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Getting the Love You Want Audiobook

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: 20th Anniversary Edition

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. This 20th-anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to the groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix's updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples' daily interactions.
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Publisher's Summary

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. This 20th-anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to the groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix's updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples' daily interactions, allowing listeners of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.

©2008 Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.; (P)2008 Macmillan Audio

What the Critics Say

"I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship." (M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled)

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    mpb new york city 06-25-13
    mpb new york city 06-25-13 Member Since 2010
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    "Very good insight into relationships"
    Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

    Very good insight into relationships but a little too dramatic. There are many tricks that will help any relationship to get better however it gets to a point where it is way to deep, too dramatic and almost painful to hear.


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    Bill S. 12-09-15
    Bill S. 12-09-15

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    If your relationship is in trouble, read this book and do the exercises with your partner. If your relationship isn't in trouble, read this book and do the exercises with your partner.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    J. Sauer Phoenix, AZ 09-22-15
    J. Sauer Phoenix, AZ 09-22-15 Member Since 2014

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    "This Book | The Workbook Improved My Communication Immensely!"

    I saw an interview w/ Alanis Morissette,
    Singer-songwriter on Oprah and felt so connected to her story. She and Oprah highly recommended this book/workshop. After reading all Harville's books, and listening to this audiobook three times, I'm convinced the workbook & workshops will change me in my relationships. My boyfriend was triggered by the idea of a workbook, but each week it gets easier as we do the work. I find myself reading & listening when my relationships aren't feeling right and I always discover it's me who needs todo the work. I absolutely love this book as well as all the books Harville and his wife have written together. Imago has provided me and my partner with a rich understanding how Our dialogue changes reactionary behaviors. As I have been working toward healing from childhood traumas, this book has helped me understand my emotional triggers and that running away from relationships when I'm triggered isn't the answer when I have a partner willing to work through my pain. The difficulty this book doesn't go into is understanding how to relate to a partner who denies any childhood pain. He claims his parents were wonderful and he's always felt loved and safe; whereas I feel the opposite. It's a struggle for him to understand my emotional triggers. I am; however, strengthened and enlightened knowing I can have beautiful and loving relationships if I'm willing to do this IMAGO work.

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    Mark P. 08-25-15
    Mark P. 08-25-15 Member Since 2012
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    "Great listen on Audible"

    I enjoyed the book. it gave great examples on how to get the love you want. stuff I can try now.

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    Sommer 05-22-15
    Sommer 05-22-15
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    "Interesting"

    I appreciated the psychology incorporated into the book! I would have to say there were too many scenarios. I want to hear more about how to get the love you want. I have gained a lot from this book-definitely will recommend.

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    Nicole 03-24-15
    Nicole 03-24-15 Member Since 2015
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    "life changing"

    Loved it. Definitely saw myself in the book.. Privided valuable insight. Can't wait to do the exercises.

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    Find a Path with Heart 02-09-15

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    "Very informative and well organized"

    This provides major insights into how relationships work or don't work.

    It clarifies a lot of the crazy things that go on in even healthy relationships. It gives you tools to look at those issues and all the pain around them. It gives you ways to work on them and possibly come out to a different result finally.

    Both thumbs up!

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    Calin Chase 01-20-15
    Calin Chase 01-20-15 Member Since 2013
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    "Love and hate"

    I don't buy the "heal your childhood wounds" schtick, but that might be semantics, because I can understand that we can associate certain behavior patterns with emotional reactions that seem nonsensical and these come up more readily in our romantic relationships....

    Had to get that off my chest first. This book was very interesting and has a lot of exercises and ideas that I think can be very very useful and effective for couples. I also agree with a lot of the reasoning behind these exercises even if I don't hold much faith in the Freudian models of the unconscious.

    The book is written in a tone which suggests "you wouldn't understand the deeper meanings behind this stuff so just trust me, I'm an expert" which is usually quite infuriating to me, but since this book was suggested by someone I highly respect I kept myself from turning it off and I'm glad I did, because i think there is a lot of value if you can week through some of the over the top case studies and intense "age play" types of exercises.

    The narrator is over the top.

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    Robin L. Hill-Emmons Huntersville, NC, US 01-18-15
    Robin L. Hill-Emmons Huntersville, NC, US 01-18-15

    A farmer, activist, humanitarian& activist interested in all things health, wellness & vibrant living, whole heartedly & unapollogetically

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    "A yawn fest at it's best"
    What disappointed you about Getting the Love You Want?

    The story line was bland and descriptive rather than prescriptive.


    What do you think your next listen will be?

    not sure


    Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Jack Garrett?

    uncertain


    What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

    Disappointment - Couldn't event finish it and wished I could have returned it in exchange for something my informative and enjoyable.


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    Kerli 09-26-14
    Kerli 09-26-14

    It was only one book, how did I end up like this?

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    "A must read book for all the couples"

    This book is about going deep and really digging under the surface. I strongly suggest it to any couple who's interested in lasting relationship.

    I really hated the mixing of different audio files... I guess some parts of the audiobook were from the old version and some from the new version. Poorly mixed, really.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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