William Ury, co-author of the classic best seller on negotiation Getting to Yes, has taught tens of thousands of people from all walks of life - managers, salespeople, students, parents, lawyers, and diplomats - how to become better negotiators. Over the years, Ury has discovered that the greatest obstacle to successful agreements and satisfying relationships is not the other side, as difficult as they can be. The biggest obstacle is actually ourselves - our natural tendency to react in ways that do not serve our true interests.
But this obstacle can also become our biggest opportunity, Ury argues. If we learn to understand and influence ourselves first, we lay the groundwork for understanding and influencing others. In this indispensable prequel to Getting to Yes, Ury draws deeply on his personal and professional experience negotiating conflicts around the world to present a practical method to help you get to yes with yourself first, dramatically improving your ability to get to yes with others.
Extraordinarily useful and elegantly simple, Getting to Yes with Yourself is an essential guide to achieving the inner satisfaction that will, in turn, make your life better, your relationships healthier, your family happier, your work more productive, and the world around you more peaceful.
©2015 William Ury (P)2015 HarperCollins Publishers
The author gives many examples of how becoming my own best friend is the best and only way to find/follow my purpose and give to others. It's the old airplane instructions of "put your own oxygen mask on first before you go to help another".
If you are wallowing in self pity/shame and/or resistant to see your part in your life issues (all my fault vs nothing is my fault)- listen to this book and learn that those feelings and paradigms are ineffective at bringing us to what we truly want- safety and connection.
I loved the way in which Ury provides practical scaffolding to achieve inner peace and equilibrium. In a very clear logical but poignant and poetic way, he provides a wonderful framework for silencing that inner saboteur to get the most out of ones life.
I listen to this book whenever I'm struggling to find peace in my life. It's truly transformative. Uri can sound monotone to some but to me he sounds like an old friend with kind words. It's my favorite of his work. I hope to meet him one day after listening to this book!
Listen while I work, ride, drive & run.
A necessary corrective in the series. The first step in conflict resolution cum management is dealing with ourselves so we have that much more awareness of the needs of others.
I found myself wishing the narrator had more vim and vigor. In my experience, most audiobooks have several ah-hah moments. This one did not.
"When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." I've been waiting for this book for a long time. Profound. Practical and compassionate.
This book filled in so many gaps for me that it is hard to write a review without telling my life story, and how this information, had I had it to hand, could have abbreviated much gnashing of teeth and wasted years. I recommend it. Wholeheartedly.
I love personal growth – I've listened to and read many books. This one is at the very top of the list of my all-time favorites.
Did not find as many solid gold nuggets here, not as I had hoped. There are many good general goals presented, but I have so far been unable to conceptualize the actual plan to make it happen. I will probably relished to this later to perhaps hear the message better.
Once again, William Ury takes the concept of negotiating and makes it simple for all of us to access. Interesting and compelling twist on the topic by focusing on our need to negotiate with ourselves before we ever begin negotiating with others. Highly recommend it as an audio book
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