Us

Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

By: Terrence Real

Narrated by: Terrence Real, Bruce Springsteen

Length: 10 hrs and 11 mins

Publisher's summary

Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of the renowned family therapist and bestselling author of The New Rules of Marriage

“This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop

Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important.

At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.

In his transformative new book Us, Real brilliantly observes how our winner-takes-all culture infiltrates families with devastating results: repetitive fights that go nowhere, or a distant relationship in which partners end up living “alone together.” With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that’s based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness.

Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin.

*Includes a downloadable PDF of charts and diagrams from the book

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2022 Terrence Real (P)2022 Random House Audio

Critic reviews

“A beautiful and important book, particularly for the moment we are in.”—Bruce Springsteen, from the foreword

“When I need advice, I call Terry Real. His decades of clinical experience, research, and wisdom are invaluable to my patients, colleagues, and friends. Us brings his advice to life. It is the book that we all need to read to create more thriving and intimate connections.”—Esther Perel, New York Times bestselling author and podcast host of Where Should We Begin

“Terry Real is a wise, honest, and charming guide. This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy. Real’s approach teaches us how to step outside of the culture of individualism and embrace our interconnectedness. We can use it to heal a single relationship and to shift our collective culture.”—Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop

Us by Terry Real

Wow. This audiobook is amazing. It is not only for therapists. Everyone should read it. Definitely listen to it again. Thank you Terry

Amazing, beautiful and so useful. Mind blowing!

I am just so grateful for this mind blowing book!! Amazed!! It’s so deep and wonderful!

Excellent

I can't wait to put my new knowledge to use. Very grateful to the author.

Could Not Reccomend More

For those of us who wish to be closer to our partner, kinder to ourselves and in the world in a way that is compassionate and propels our social evolution this is a book for all of us. First, understand and address our childhood injuries,. Second develop a kinder and wiser adult voice. Third, interact with our partners and lloved ones with more self awareness and increased wisdom. Finally, show up in the world as a force of support, collaboration and sustainability because we are all related, connected and a small part of a greater web of all creation. What effects one of us effects us all.

Incredible

Pia Mellody’s work is life-changing, and to hear it put simply, in the words of Terry Real has been an absolute treat!

Best book on relationships I’ve ever read.

Beautifully written and performed. Recommend for any committed couple. The last chapter and epilogue contains a very wise and meta perspective on our world.

Insightful

Loved it. It was a great listen. It was very insightful and thought-provoking. Must read!

should be mandatory to read this

This book is a true guide to relationships! Everyone should read if they want an amazing and healthy lasting loving relationship!

US from Terry Reel has profoundly changed my world

There are profound ideas in Terry Reels book that I hadn't heard before but make total sense. How he dissects and dismantles patriarchy and sees relationship transformation and therapy as the antidote is just one of them. It's so simple its revolutionary. I read it in physical form and audiobook and it's just such an added value to hear Bruce Springsteen's and Terry's voice, like you're in a session together. Life changing!

Pivotal Relations Book

Strong usable examples of exercises and thought guides specifically for adult relationships. I appreciated how he linked out behaviors into community and culture as well. Highly recommended.