Narcissistic Mothers

A Daughter’s Guide to Dealing with Narcissistic Mothers, Recovering from CPTSD, and Healing Emotional Wounds (Break Free and Recover from Unhealthy Relationships)

By: Linda Hill

Narrated by: Elizabeth Kaster

Length: 3 hrs and 54 mins

Publisher's summary

Learn to Handle a Narcissistic Mother, Reclaim Your Life, and Start Your Journey Toward Recovery.

Do you feel like you are living a lie? Do you always feel at fault? Do you doubt every move you make? Are relationships like war zones in your life? Do you attract toxic situations? Do you shrink inside your uncomfortable skin?

These are some of the many valid emotions that arise from dysfunctional interaction with a narcissistic carer. Being born to a narcissistic mother can be one of the most destructive scenarios to face, and some daughters never find peace, not even after the death of their mother.

This book addresses the realities of maternal narcissistic victimization. You will:

• Learn to see how the narcissistic mind operates and identify their language.
• Discover facts about narcissistic personality disorder and its effects on the daughter.
• Understand various parenting styles and how they impact you Identify and relate to typical family dynamics as they are manipulated by the narcissistic mother.
• Recover from the devastating effects of CPTSD.
• Discover how to withstand triangulation, gaslighting, splitting, projection, and personal violations.
• Learn how to breach the narcissistic mother’s control.
• Learn to spot the signs and how to turn them to your advantage.
• Find simple yet effective strategies and tips to heal your self-esteem and recreate your sense of self-worth.
• Learn the power of healthy separation.
• Discover hope in finding solutions for situations that trigger your miserable memories.
• Take action against abuse by building healthy boundaries.
• Recover your confidence and heal your emotional wounds.
• Avoid repetitively toxic behaviors in different environments.
• Liberate yourself, heal yourself, and re-mother yourself.
• Break free from the spiraling cycle and stop living a life of mood disturbances, isolation, and insecurity.

The choice is yours. The ability is already there; you simply need a helping hand.

©2022 Faye Wu (P)2022 Faye Wu

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Narcissistic mothers

At the introduction part,we get to know that the trap of tragin limits a person the trap of clampying constraints a person,this two words are the abused daughters of narcissistic mothers . at this part,we will get to know what narcissism is;narcissism,it is reflected from the word narcissist,who is exessive of self love with his reflection caused her dimiss.So narcissism is an inflated self image and addiction defentacy that is characterised by an usual coolness and composure shaking only when narsisstic components is dreamed and the tendency to take others for granted or to exploit them .and the worst tragedy of it is Narcissistic mothers can’t even realise or knowledge this fact because nobody can threaten them or have authority over them.narcissistism becomes a threat when the behaviour continues when it can be identified as a disorder.

Chapter 1;Narcissistic personality types and subtypes :
In this chapter,we will get to understand narcissistic mothers on how they think and perceive the world.we will also look at the psychological disorders and explore the differences between the subtypes of narcissistic personality disorder .in this chapter we get to understand that narcissistic mothers are classified differentlyin level of their personality like;grandal narcissistic mothers,they can’t differentiate truth and reality ,because they believe that they derserve everything ,this individuals are arrogant,pron to external anger,aggressive.,they are also extroverted individuals and also emotional.cover narcissistic personality disorder,vulnerable narcissists are very difficult to identify because their narcissistic behaviours are hidden.they devlop hyper sesnsitivty when they are criticised,and there insecurity is rooted in an underline issues ,they are socialy awkward.narcissists mothers never know that their behaviour affects other despite their feelings areattomatic,but there behaviour are preventable.

