What emerged from the Gottmans' collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that's based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends; and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at 10 couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems, extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy, and examine what they've done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track.
Giving an insider's view of the Love Lab, the Gottmans take the listener step-by-step through the couples' conversations, before and after they are counseled. The authors also provide an analysis of the couples' interactions, identifying their core problems and offering suggestions for resolving them. By "listening" to the discussions in this way, you will learn to detect the most common stumbling blocks of a relationship and, most important, how to avoid them.
©2006 John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, and Joan DeClaire; (P)2006 Books on Tape
The narrator. I don't know what it was, but she was very difficult to listen to. I feel like I missed out on a lot of good advice because I could not focus on her narration.
Monotone, drab, uninteresting
If your Married and or thinking of marriage then you need to experience and embrace the concepts with one caveate (if your a man don't lose your basic nature of being a guy). Couples need to maintain and improve this interaction that was part and parcel of the courtship process. Men especially need to remember this process so that they can help their spouse stay open and build a relationship that is even larger than what brought the two lovers together. Plan, design and pursue each other to the beneift of those around them and the children watching every move they make. The premise and real world examples are to be taken seriously and imbibed deeply to ensure that both parties are understood and more fully realized. Listen and Read this book as well as the prequel to give your relationship every chance of flourishing for a liftetime. Women will identify with this more readily than men but the lesson is not to be denied or overlooked or trivialized. Pay attention to what your experiencing.
the excerpted real world dialogue.
it's just OK.
To understand more about how Women want there long-term dialogue to be [especially if they are into the NOW and that they should get any and all that they feel that they should want] don't deny the revealing of this important skill to fully realized what your marriage can be.
Learn this skill and add it to your quiver of skills to menuever through this life, but remain yourself at your core.
Maybe if you like monotonous reading.
NO! It is very slow in the advance of the book and quite hard to follow.
Probably yes, but I couldnt stand to hear it all. Probably the written version is MUCH BETTER than the readed one.
Check well the samples before buying a book. ;)
I just couldn't handled the way this book was written. It replays a bunch of conversations analyzing what every single sentance means - it is agonizing to listen to. The content may be OK - I don't know. It was worse than reading a text book. I am not giving up on the topic, just this book.
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