To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking best seller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.
Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:
Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that, whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.
©1997 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2010 Brilliance Audio, Inc.
"[T]hreaded through the book, which is written in a sympathetic, chatty, accessible style, are validating anecdotes that dramatize how other people have experienced and responded to the same problems the reader is going through." (Publishers Weekly)
yes, I would listen to it again. I want to make sure that i get the references correct. I would want to make sure i could quote this book when giving insight to people who are thinking about divorce or getting married
it was not judging. it was providing a point of view of pros vs cons to help make a conscious decision in a relationship.
Yes, but it is better to let some sections sink in and think about before you go on.
I have been married to my present wife for sixteen years. Had i listened to this book earlier, i would have realized that she was more patient and willing than i gave her credit for. it allowed me to see that the decision whether my relationship was worth saving, wasnt mine to make. I think this book changed by attitude and thinking about how people treat one another. I'm glad I heard this book before my wife did. Saved me from a lot of embarrassment and pain.
This book is based on research with other couples and what types of issues in their relationships made them happy they separated or happy they stayed and worked on issues. I had just separated from my husband when I listened to this, so I had already made my decision, but this book made me feel more confident in myself and that decision. I really enjoyed the narrator's voice as well.
If you are plagued by the go or stay question, this book cuts through your own tortures and quickly gets to the point. It is fair to both staying and leaving. I found it very helpful.
I'm still listening to this and I think even with these "diagnostics" it will take time to sort out my own feelings, but it really gives me a lot to think of. I felt relieved that I'm not the only one stuck in "relationship ambivalence" She shows how we slip into this place. Relationships can be confusing - she helps shed light on what's going on.
A lot of good things to think about in a more constructive way than just worrying.
The book was a big help. Especially for someone like me who needs a way to clarify my decision. My only issue is the book starts off with stories about something she might do, or he might do to make u uncomfortable. Toward the end it is mostly things HE might do to make you uncomfortable.
I would love to see this book in a workbook format. I like the structure of the book because the author forces you to think and make decisions based on facts.
The narration of the book was excellent. The Narrator has a pleasant voice with proper tones and inflection.
I love the diagnostic questions and how it starts from really bad.. get out now diagnostics to its annoying but you can work on this diagnostics. very thorough and helped me figure out things I can work on!!
I saw myself in some of the behaviors that make a relationship too bad to stay. I assumed it would be pro woman point of view but it's very fair on both sides. I realize I also have a responsibility for this mess I call a relationship. Good wake up for me.
This book was very informative. It was like I had a therapist in my own home. There wasn't anything that I didn't like about this book. If you're not sure if you're going to break up with your significant other this will help you decide.
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