The Sex Talk You Never Got

Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

De: Sam Jolman, John Eldredge

Narrado por: Sam Jolman, John Eldredge

Read by the author.

Men today are starved for sexual formation. They've been failed by parents, churches, and culture alike, leading to widespread shame, confusion, and brokenness in the area of sexuality. In The Sex Talk You Never Got, therapist Sam Jolman helps men reconnect their God-given sexuality with innocence, awe, and joy, and shows listeners how to celebrate--instead of struggle against--the gift of sexual desire.

In our sex-saturated world, it might seem surprising that men need more talk about sex. But the reality is that sexuality is one of the most neglected aspects of men's lives. From the woefully inadequate sex talks many young men receive from parents (little more than an anatomy lesson or a purity lecture, if anything at all) to cultural messages that unhelpfully weave both shame and permissiveness into men's understanding of their own sexuality and masculinity, too many boys and men experience sexual desire as an area of struggle, confusion, and brokenness.

But it doesn't need to be this way. God made men to be moved, to live with wonder and awe--and sexual desire must be formed within the context of that design. Sam Jolman, a professional therapist who specializes in men's issues and sexual trauma recovery, shows men the way out of the wilds of sexual struggle.

This timely and incisive book will help listeners:

• learn about the vital link between sexual desire and their identity as worshipers;
• regain a wild and vigorous sexuality within the context of God's design;
• understand how purity culture has needlessly put men in a conflict-ridden relationship with their sexuality;
• see sexual purity not as the goal but as the preparation for becoming fully alive to beauty, awe, and worship; and
• discover how to trade shame and confusion for a sexuality that's filled with innocence and wonder.

In the Bible, Jesus' greatest kindness was often offered to those suffering sexual harm and brokenness. He offers this same kindness today. He does not want men to repent of their sexual desire. Rather, through reconnecting sexuality with innocence and awe, God opens the door for men to experience the wild joy of desire, rightly ordered toward worship and God's good purposes for their life.

©2024 Sam Jolman (P)2024 Thomas Nelson

This book (albeit unfortunately) should be mandatory reading for men for are truly seeking to connect to their spouses.

The stories shared within this book are guaranteed to reach you in some way. I was nearly moved to tears in the later chapters as Sam expressed many of the feelings/emotions I have buried deep down inside and had no idea how to deal with.
This book is a phenomenal resource in this current day and age where father’s are doing a very poor job of educating their sons about their masculinity and sex. I highly recommend listening to this book.

Genuine healing for male masculinity!

Sam is very genuine and very real. Regaining your innocence and awe and virility are things I never thought were possible! But they are! Jesus makes all things new and Sam has helped us men so much further along the journey!

A golden book with a redeeming message

There's three books on sexuality from a Christian perspective that I put at the top of my list of such books, Surfing for God, by Michael Cusick Unwanted by Jay Stringer, and this book by Sam Jolman. Why these three? Because they all address how shame drives our behavior and they all avoid emphasizing tips and techniques to merely stop doing something instead of discovering how God frees a heart that longs to live well. I appreciate men who write from their good heart that God has given them.

I have the most beautiful books I’ve read in a long time!

I like all it seems the inspiration all of it is really wonderful And I wish everybody would read it.

Absolute, edifying blessing

I found this book in my recommendations when I felt in my heart of hearts that something was off, if not missing. This book helped me explore many of those feelings and I feel my heart beat stronger for it. Will absolutely revisit it real soon! Thank you Sam Jolman and God bless!

Gritty and Healing - Immediately Reading Again

I ignored my cognitive, physiological, and spiritual trauma regarding my masculine sexuality for 30+ years. Jolman invited and lead me into an approachable discussion with myself. Healing enroute.

Deeply Healing and Hopefull

Can't recommend this book enough for anyone who struggles with unwanted sexual behaviors. This book gives one a new and fresh perspective on what it means to a awaken the heart of the man God created to love and make a real difference in this dark world.

Amazing

This book has helped me put language to my past, and my present struggles. It has helped me forward in therapy in ways I could not have imagined. Cannot recommend this book enough to anybody considering it. As a man who grew up in the church and in purity culture. There was little to no talk about sex. This book has given me a totally new way of looking at sexuality and how beautiful it can be. It has opened my eyes to live past the act of sex and enjoy life in a much more broader sense. This has helped my marriage and my ability to relate to my wife in ways I didn’t even know I needed to. I would recommend this book to men and women in and out of the church. Thank you so much for writing this book and taking the time to record it.

A hopeful vision for male sexuality

This book was a truly incredible read, written in a caring, instructive and beautifully invitational way. I am excited to reread it. This is one of the best books on male sexuality that I have read.

Holistic goodness

This book is pastoral and therapeutic in the best sense of both words. It may be the best faith-based book on the subject.