Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!
©2005 Gary Chapman; (P)2005 Oasis Audio LLC
" "Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a major overhaul, these are powerful prescriptions delivered by a genial, wise man." (AudioFile)
This book teaches the basic idea of love languages and how they affect our relationships; if you only read one self-help book for marriage, this is the one. We have applied the understanding of the love languages into our marriage and found it very helpful in communicating and understanding each other.
This book is the perfect compliment to any marriage, but extends even further. It helps you relate and understand your children, parents and friends even better too. I bought the book too, so I could apply the principles and take the tests.
Wonderfully simple, practical concepts that provide us truly effective methods of expressing and receiving love. Any and all relationships could benefit from the information contained in this book. While it is written from a Christian perspective and focuses almost exclusively on married couples experiencing some level of dysfunction in their marriages, the material can be interpreted in any way that best serves your needs. I myself am not a Christian nor am I married, but this has offered wonderful clarity and help to me and my significant other as we co-create the relationship of our dreams together. Hoping to put these lessons to use to set us up for success so we won't need the damage control down the road!
I have not, and will not buy the print version. This provided what i considered to be the "lite" version of therapy, which accentuates a "pixie dust" mentality to working on relationships, but it is a good start - but just a good start.
No. I was a little disappointed. Self-help books to me often provide over-simplified solutions to hard questions and situations. I would put this in that subject category, because the author and narrator over-emphasizes positive results. He can do this because he is a therapist who has practiced over 20 years. The best way to learn about relationship and successful marriage and couple therapy, is to be able to show the failures as well as the successes. Gary Chapman chooses to focus 97% of his time on successes.
No i have not, and would not be interested.
I do like the categories, and was able to identify my language and that of my husband's.
As a book for the masses, and a place to start in trying to understand communication difficulties, this book is wonderful, but a little too simplistic. A little over-hyped. I can only imagine a couple coming to therapy mis- "labeling" each other, only adding confusion to the mix. I would skip the first three or four chapters; they are repetitive and sort of blah blah filler material - horrible for a long car trip and rather numbing on a highway. The chapters that actually deal with each of the 5 languages are insightful, and provide some great stories. I enjoyed the Audible book, 'The Greatest Salesman' by Og Mandino more than this book.Many people will like this book, and I know its popular, but consider it only a place to start, not the solution.
Understanding that we all have different ways of communicating and listening has got to help you. Its not a cure-all as promoted, but a methodology. If you are having communcations issues, please do listen and absorb this. Its helps me. I am not much into the some of the religious implications/references that some of these books add in. Its not that there are 5 or 10 or any number of languages, its that you could be missunderstanding the other person and this book can help so go for it.
This book seems to be written as an attempt to help couples on the rocks save their marriages. If you don't know or understand the basic principals of this book, I highly doubt this will be the fix you are looking for. On the other hand, if you have a good relationship and are looking to make it better, this should help do the trick. Be prepared for the authors strong southern drawl and some cheesy ideas. As with most "how-to" books, personal adaptation is the key.
Why couldn't we all learn about the 5 love languages BEFORE we got married. After a lot of self-learning in 16 years of marriage, this could have saved a lot of difficulty over the years. Don't get me wrong, there's no such thing as a quick fix but the awareness and lessons you pick up by learning the 5 love languages is invaluable for a marriage in any state or stage. The actual reading isn't riviting but Gary does a very good job explaining and providing examples.
Found this book on sale and was in the mood for some 'self-help' inspiration. This book actually provided some thoughtful inspiration ... a different perspective on the way we love. I liked it. Be aware that there is a religious undertone (Christian)- not offensive, but it is a presence. All in all I think this book is well worth the reading. Liked that the principles could be applied in any love relationship , not just for couples but for families and children as well.
I can find a book to love in any genre -- a beautifully written classic, an interesting mystery or sci-fi, a trashy romance. Bring it!
STORY - I am rating this a 5 for its information, not for its entertainment value. This book contains good information whether you are married, single, with or without children, and whether you think your relationship is healthy or needs some additional work. If you do not speak the same "language" as the person you are trying to communicate with, they will NOT get your message and their "love tank" will become empty and cause problems in the relationship. The book is short, the author explains everything clearly and gives good examples.
NARRATION - The author reads his own work and does a good job.
OVERALL - Highly recommended.
"Eye opening and a must try for all couples"
5 million people resonated with this. You cannot get wrong about it. I have just started to try the principles, and although I have to admit being skeptic in the beginning by the time I made it to the end I had bought in. Many thanks Dr Chapman for doing such a master piece for the well being of so many couples and people in the world.
"Some food for thought"
I bought this book on the reviews expecting something amazing ...
I had to dig deep within myself to find meaning in some areas but that's great right ??
It ignited some emotions and some thoughts about how I view love and how I love myself too ..
In parts I must admit a lot of the examples seemed sexist, I want a wife to cook my meals, clean my shoes, I want a husband who listens to me and buys me things, and I found myself annoyed by those example types ....
A great learning for me was asking myself why I was annoyed ...
If you are into self help and like challenging yourself to step outside of your comfort zone give this book a go, you may realise you have no clue what love really is because take away all the what I deemed as selfish congical requests what you are left with is this ....
Can you let go of your own Ego and live a life of service to someone else because you choose too??!!!
Wondering about my own love choices now so in essence a brilliant thought provoking read!!!!
"Such incredible insight"
every line of this book gives incredible insight into your own relationships
great narrative style, as the combined author/narrator, can put his original intended emotion into the audiobook
damaged relationships can always be repaired
a must read
"its a great book."
i really like this book. it help me in understanding my relationship and where it went wrong. my friend recommend me the hardcopy and happy I found it in audible.
"Outdated, not for me"
I think the core idea about this book is really useful. You can defiantly see how this is helpful to a lot of people, by understanding what the 5 love languages are and seeing how that can help your relationship. But after that, that's all you basically need to know. As the examples got on my nerves very male sided stories. Woman always trying to get their man to do chores and it's because they are not asking the man properly. It always felt like the woman was in the wrong.
Great ideas with simple illustrations. Am able to apply the concepts in real life and they have further enhanced my relationship with my partner. A must for all couples.
I wish I knew about this earlier. Let's get to work on love and make it count till forever xxx
"An amazing book!!!"
This book is amazing, I picked up very useful tips from the very first chapter to the last one. A book every couple should read.
"Fantastic to learn"
This is the most easy to understand relationship book I have read. Everyone should have this book. I will also buy it for my children.
"A must read for everyone..."
Our relationships are probably the most important thing in most of our lives, and this book will not only help you understand them better, but will also give practical ways to make them better.
It's a book about love and communication, and it has the insight and power to be a game changer for both.
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