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Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay Audiobook

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

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Publisher's Summary

To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking best seller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.

Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:

  • What sins are forgivable and which ones unpardonable?
  • Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?
  • What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?
  • Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?
  • Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that, whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.

    ©1997 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2010 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

    What the Critics Say

    "[T]hreaded through the book, which is written in a sympathetic, chatty, accessible style, are validating anecdotes that dramatize how other people have experienced and responded to the same problems the reader is going through." (Publishers Weekly)

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      Abby Wines Death Valley, CA 04-20-12
      Abby Wines Death Valley, CA 04-20-12 Member Since 2011
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      "helpful for bringing peace"
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      This book is based on research with other couples and what types of issues in their relationships made them happy they separated or happy they stayed and worked on issues. I had just separated from my husband when I listened to this, so I had already made my decision, but this book made me feel more confident in myself and that decision. I really enjoyed the narrator's voice as well.

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      Scott 11-05-11
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      "Well done. Useful. Definitely worthwhile."

      If you are plagued by the go or stay question, this book cuts through your own tortures and quickly gets to the point. It is fair to both staying and leaving. I found it very helpful.

      3 of 4 people found this review helpful
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      Leslie Sausalito, CA, United States 10-12-11
      Leslie Sausalito, CA, United States 10-12-11 Member Since 2009
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      "A lot to think about but helpful"

      I'm still listening to this and I think even with these "diagnostics" it will take time to sort out my own feelings, but it really gives me a lot to think of. I felt relieved that I'm not the only one stuck in "relationship ambivalence" She shows how we slip into this place. Relationships can be confusing - she helps shed light on what's going on.

      A lot of good things to think about in a more constructive way than just worrying.

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      scott 08-20-16
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      "A big help"

      The book was a big help. Especially for someone like me who needs a way to clarify my decision. My only issue is the book starts off with stories about something she might do, or he might do to make u uncomfortable. Toward the end it is mostly things HE might do to make you uncomfortable.

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      Valerie Nichols South Mississippi 08-17-16
      Valerie Nichols South Mississippi 08-17-16 Member Since 2016

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      "Excellent material"

      I would love to see this book in a workbook format. I like the structure of the book because the author forces you to think and make decisions based on facts.
      The narration of the book was excellent. The Narrator has a pleasant voice with proper tones and inflection.

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      Jade 05-11-16
      Jade 05-11-16 Member Since 2015
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      "really helped me think about a few things!"

      I love the diagnostic questions and how it starts from really bad.. get out now diagnostics to its annoying but you can work on this diagnostics. very thorough and helped me figure out things I can work on!!

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      Holly 04-12-16
      Holly 04-12-16 Member Since 2016
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      "I learned a lot."

      I saw myself in some of the behaviors that make a relationship too bad to stay. I assumed it would be pro woman point of view but it's very fair on both sides. I realize I also have a responsibility for this mess I call a relationship. Good wake up for me.

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      SandyZ 03-29-16
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      "Excellent Book"

      This book was very informative. It was like I had a therapist in my own home. There wasn't anything that I didn't like about this book. If you're not sure if you're going to break up with your significant other this will help you decide.

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      Chris M Moore 03-14-16 Member Since 2015
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      "Didn't tell me what I wanted to hear. But good."

      for some, this book will deliver some bad news. but it is thought provoking, well written

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      Yolande 02-02-16
      Yolande 02-02-16
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      "An awesome book to get clarity about your relationship"

      This book doesn't make any decisions for you. It goes through a series of insightful questions allowing you to decide if your relationship is too good to leave or too bad to stay. Excellent!

      0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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