The Porn Trap

The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography

De: Wendy Maltz LCSW DST, Larry Maltz LCSW

Narrado por: Frank Block

In this highly acclaimed recovery guide, renowned sex and relationship therapists Wendy and Larry Maltz shed new light on the compelling nature and destructive power of today's instantly available pornography. Weaving together poignant real-life stories with innovative exercises, checklists, and expert advice, this groundbreaking resource provides a comprehensive program for understanding and healing porn addiction and other serious consequences of porn use.

The Porn Trap will help you to:

- Decide whether it's time to quit using porn

- Learn how to stop using porn and deal with cravings

- Improve self-esteem and personal integrity

- Heal an intimate relationship harmed by porn use

- Develop a healthy sex life

©2008 Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz (P)2023 Tantor

Marriage Saving

This book helped me understand my husband's porn addiction. It allowed us to get the help we both needed, while maintaining healthy open communication and trust. This book saved our marriage, and changed us and our lives for the better.

Book of Recovery and Healing With Compassion.

Many Men and Women struggle with this addiction in silence, with fear and guilt. With this book I’ve realized that darkness does not thrive in the light. Guilt will weigh you down and that we all can recover from what plagues us. Great book for those of us who struggle with this affliction. I will be adding many of what I learned to my recovery process.

Great for Christians, not for the rest of us

I did take away some good tips from this book. Good stuff about intimacy with partner and limiting use of porn. But Overall this is Geared toward people who are religious even though it’s never outwardly laid out that way. Their case studies often mention their pastors, importance of being pure and a lot of men’s wives are ready to divorce their men over discovering their husband watches porn, and they are afraid they are going to be “run out of town if anyone in the community finds out” .. ? That screams Christian sexual repression / guilt. They overly pathologize use of porn. It’s all or nothing, you’re either a porn “addict” which is not recognized by the American Psychological Association as an actual psychological disorder, or you’re working to never see it again. Semantics aside , Compulsive use of porn is of course a difficult problem, I’m not trying to diminish that , but there is no mention creating a healthier and moderate use of sensual or soft core kind of stuff.

Dry and Impersonal

This book feels like a calculated lecture given to a little boy caught with his hand in the cookie jar, by his Professor McGonagall-like grandma.

The quotes from "real life patients" are clearly either fabricated or altered so heavily that they all sound like the author; a female, boomer, therapist. Not saying that demographic is bad, but getting real world advice as a young man from someone THAT distant from my reality, just didn't feel efficacious. It felt extremely impersonal.

Instead of a warm voice of "hey, I've been there. This is how I got help and these are the things that improved in my life," this book takes the very unusual stance of "you know this is bad. You're hurting people around you. If you stop, the greatest benefit you'll receive is that people around you will stop hurting. So stop being a bad boy. Just think about the people around you." Okay. But... Why don't we spend more time talking about what's in it for me?

To be fair... If you're looking for a top-down, clinical, no frills book about the reality of porn, with a passive voice of shame... This book might be for you. Maybe that's what you need. It wasn't for me though.

The narrator was good though. Technically sound, nice voice, and easy to listen to. I didn't catch any recording issues. It probably should have been narrated by a woman though. The book is clearly written from a female perspective, but narrated by a man. That juxtaposition was jarring.