In Sheep's Clothing

Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People

By: George K. Simon

Narrated by: Kevin Foley

Dr. George K. Simon knows how people push your buttons: your children---especially teens---are experts at it, as is your mate. A coworker may quietly undermine your efforts while professing to be helpful, or your boss may prey on your weaknesses. Manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it. Too often, those they abuse are only vaguely aware of what is happening to them. In this eye-opening book, you'll discover:

• four reasons why victims have a hard time leaving abusive relationships
• power tactics manipulative people use to push their own agendas and justify their behavior
• ways to redefine the rules of engagement between you and the abuser
• how to spot potential weaknesses in your character that can set you up for manipulation
• two tools for personal empowerment to help you maintain greater strength in all relationships

©2010 George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D. (P)2011 Tantor

Handbook to understanding destructive people.

What did you love best about In Sheep's Clothing?

This book was able to break down some very complex and difficult ideas for a lay person to understand about the different degrees of a sociopathic personality and that they are all over our lives and society not just in prisons. There are many degrees of this personality. Describing these types of people and understanding that we know MANY of them. Our culture is creating people who think they can get away with anything they want and never have to subject themselves to consequences. They do this in both a public setting and in their private lives. If you happen to be in a significant relationship, you soon find out that if you ever dare confront them with their inappropriate behavior, you will soon reap the piles of excuses, the evasive maneuvers they use to turn it around and blame you, or worse, their wrath for daring to even think or insinuate they did anything wrong. Simon's ideas, if considered in our modern mental health culture, will revolutionize it. It's no longer about fear-based paradigms as Freud and other fathers of our mental health culture has assumed, but rather, many modern individuals don't have enough fear. They don't fear laws or consequences or the fallout their behavior inflicts on the people around them. Sociopaths (people without a moral compass or empathy) come in all shapes and forms and degrees... they are not just people in prisons. Our culture even rewards this type of personality in the tops of our societal food chains. They are our brothers, sisters, fathers, bosses, leaders, icons, etc. They can even be our kids who we raised to have so much self-esteem they no longer respect adults and authority or rules and laws. Simon even lays out an explanation of the ADD/ADHD epidemic. This problem is society's consequence for no longer holding up values and morals as the ideal. The contents of this book needs to be in our society's everyday language and especially in our modern mental health culture.

Brilliant!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Absolutely! If you like to know the how's and the why's, and I guess moreover, what you can do strategically in dealing with certain personality types (i.e. manipulative in nature), then this book is worth a listen.

Who was your favorite character and why?

The author - what a brilliant mind!

What does Kevin Foley bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Wonderful narrator - adds to the seriousness of dealing with covertly aggressive people.

Not just interesting--you get something to use!

Would you consider the audio edition of In Sheep's Clothing to be better than the print version?

I've never read the print version.

What was one of the most memorable moments of In Sheep's Clothing?

helping me identify a manipulator in my life!

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

yes, and I did! I listened to it all day long while I worked about the house.

Manipulation

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I would highly recommend this book, especially to learn about manipulation. It is very easy to grasp and highlights how to spot manipulators quickly. It enlightened me to a situation I was in whereby I was being manipulated. I consider myself pretty sharp, but didn't realize how slippery manipulators are.

I wish the section at the end that talks about today's society was longer and maybe that should be a book 2...

Kudos on the book (which by the way, needs better cover art - forgive me) :-)

read it twice in a row

loved it so much and just wanted to soak it in. Spot on describing loved ones. even realized some aggressive tendencies in myself. transformative!

goes in depth into the most common personalities.

information of value . good narrator

very easy to digest. good narrative. high content of information of value and good narrator

masterpiece !

long before Sam vaknin. hare and all the books written about the predator narcissists George Simon wrote this historic brilliant masterpiece.

narrator better to get George Simon

narrator sounded high pitched and degrading when he quoted women speaking.
turned my stomach. end

Must read for everyone!

This book is a masterpiece. It is simple, easy to understand, relatable (due to the examples provided) and you can really relate it to real life because you must have came across types of manipulators in this book. I applaud George K. Simon, Jr. PhD. for his brilliant thoughts, even years after this book was written.

This book changed my life!

The information in this book helped me connect the dots and understand who my partner really was. Then, I was able to take the steps needed to get away from him. This book should be required reading for everyone before they get married!