To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking best seller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.
Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:
Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that, whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.
©1997 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2010 Brilliance Audio, Inc.
"[T]hreaded through the book, which is written in a sympathetic, chatty, accessible style, are validating anecdotes that dramatize how other people have experienced and responded to the same problems the reader is going through." (Publishers Weekly)
This book is based on research with other couples and what types of issues in their relationships made them happy they separated or happy they stayed and worked on issues. I had just separated from my husband when I listened to this, so I had already made my decision, but this book made me feel more confident in myself and that decision. I really enjoyed the narrator's voice as well.
If you are plagued by the go or stay question, this book cuts through your own tortures and quickly gets to the point. It is fair to both staying and leaving. I found it very helpful.
I'm still listening to this and I think even with these "diagnostics" it will take time to sort out my own feelings, but it really gives me a lot to think of. I felt relieved that I'm not the only one stuck in "relationship ambivalence" She shows how we slip into this place. Relationships can be confusing - she helps shed light on what's going on.
A lot of good things to think about in a more constructive way than just worrying.
I love the diagnostic questions and how it starts from really bad.. get out now diagnostics to its annoying but you can work on this diagnostics. very thorough and helped me figure out things I can work on!!
I saw myself in some of the behaviors that make a relationship too bad to stay. I assumed it would be pro woman point of view but it's very fair on both sides. I realize I also have a responsibility for this mess I call a relationship. Good wake up for me.
This book was very informative. It was like I had a therapist in my own home. There wasn't anything that I didn't like about this book. If you're not sure if you're going to break up with your significant other this will help you decide.
This book doesn't make any decisions for you. It goes through a series of insightful questions allowing you to decide if your relationship is too good to leave or too bad to stay. Excellent!
Gave me clarity on the issues in my relationship and whether to leave or stay.
A gentle and easy voice to listen to that match the content ideally.
For any couple, this is an exceptionally well-written and valuable book. It provides an extensive list of issues that challenge relationships written in simple language with clear real-life examples. It also has many analogies to help the reader understand the concepts and ideas presented. It guides the reader in a gentle way to consider the issues they may face in their relationship and whether to stay or no. It certainly helped me. It's rare for me to write a review but feel compelled to as it was so rewarding. I highly recommend this book.
listsening to this book its clear what's best for a confused relationship LOVED IT! thx
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