Chapter2;causes of narcissism and preventing manifestation;
In this chapter we are going to know causes of narcissism and cold parenting being one of the causes.over pampering is thought to be problematic as well.over parenting is also problematic .fidst we will get to know what causes MD ,and here they are; inheribility,when children learn from narcissistic mothers .more so those who can’t regulate emotional.genetics ,environmental factors ,social and development factors.the chapter also enable us know the healthier ways of parenting our children so that they don’t be narcissistic victims;positive reinforcement istead of punishment,it’s benefit is the child becomes independent,permissive parenting.generally narcissistic parental affects the children making them exhausted because of energy drain from the narcissistic mothers,and ways of avoiding this is first knowing narcissism and taking guidlines on factors associated with development MD.

Chapter3;Narcissistic family dynastics;
A disfunctional family dynamic with narcissistic parents damages the children for many years and its legacy is miserable but it can be changed and reinvented by children,mostly when the children unite and decide to change narcissistic tendencies.in this chapter we will get to know this complicated dynamics .objectification of the daughter,objectification is a deep violation of one’slife.narcissistic mothers turns their daughters into objects without caring.effect of narcissistic mothers to their sons is that they like pressurizing them so that they can succeed.this chapter will also enables us know some of the ways of objectification.one is the golden child is the crown princess of the family since they bring glory and mostly treated well. The golden child is the favourite child,they also under go challenges mostly when they fail the narcissistic mothers and they also become gross since they want people to treat them like narcissistic mothers this because they consider themselves special.narcissistic mothers treat their children bad in that they become anxious,emotional and this bring long term effect like being confiused and difficult to understand. Narcissistic children go through hard time since they live in authoritative life,atimes they seem orphans but they are not,despite some of narcissistic mothers are kind,nevertheless their daughters go through hard time mostly during their relationship choice,and their mothers like putting blames on them.impact of narcissistic mothers,the general impact is negative.

Chapter4;protection from a narcissistic mother
In order to survive,you have to be strong when you are near narcissists .in this cahapter,we will get to know how we can protect children from narcissistic mothers.just from the previous chapter,we have get to know that the only impact a narcissistic mother has to her children is negstivity,since their children ever doubt themselves,they underrate themselves,because you will find this children like pleasing than prioriting their needs first.this chapter,will help us get ways on which this children can protect themselves from narcissistic mothers,and the best one is creating boundary,this help them focus on their needs, and here are the steps you should follow;identifying your boundaries,manage your personal agenda,share the only essential details and taking back power as an individual,implementing securing boundaries and managing your engagement with narcissistic mothers,managing triggers when your narcissistic mother triggers on how to hurt you.know yourself,establish plans on how you will handle this triggers,walk away from her and be indipendent,and lastly try to understand them and this applies mostly when they do wrong,don’t try to prove them wrong since they can’t belive and therefore stay calm.
Chapter5;avoiding toxic relationships


Narcissistic mothers often use holding love as a form of punishment,they use it silently,they blame their children that their behaviour resulted to lack of happiness in the family and so they tend to invade the view points of their children without empathy,they heart break them and now they come with this in a relationship because of their consequences are diverstating.this affects the children when they form relationship with their friends or romantic relationship because they display this behaviour an d then loosing their self esteem,this children mostly struggle to fight against anger and therefore their relationship are short leaved with full of emotion , conflict and instability,this make them judge themselves that they don’t deserve to be loved.they lose control,they even start using drugs and drinking . just from the chapter’s title,this are some of the ways of avoiding this toxic relationship;rebuildi g your self esteem,be able to handle triggers,manging attraction, avoid toxic working environments.


Chapter6;Re-mothering the Daughter;
In this chapter,daughters of narcissistic mothers,need to train themselves to become mothers in their own,in that whatever happened to them was real but now they need to change and practice a different createria on how to end narcissistic behaviour like stop fearing and practising self love.you need to do this,not for your personal beneficiary but for also your children and others who engage intimately with you.remothering is ability to understand narcissistic mother and stop trying to change her and remother yourself from self brokenness and oprehensive wholeness. In this step,to help your physical recovery,you need to nature empathy to yourself since you lacked it from your primary care taker,remothering yourself is also making peace between you and your past,self expression as also away of recovery and remothring yourself,,being confident when you are implementing change to yourself,emotional expression in that you need to hear yourself first.


