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Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: 20th Anniversary Edition | [Harville Hendrix]

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: 20th Anniversary Edition

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. This 20th-anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to the groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix's updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples' daily interactions.
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Publisher's Summary

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. This 20th-anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to the groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix's updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples' daily interactions, allowing listeners of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.

©2008 Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.; (P)2008 Macmillan Audio

What the Critics Say

"I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship." (M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled)

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    Sommer 05-22-15
    Sommer 05-22-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Interesting"

    I appreciated the psychology incorporated into the book! I would have to say there were too many scenarios. I want to hear more about how to get the love you want. I have gained a lot from this book-definitely will recommend.

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    Nicole 03-24-15
    Nicole 03-24-15 Member Since 2015
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    "life changing"

    Loved it. Definitely saw myself in the book.. Privided valuable insight. Can't wait to do the exercises.

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    Christina 03-21-15
    Christina 03-21-15

    I'm 27. I like listening to stories.

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    "Startling, Yet Thrilling!"
    If you could sum up Getting the Love You Want in three words, what would they be?

    I don't think three words are enough for this crazy adventure I just went on.


    What did you like best about this story?

    I liked how this book was very thorough. The narrator explains how our brains work within our relationships in terms that are easy to understand.


    If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

    The Hidden Agenda of Your Subconscious!


    Any additional comments?

    Though this book seems to be written for couples who are already going through the "power struggle" and learning how to get their relationship back, I decided to give it a try. I'm 27 and currently living with my boyfriend of three years. We have had a great relationship so far but this book taught me some of the underlying tensions that seem to develop over time. An entire new world has just been opened to me and it has terrified me and exhilarated me. I've just learned things about my past that I've never known before and with this new information, I can move forward in my relationship with a better light.
    I'm pretty sure everyone can learn something new about themselves with this book. Even if you're single and not even interested in a romantic love right now, the knowledge in this book will put what you need from a relationship in a new perspective. I highly recommend it to every human being.

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    Find a Path with Heart 02-09-15

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    "Very informative and well organized"

    This provides major insights into how relationships work or don't work.

    It clarifies a lot of the crazy things that go on in even healthy relationships. It gives you tools to look at those issues and all the pain around them. It gives you ways to work on them and possibly come out to a different result finally.

    Both thumbs up!

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    Calin Chase 01-20-15
    Calin Chase 01-20-15 Member Since 2013
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    "Love and hate"

    I don't buy the "heal your childhood wounds" schtick, but that might be semantics, because I can understand that we can associate certain behavior patterns with emotional reactions that seem nonsensical and these come up more readily in our romantic relationships....

    Had to get that off my chest first. This book was very interesting and has a lot of exercises and ideas that I think can be very very useful and effective for couples. I also agree with a lot of the reasoning behind these exercises even if I don't hold much faith in the Freudian models of the unconscious.

    The book is written in a tone which suggests "you wouldn't understand the deeper meanings behind this stuff so just trust me, I'm an expert" which is usually quite infuriating to me, but since this book was suggested by someone I highly respect I kept myself from turning it off and I'm glad I did, because i think there is a lot of value if you can week through some of the over the top case studies and intense "age play" types of exercises.

    The narrator is over the top.

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    Robin L. Hill-Emmons Huntersville, NC, US 01-18-15
    Robin L. Hill-Emmons Huntersville, NC, US 01-18-15 Member Since 2014

    A farmer, activist, humanitarian& activist interested in all things health, wellness & vibrant living, whole heartedly & unapollogetically

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    "A yawn fest at it's best"
    What disappointed you about Getting the Love You Want?

    The story line was bland and descriptive rather than prescriptive.


    What do you think your next listen will be?

    not sure


    Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Jack Garrett?

    uncertain


    What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

    Disappointment - Couldn't event finish it and wished I could have returned it in exchange for something my informative and enjoyable.


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    Kerli 09-26-14
    Kerli 09-26-14

    It was only one book, how did I end up like this?

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    "A must read book for all the couples"

    This book is about going deep and really digging under the surface. I strongly suggest it to any couple who's interested in lasting relationship.

    I really hated the mixing of different audio files... I guess some parts of the audiobook were from the old version and some from the new version. Poorly mixed, really.

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    David H Palo Alto, CA United States 02-21-14
    David H Palo Alto, CA United States 02-21-14 Member Since 2012
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    "A classic in the field of relationships"

    First, I do think some of their conclusions come his spiritual beliefs. Particularly the idea that there is a purpose to the disfunction in our love relationships, specifically, that they exist for us to heal childhood wounds. I would agree that there is a serendipitous opportunity for healing in relationship. However, a purpose presupposes some design. I don't see any way to prove that. Nor do I see it as necessary for the other conclusions to be valid. That being said, the book is full of a lot of useful techniques. I've particularly valued the mirroring techniques over the years. Using the ritual form of the mirroring is useful, since as soon as you say, "Let me if I got this," your partner may start to relax, knowing that you are trying to hear what they have to say. I find this a very practical book.

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    Scott Duclos, QC, Canada 06-04-13
    Scott Duclos, QC, Canada 06-04-13 Member Since 2010
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    "Some good ideas"
    What was the most interesting aspect of this story? The least interesting?

    Some useful stuff here, if you can wade through the fundamentalist and narcissistic parts....


    What aspect of Jack Garrett’s performance would you have changed?

    He sounds like Wilfred Brimley. Kind of amusing.


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    Jill 03-01-13
    Jill 03-01-13
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    "Bringing compassion and honesty to your marriage"
    Where does Getting the Love You Want rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This book was easy to follow and the stories of other couples made the steps toward a better relationship seem doable.


    What did you like best about this story?

    You need to want to have a better relationship and you need to learn how to listen.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    I listened to this book longer than i thought i would every time i turned it on!


    Any additional comments?

    A winner for anyones relationship!

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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