©2008 Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.; (P)2008 Macmillan Audio
"I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship." (M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled)
I appreciated the psychology incorporated into the book! I would have to say there were too many scenarios. I want to hear more about how to get the love you want. I have gained a lot from this book-definitely will recommend.
I don't think three words are enough for this crazy adventure I just went on.
I liked how this book was very thorough. The narrator explains how our brains work within our relationships in terms that are easy to understand.
The Hidden Agenda of Your Subconscious!
Though this book seems to be written for couples who are already going through the "power struggle" and learning how to get their relationship back, I decided to give it a try. I'm 27 and currently living with my boyfriend of three years. We have had a great relationship so far but this book taught me some of the underlying tensions that seem to develop over time. An entire new world has just been opened to me and it has terrified me and exhilarated me. I've just learned things about my past that I've never known before and with this new information, I can move forward in my relationship with a better light.
I'm pretty sure everyone can learn something new about themselves with this book. Even if you're single and not even interested in a romantic love right now, the knowledge in this book will put what you need from a relationship in a new perspective. I highly recommend it to every human being.
This provides major insights into how relationships work or don't work.
It clarifies a lot of the crazy things that go on in even healthy relationships. It gives you tools to look at those issues and all the pain around them. It gives you ways to work on them and possibly come out to a different result finally.
Both thumbs up!
I don't buy the "heal your childhood wounds" schtick, but that might be semantics, because I can understand that we can associate certain behavior patterns with emotional reactions that seem nonsensical and these come up more readily in our romantic relationships....
Had to get that off my chest first. This book was very interesting and has a lot of exercises and ideas that I think can be very very useful and effective for couples. I also agree with a lot of the reasoning behind these exercises even if I don't hold much faith in the Freudian models of the unconscious.
The book is written in a tone which suggests "you wouldn't understand the deeper meanings behind this stuff so just trust me, I'm an expert" which is usually quite infuriating to me, but since this book was suggested by someone I highly respect I kept myself from turning it off and I'm glad I did, because i think there is a lot of value if you can week through some of the over the top case studies and intense "age play" types of exercises.
The narrator is over the top.
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The story line was bland and descriptive rather than prescriptive.
Disappointment - Couldn't event finish it and wished I could have returned it in exchange for something my informative and enjoyable.
It was only one book, how did I end up like this?
This book is about going deep and really digging under the surface. I strongly suggest it to any couple who's interested in lasting relationship.
I really hated the mixing of different audio files... I guess some parts of the audiobook were from the old version and some from the new version. Poorly mixed, really.
First, I do think some of their conclusions come his spiritual beliefs. Particularly the idea that there is a purpose to the disfunction in our love relationships, specifically, that they exist for us to heal childhood wounds. I would agree that there is a serendipitous opportunity for healing in relationship. However, a purpose presupposes some design. I don't see any way to prove that. Nor do I see it as necessary for the other conclusions to be valid. That being said, the book is full of a lot of useful techniques. I've particularly valued the mirroring techniques over the years. Using the ritual form of the mirroring is useful, since as soon as you say, "Let me if I got this," your partner may start to relax, knowing that you are trying to hear what they have to say. I find this a very practical book.
Some useful stuff here, if you can wade through the fundamentalist and narcissistic parts....
He sounds like Wilfred Brimley. Kind of amusing.
This book was easy to follow and the stories of other couples made the steps toward a better relationship seem doable.
You need to want to have a better relationship and you need to learn how to listen.
I listened to this book longer than i thought i would every time i turned it on!
A winner for anyones relationship!
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