Chappter7;CPTSD Recovery
In this chapter,CPTSD is introduced to bring hope to those who think they are injured.CPTSD mostly affects inner feelings,what is CPTSD?,Is defined as a subtype of PTSD resulting to various factors of long term trauma.it results to avoidance tendency,attension difficulties,anxiety arisal,difficulty in social engagement,exaggerated responses and hypervigilant than PTSD.the most prominent symptoms of a person suffering from CPTSD are;they are hyper vigilant and perceive the world as unsafe,they appear rigid and never relax,the anxity issues ,they are easily alarmed and suffer from sleep disruptions,they also feele like abandoned.this chapter also enable us to know the difference in similarity between CPTSD and PTSD.Ways of recovering from CPTSD;conducting trauma base therapy,reconnection and reinteration,rediscovering yourself,reconsideration,undergoing counselling and stop dwelling from the past,reshaping the brain by paying attention on what you want .


Chapter8;liberation and healing guidelines
There is no growth without real feeling.forgiveness is a crusial element in recovering from the rage and frustration that linger the abused child.in this chapter,we consider forgiveness is part of healing,you need to forgive your narcissistic mother despite she never satisfied your needs. as forgiveness play a role in health relief .in this chapter,we will focus on healing journey.this are some of the instruction in healing process;liminating the wrong doing and farmiliarizing in yourself with your own needs,finding the gratitude in yourself,establishing empathy to the offender and developing a life style of forgiving and starting with your own.

Conclusion
In this part,the author conclude by saying the past we can not change and the true color of trauma is reality,one that limits,one that defines and one that repeat itself.to heal from this challenging in a personal distress you have to face your inner being ,despite your narcissistic mother never treated you fairly,you need to commit in helping her despite of her weakness ,you must love her for who she has become.daughers of narcissistic mothers you need to break the circle by taking action to those narcissistic behaviours.and you as a mother,it’s your responsibility to save you incoming children and be a great inspire to

Strongly recommend.

● Great Narrators pronunciation.
●Plot and flow of events is easy to follow
● Vivid description and appropriate examples making it easier to understand.
● Educative, evolves in real life issues.
● Characters, Characteristics and bonds are greatly developed.
● appropriate reference incase one needs clarification.
● Theme(s) derived from every day activities and people we interact with.
● use of simple language and grammar making it easier to understand despite the books involving medical terms.

Pain Loss Trauma from a NARCISSTIC mother

Got the chills and some at some point a bit emotional throughout the book while listening .It managed to surpass my expectations as someone who has been looking for answers for ages. Lost count of the 'Uhuh' moments having been a daughter of an extremely narcissistic mother .I now have clarity of my narcissistic mothers behavior towards me and our unhealthy relationship from childhood to date.
Looking forward to applying the tips herein to mold a good relationship with my daughter and other relationships.
As someone who constantly struggled for love, I would highly recommend his audiobook to help heal your emotional wounds and just find closure. For all the Pain, Loss, Manipulation etc. I can only quote 'The Past Cannot be Changed, Only Understood.'
Great narration too. Helpful audiobook.

This Book Spoke to me Personally

As the daughter of a narcissistic mother, this book set me on a path to recovery from my difficult past.

I grew up with a narcissistic mother. She filled me with low self esteem and set me on a path of accepting abuse from others even as an adult. I ended up staying in many long term relationships with people who did not appreciate me or treat me with love or care.

Ms. Hill’s book was an accessible read and has set me on a healing path to break the cycle of abuse that narcissism creates. I learnt how to first notice the patterns of abuse from my narcissistic mother, and then how to confront my own feelings about what I believe I deserve.

