How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

By: Patricia Love, Steven Stosny

Narrated by: Laural Merlington

Length: 6 hrs and 49 mins

Publisher's summary

Men are right.

Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied the all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn’t bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart.

The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work. A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can’t happen through words.

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require "trying to turn a man into a woman". Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.

Download the accompanying reference guide.

©2007 Patricia Love and Steven Stosny (P)2011 Tantor

Critic reviews

"Inspirational... a practical guide for men and women to overcome their challenges and come together outside and inside the bedroom." (John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

Exceptionally

This book has changed my life and the way I deal with problems that arise in my marriage especially the way I see my husband.

10 years later...

I used this book to help me with my marriage. 10 years later, I’m divorced and in therapy. The ideas in the book work but both parties need to commit to these ideas. I use these tactics with my students.

helpful

as helpful as you are willing to make it and work on your relationship. You have to walk the walk and talk the talk so to speak. Good ideas but need the discipline to put them into place.

Great Book

the narrator was very good I enjoyed every chapter and all the positive information that it had to offer I plan on keeping this close to me and listening to it a few more times.

Easy and Basic

What a fantastic relief to have someone simply the why's of many lover's conflicts.
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A must listen for all struggling in a relationship

There is alot of good information in this unfortunately it seems to be written from a female prospective. Hang in there men get through it.

The best relationship book EVER

This book has given me the best relationship understanding and roadmap to improving my relationship! I am so impressed at how the author starts strong from the beginning to articulate the difference in the way the different sexes interpret communication and responses. I have listened to dozens of relationship books and this one truly made a difference from the word go! I highly recommend this book for anyone who is trying to understand why they have not been able to get the satisfaction and closeness in their relationship. the author not only has the right content but it is presented in an easy to understand format that doesn't leave any guesswork. how can something so simple have been so elusive, well this book answers that question!

Helpful!

Surprised how helpful it was for me/us! It is refreshingly insightful, practical, helpful and highly recommended!

This revolutionized my marriage

I’ve been with my husband for 25 years and since reading this book, our relationship has been transformed. Without talking about it. It knocked my socks off. A must-read for every relationship.

Analytical women here. Excellent read, no gimmicks.

Excellent book. Highly recommend. No gimmicks. The read is great, I speed it up to 1.2.