With Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 best-seller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters - and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy.
In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love.
Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse.
Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can't Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests.
Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can't Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.
©2013 Susan Forward (P)2013 HarperCollins Publishers
Empowering. Inspiring. Helpful.
I love this narrator! Her voice is comforting and genuine. She really brings this book to life.
This book helped me more than any other similar book has. The author really hits the nail on the head and she gave me permission to heal. She was pulling thoughts out of my head and she will hold your hand and walk you through every twist and turn. I noticed myself thinking questions like "how do I" and "what if" and "yeah, but"... well, keep listening. She will address everything you're thinking about. And, this is the first book that was powerful enough to actually get me to do the exercises - and I felt so good after I did them. The first exercise was startling for me in how powerful it was. I ended up outside late at night, barefoot, in my pajamas, smiling and feeling so happy!! I don't want to spoil anything, but don't dismiss the exercises (like you usually do, and like I usually do.)
If you're looking for permission to heal, to overcome and summon your strength to find joy and meaning for yourself, this is the book.
The book for me was so hard to hear, but it transformed my life. I thought I was the only going through the pain regarding my mother, but no, to my relief there are many daughters like me going through the same thing. I am very grateful to Susan Forward in writing this book. It has changed my life and gave me the courage and strength I need to move forward and not feel guilty in doing so.
Must read for anybody recovering from the abuse of a narcissistic mother, regardless of what stage you're at in the recovery process. I read numerous books and watched hours upon hours of YouTube videos about healing from the abuse prior to listening to this book and thought I'd hear something similar to the rest but this one stands alone as one of the best!
I'd recommend this to anyone struggling to understand her mother's rejecting behavior. Raised by an emotionally distant, neglectful, and abusive mother, I thought I was the source of my mental anguish. I am not. This book helps me acknowledge the painful impact of my mother's parenting style on my life, choices, and day-to-day responses to other people. I used it to support the work I am doing in therapy. I highly recommend it. Coming to grips with my mother's past and present behavior is hard work, and this is a useful tool. Not the complete solution, but part of a therapeutic toolbox.
There is a future for people who were unloved by their parents. This book helped me to see this.
I wish there was more information about children whose mothers beat them.
I'm not alone, there are many of us who grew up in a home where neither parent wanted us, and yet we can have a life.
Reading this book and others on this subject can help you to see how.
Yes. It is very practical.
Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward
This is a must read for any daughter that has a difficult relationship with her mother.
Forward lays out the territory clearly and gives straightforward instructions about how to work with it. She does a great job going back and forth between the big picture and specific examples. Even after working on this subject for decades in and out of therapy, and being a therapist myself, I found this book very helpful after a recent "drive by" by my mother. I wrote her an email that was very consistent with what Dr. Forward suggests and it was quite freeing and gave me the clarity and closure I needed.
I was surprised that I have been dealing with this for years and never had any explanation for my mothers behavior. Thank you. Now to begin the healing,
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