The book provides hope and explains the origins of narcissism in a way that is clear and measured. It gives solutions that are grounded in psychology, such as explaining the dynamics between siblings who grew up within a narcissistic home. Mothers picking obvious favorites. This can cause the rest of the children to develop maladaptive coping mechanisms, as they struggle to free themselves from the need to gain their mother’s approval, ultimately failing to gain an identity of their own.

The best part of the book was how actively it inspires us to get help and recover from our abusive pasts. The last part of the book focuses on understanding trauma and what it takes to recover. Hill shows us that we can find hope within our communities. She inspired me to take steps to face my own trauma and to believe in my own worth. The book helped me understand the immense rewards that could come from recovery and equipped me with the tools to talk about what had happened to me without fear or shame.

If you are trying to recover from the trauma of having a narcissistic mother, I would highly recommend you read this book.

Narcissistic Mothers

If you want a brief introduction into narcissistic mothers with some tips on how to recover from their negative effects then this book is for you. When I say brief I really mean it. Is that a bad thing? No, definitely not. It is far from an in-depth account on the role narcissistic mothers have in the trauma of children and their arrested development. The tips given will play a role in your recovery but I still believe that one should have a solid understanding on how trauma affects the body and brain particularly in children. The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk would be a good book for this. Recovery from CPTSD is a little more than just journaling and positive thinking (although good techniques in recovery) which seems to be a central theme of the tips provided in this book. In saying this, Caroline really does pack the pages with just enough information to begin your recovery from the negative effects of narcissistic mothers. And this information is important for everyone including those who have not been affected by narcissistic mothers.

Because of the brief nature of this book, it would be excellent for when you need a reminder on certain topics, for example the three roles assigned to children by a narcissistic mother. Each section is neatly laid out which allows for quick access to the particularly bits of information one requires in that moment. Although the way the book is written is very simplified and at times is repetitive and lacks good vocabulary, it really doesn't take away from the message being delivered and that is important. The way Caroline has written this works and she does mention how the book is written right at the beginning. It was meant to be this way. It is very easy to read and this supports the notion that the book is meant to be picked up quickly when you need reminding about something on narcissist mothers

Helpful

Such a great audiobook. I haven't listened to something so helpful like this. I have the greater understanding of narcissistic traits. After going through the same while growing it's the best thing to have this book . It helps in recovering from such relationship and avoiding toxic relationship. I will help others too with the knowledge from this great book

Don't let anyone control your happiness except you

Thank you Linda Hill, your book is encouraging to listen to because it provides me with more hope and tools for recovery. Hill shines a light on the variety of traits found in the narcissist. She tells us how to cope and move forward. There's a lot of relatable content here so it was a bit of relief listening to examples similar to what ive experienced. It tackles unhealthy narcissistic mothering patterns and the daughters who are victimized by this. It tells about the effects of being the daughter of a narcissistic mother and ways to overcome.This can translate into other types of unhealthy relationships one may experience aswell, so if you're there, you should listen to this.  This is very good to read if you are a child of a narcissistic parent, or in a narcissistic partnership professionally or intimately. It teaches ways to create boundaries heal, and progress. I started & finished this in 1 afternoon and am feeling calm, tranquil and able to be happy! Don't let anyone control your happiness!

Great help for dealing with Narcissistic Mothers

I decided to read this book because I believe I am the daughter of a narcissist mother and I wanted to see how I could improve upon my relationship with my mother. This book didn’t disappoint and it actually confirmed for me that I do have a narcissistic mother. There were so many great topics discussed here and I will say there are some key points made that have actually really helped me adjust.

Mommy Problems Solved on Narcissistic Mothers

Wow. I do not usually try to tackle my mommy issues. Daughters of narcissistic mothers seem to have painful breakups. Here, Linda Hill tackles proud greif and takes back the theme of being robbed of life.

Ms. Hill discusses ways to make assessments on identifying narcissistic tendencies and behaviors of mothers. Ms. Hill also focuses on tips to graduate beyond narcissistic damage done by narcissistic mothers who have caused pain in their children's adult lives.