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Getting the Love You Want Audiobook

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: 20th Anniversary Edition

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Publisher's Summary

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. This 20th-anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to the groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix's updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples' daily interactions, allowing listeners of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.

©2008 Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.; (P)2008 Macmillan Audio

What the Critics Say

"I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship." (M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled)

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    J. Sauer Phoenix, AZ 09-22-15
    J. Sauer Phoenix, AZ 09-22-15 Member Since 2014

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    "This Book | The Workbook Improved My Communication Immensely!"

    I saw an interview w/ Alanis Morissette,
    Singer-songwriter on Oprah and felt so connected to her story. She and Oprah highly recommended this book/workshop. After reading all Harville's books, and listening to this audiobook three times, I'm convinced the workbook & workshops will change me in my relationships. My boyfriend was triggered by the idea of a workbook, but each week it gets easier as we do the work. I find myself reading & listening when my relationships aren't feeling right and I always discover it's me who needs todo the work. I absolutely love this book as well as all the books Harville and his wife have written together. Imago has provided me and my partner with a rich understanding how Our dialogue changes reactionary behaviors. As I have been working toward healing from childhood traumas, this book has helped me understand my emotional triggers and that running away from relationships when I'm triggered isn't the answer when I have a partner willing to work through my pain. The difficulty this book doesn't go into is understanding how to relate to a partner who denies any childhood pain. He claims his parents were wonderful and he's always felt loved and safe; whereas I feel the opposite. It's a struggle for him to understand my emotional triggers. I am; however, strengthened and enlightened knowing I can have beautiful and loving relationships if I'm willing to do this IMAGO work.

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    Heidi Bakersfield, Ca, United States 08-27-13
    Heidi Bakersfield, Ca, United States 08-27-13 Member Since 2013
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    "Some helpful advice"

    This book does have some helpful advice amongst a lot of information I feel that was not helpful and could of been left out. Would suggest for both people in the relationship to read it for maximum benefit .

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    mpb new york city 06-25-13
    mpb new york city 06-25-13 Member Since 2010
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    "Very good insight into relationships"
    Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

    Very good insight into relationships but a little too dramatic. There are many tricks that will help any relationship to get better however it gets to a point where it is way to deep, too dramatic and almost painful to hear.


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    Nelle nell 04-23-17
    Nelle nell 04-23-17 Member Since 2016
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    "very helpful and insightful"

    it's very clear and explains why we pick the mates we do and how we can utilize our mates to help us heal childhood wounds

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    Galia Ismakova 03-11-17 Member Since 2016

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    "Good marriage renewal book"

    very systematic way of looking at marriage renewal with the help of therapy. some exercises appear to be difficult , especially if other partner is unwilling, not motivatef

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    Carolina Villamizar 02-23-17 Member Since 2017

    What a wonderful world!

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    "a must read!"

    Divorce, unhappiness, failure, what did happen in my life? what did happen to me to us? this book helped me so much to understand the whole purpose of being in a relationship. It is a wonderful well written guide to be better at loving and accepting the love from someone. I wish I had read this book before, but helped in my healing process, gave me reasons to forgive and to understand many things. Totally worth to read it! totally worth to keep it!

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    Nick W. 02-09-17
    Nick W. 02-09-17
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    "highly recommend"

    best couples guide i have ever came upon. and I have a keen interest in this topic

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    Jack 02-02-17
    Jack 02-02-17 Member Since 2016
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    ""How to be a Human""

    Just be nice. Systematically teaches you how to be a nice person and thus receive love.

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    Nicole 11-22-16
    Nicole 11-22-16 Member Since 2016
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    "SUPERB"

    Very, Very Helpful. I will be downloading more of his books. Thank you Audible! It was so convenient for me.

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    Dovile 09-08-16
    Dovile 09-08-16 Member Since 2016
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    I found it sometimes not so interesting to listen but very useful if you practice the exercises.

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