leading expert in inherited family trauma and director of the Family Constellation Institute. , and author of the acclaimed ‘It Didn’t Start with You.

He recently published a revised and updated edition of his international bestseller It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle, along with The Official It Didn't Start with You Workbook.

• The 4 Unconscious Themes — The most common ways we carry or repeat family trauma without knowing it
• The Latest in Epigenetics — What new research shows about inherited trauma
• Your Core Trauma Language — How the key to healing often lies hidden in your own words
• What You Carried From the Womb: How in-utero trauma shapes your nervous system
• The Break in Early Attachment: Why not feeling seen, known, or soothed by your mother qualifies as big T trauma

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This is an epidemic no one is talking about: adult phone addiction.

Millions of people are struggling worldwide—and most don’t realize how much it’s impacting their focus, mood, relationships, and ability to be present.

In this episode, I break down 8 manifestations of compulsive phone behavior, how to tell when you’re in it, and why “just stop” doesn’t work when your phone has become your nervous system’s fastest relief.

1. Device checking compulsion
2. Social media compulsion (passive scrolling + active participation)
3. Mobile gaming
4. Information/content compulsion (news, rabbit holes, constant consuming)
5. Online shopping
6. Dating apps
7. Work/productivity compulsion
8. Fitness/biometric tracking compulsion

Internet and Technology Addicts Anonymous

Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked by Adam Alter

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Leah Carey is a Sex and Relationship Coach and host of the Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast. She helps thoughtful, self-aware adults who grew up in fear-based environments to stop freezing, over-explaining, and second-guessing themselves in relationships. In other words: in a world filled with confusion and fear, Leah helps sex make sense. Drawing on her own healing journey from fear and repression, she specializes in working with people from high-control childhoods like Purity Culture, narcissistic abuse, cults, and other patriarchal abuse.

✨ What this episode explores:

• Freeze and Fawn in Intimacy — How these survival patterns shape your sexual relationships, and what it means to rewrite them.
• From Transactional Love — How receiving conditional love as a child shaped your beliefs about self-worth and connection.
• Releasing Sexual Shame — How letting go of past repression leads to genuine self-acceptance
• Boundaries Without Fear — How learning to set healthy boundaries allows you to step out of old roles and into authentic connections
• Reclaiming Your Voice — How learning to express your needs transforms your relationships

xoleahcarey.substack.com

Social media as @xoleahcarey

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Maggie Nick is a trauma therapist and author of the newly published book Good Kids: Why You Suffered in Silence and How to Break the Cycle. She grew up as the good kid in a home with a personality-disordered mother - performing, complying, and quietly falling apart while making sure nobody ever saw the real her. After years of working through what she thought was the "real" trauma, she discovered that relational shame was the deepest layer underneath everything else.

✨ What this episode explores:

▪️Relational Shame as the Deepest Layer: How every surface-level struggle (the perfectionism, the people pleasing, the self-hatred) is just smoke from the same fire: being made to feel like the real you is fundamentally bad.

▪️The "Good Kid" Was a Survival Strategy, Not a Personality: Why compliance, fawning, and never misbehaving wasn't temperament. It was your nervous system's way of staying loved and staying safe.

▪️The Silent Treatment Is Emotional Violence: Why it's one of the most normalized forms of emotional abuse and what it does to a kid when love can be jerked away without warning.

▪️The Fight Response Turned Inward: What happens when you never had permission to push back. That energy doesn't disappear. It becomes the vicious inner critic, the eating disorder, the relentless self-punishment.

▪️The Check Engine Lights Everyone Misses: Why the kids (and adults) who look like they have it the most together are often the ones suffering the most, and what to actually look for underneath the performance.

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