Now Beattie has written a follow-up volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.
The question remains: What is and what isn't codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It's about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms.
In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.
Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior - caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc. - enabling us to personalize our own step-by-step guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.
Punctuated with Beattie's renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency is an owner's manual to learnin...
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I thoroughly enjoyed the audio version of Codependent No More and have listened to it to help me get through some times. The speaker on that book sounds compassionate and like she understands what she's reading.
The speaker on this book sounds like she's reading a script and her inflections throw off the spirit behind the passage she's reading.
There may be some helpful content in this update but it's impossible to tell with the way it's being read.
I've read other books of Melody Beattie's and love them. I've listened for about an hour to this one and the information is great. However, the narrators voice is reminiscent of a controlling matriarchal character from the victorian era ---- ironic. I'm not sure I can stand her for 10 hours.
This book has too many exercises for it to be totally effective as an audio book. The original "Codependency No More" was much more helpful for me. I listen to the original over and over and get something new each time. This one, I think one listen will be enough.
as i was having some personal issues last summer, i decided to purchase this book to help me cope. this book addressed most of the issues i was dealing with at that time, and greatly helped me to move on. although some of the things mentioned were basically common sense, it's good to hear them in an organized manner. the narrator's voice could have been better, but it was generally acceptable, given the life lessons i got to validate through this book. highly recommended.
Yes, I have already listened to it again. I feel impowered and confident with how much I've grown from where I started.
A better connection with the author. I had read the book before I ordered through you guys. When I listened to the audio I smiled and laughed in some parts, because of how similar it is to my life experiences.
Please have more of Melody Beattie's books avaliable under Audible.
The book itself:
This Audible version could have been done in 1 hour. Was very repetitive, the author seems to be full of ego, pimping her other books. Great rags to riches story, but as for practical tips, very limited. Stick with the CODA workbook, and finish it for real help.
Sounds like an old raspy smoker. Hardly a person I want to hear healing advice on.
Skip it and work on the CODA workbook.
Wow, it's interesting how a person can live in such denial. I always accused others of being codependent, never realizing that I was extremely codependent. If you are raised in an alcoholic home, or dysfunctional home affected by mental illness, or some other dysfunction, you are by nurture, codependent. It is a learned behavior. It is an addiction in of itself and it's a miserable existence. One cannot be happy and codependent at the same time. I always knew I was affected by growing up in a dysfunctional, alcoholic home but I never knew how much I was affected by codependence. Once the veil starts to lift, life gets so much easier. You get to mind your own business. You no longer feel the compulsion to control others or talk about others. Instead the focus is on yourself. What do you want? How do you feel? Your world opens up. You start to feel alive again, more creative, more willing to bring joy and beauty into your life. Alcoholics are concerned with the outward, they are usually criticizing others or gossiping or blaming. They rarely look inward. The focus is always on others. The same with codependents. It is incredibly freeing to focus on the self. Kudos to Melody Beattie and to the other authors who take the time to write about this very important subject.
Overall I found this a useful book. However, it's a bit skimpy on evidence based practice and current research. The bio story was interesting.
In Co-Dependent no more, it was hard to relate to Beattie since the addiction my ex had was not alcohol. In The New Codependency, Beattie includes speaking about other kinds of addiction which gave her a more inclusiveness for the audience. Wonderfully written, as usual, and great information.
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