Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!
©2005 Gary Chapman; (P)2005 Oasis Audio LLC
" "Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a major overhaul, these are powerful prescriptions delivered by a genial, wise man." (AudioFile)
Interesting insight into why spouses often don't see eye to eye due to competing love languages. About 20% of the book was pure marketing for other books by the author. Hoped for more substance.
This book teaches the basic idea of love languages and how they affect our relationships; if you only read one self-help book for marriage, this is the one. We have applied the understanding of the love languages into our marriage and found it very helpful in communicating and understanding each other.
Wonderfully simple, practical concepts that provide us truly effective methods of expressing and receiving love. Any and all relationships could benefit from the information contained in this book. While it is written from a Christian perspective and focuses almost exclusively on married couples experiencing some level of dysfunction in their marriages, the material can be interpreted in any way that best serves your needs. I myself am not a Christian nor am I married, but this has offered wonderful clarity and help to me and my significant other as we co-create the relationship of our dreams together. Hoping to put these lessons to use to set us up for success so we won't need the damage control down the road!
I have not, and will not buy the print version. This provided what i considered to be the "lite" version of therapy, which accentuates a "pixie dust" mentality to working on relationships, but it is a good start - but just a good start.
No. I was a little disappointed. Self-help books to me often provide over-simplified solutions to hard questions and situations. I would put this in that subject category, because the author and narrator over-emphasizes positive results. He can do this because he is a therapist who has practiced over 20 years. The best way to learn about relationship and successful marriage and couple therapy, is to be able to show the failures as well as the successes. Gary Chapman chooses to focus 97% of his time on successes.
No i have not, and would not be interested.
I do like the categories, and was able to identify my language and that of my husband's.
As a book for the masses, and a place to start in trying to understand communication difficulties, this book is wonderful, but a little too simplistic. A little over-hyped. I can only imagine a couple coming to therapy mis- "labeling" each other, only adding confusion to the mix. I would skip the first three or four chapters; they are repetitive and sort of blah blah filler material - horrible for a long car trip and rather numbing on a highway. The chapters that actually deal with each of the 5 languages are insightful, and provide some great stories. I enjoyed the Audible book, 'The Greatest Salesman' by Og Mandino more than this book.Many people will like this book, and I know its popular, but consider it only a place to start, not the solution.
Understanding that we all have different ways of communicating and listening has got to help you. Its not a cure-all as promoted, but a methodology. If you are having communcations issues, please do listen and absorb this. Its helps me. I am not much into the some of the religious implications/references that some of these books add in. Its not that there are 5 or 10 or any number of languages, its that you could be missunderstanding the other person and this book can help so go for it.
This book seems to be written as an attempt to help couples on the rocks save their marriages. If you don't know or understand the basic principals of this book, I highly doubt this will be the fix you are looking for. On the other hand, if you have a good relationship and are looking to make it better, this should help do the trick. Be prepared for the authors strong southern drawl and some cheesy ideas. As with most "how-to" books, personal adaptation is the key.
Why couldn't we all learn about the 5 love languages BEFORE we got married. After a lot of self-learning in 16 years of marriage, this could have saved a lot of difficulty over the years. Don't get me wrong, there's no such thing as a quick fix but the awareness and lessons you pick up by learning the 5 love languages is invaluable for a marriage in any state or stage. The actual reading isn't riviting but Gary does a very good job explaining and providing examples.
Found this book on sale and was in the mood for some 'self-help' inspiration. This book actually provided some thoughtful inspiration ... a different perspective on the way we love. I liked it. Be aware that there is a religious undertone (Christian)- not offensive, but it is a presence. All in all I think this book is well worth the reading. Liked that the principles could be applied in any love relationship , not just for couples but for families and children as well.
I'm a writer and a yoga teacher with a Masters in English Literature.
I was wary of the self-help title of the book, but got really turned off when I found out about the extreme American Christianity of the writer. I felt like he was going to sell me something at the end. Maybe my soul back from the devil who stole it.
The narrator was appropriate, he had kind of a Texas accent, adding to the American Everyman vibe I think the book was trying to go for, so I think that was probably a good thing. If you like that sort of thing.
Discomfort and boredom. I like the principle of the book, and perhaps I could have learned something from it if I didn't get so turned off by the gee-golly innocent Christian-ness of the narrator. It just didn't sound like reality. My love tank for this book is empty.
If you are Christian and get something out of self help books, if you think they actually help you and are not a cynical lapsed Christian like me, you might actually enjoy this book and learn something from it. Still, I thought his examples of the things people were going through made the people going through it seem kind of stupid, and I believe anyone who thinks critically and does mindfulness work will figure this kind of stuff out by themselves, rather than labelling everyone's love language and thinking they have it figured out.
"Eye opening and a must try for all couples"
5 million people resonated with this. You cannot get wrong about it. I have just started to try the principles, and although I have to admit being skeptic in the beginning by the time I made it to the end I had bought in. Many thanks Dr Chapman for doing such a master piece for the well being of so many couples and people in the world.
"Some food for thought"
I bought this book on the reviews expecting something amazing ...
I had to dig deep within myself to find meaning in some areas but that's great right ??
It ignited some emotions and some thoughts about how I view love and how I love myself too ..
In parts I must admit a lot of the examples seemed sexist, I want a wife to cook my meals, clean my shoes, I want a husband who listens to me and buys me things, and I found myself annoyed by those example types ....
A great learning for me was asking myself why I was annoyed ...
If you are into self help and like challenging yourself to step outside of your comfort zone give this book a go, you may realise you have no clue what love really is because take away all the what I deemed as selfish congical requests what you are left with is this ....
Can you let go of your own Ego and live a life of service to someone else because you choose too??!!!
Wondering about my own love choices now so in essence a brilliant thought provoking read!!!!
"Such incredible insight"
every line of this book gives incredible insight into your own relationships
great narrative style, as the combined author/narrator, can put his original intended emotion into the audiobook
damaged relationships can always be repaired
a must read
"its a great book."
i really like this book. it help me in understanding my relationship and where it went wrong. my friend recommend me the hardcopy and happy I found it in audible.
"Off-putting religious tone"
Lack of religious remarks.
I would have removed the religious tone and made it less old-fashioned.
All the religious remarks made me want to listen to the book less and less.
"great read and inspiring"
Don't be put off buying this book by the God references. I'm an Atheist but didn't find them off putting or taking away from his main message. I loved it.
"What a revelation!"
I found this audiobook at just the right time.
This book explains why my marriage is on a downslope and also shows how I can easily turn it around.
I have already started to speak my wife's love language and I hope that when the hard copy arrives for my wife that she takes the time to read it too.
Simple and to the point, with few religious references.
I have already recommended this book to a friend who bought the book that instant excitedly saying that he was in a similar situation.
I now see the light at the end of the tunnel!
Was recommended this by beautiful friends who are living examples of what is possible in a loving marriage - they said this changed everything. If we can achieve a fraction of what they have, we'll be very happy - so it was a must read. It didn't disappoint! Thank you Dr Chapman :)
"I highly recommend..."
In or out of a relationship every person should read this to understand the love language of their partner and themselves.
i loved everything about this book. Its simplicity and its ability to help the reader understand how to apply the principles of the five love languages. i also really enjoyed the stories and real life examples. i am truly grateful because i now know how to speak my partners primary love language and i have discoverd mine.
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