Based on 25 years of clinical experience and new, groundbreaking research involving more than 1,000 individuals, Feeling Good Together is filled with helpful examples and tools, such as the Relationship Satisfaction Test, the Blame Cost-Benefit Analysis, the Relationship Journal, Five Secrets of Effective Communication, the Intimacy Exercise, and more. Using these techniques, Dr. Burns shows you how to resolve virtually any kind of relationship conflict almost instantly.
©2008 David D. Burns, M.D.; (P)2008 Tantor
Like its predecessor, "Feeling Good," this book goes beyond fluffy pop psychology. It gives you some concrete cognitive behavioral therapy tools for improving your relationships.
That said, I am very displeased that it is labeled "unabridged," but refers to supplementary content, such as a questionnaire for evaluating your satisfaction in a relationship, that is apparently unavailable. To me, the book is less valuable without access to this content, hence the three-star rating.
I like this book/audio the best so far. Very good advice through out, now if I can just put it into action. The supplemental material can be found here.
I'm one good question away from the answer
Dr Burns gives you tools to communicate with people that you've built resentment with etc. A great way to change frustrating problems into solution.
I heard Dr. Burns talk about his work on a psychology podcast and was enchanted. He talked easily and excitedly about his theories of why most traditional couples' counseling fails, and why his new eclectic cognitive approach is more successful. But this audiobook has none of that intellectual and theoretical power. It is instead a plodding book filled with references to worksheets and questionnaires. I bought it as someone interested in theory and psychology who likes thinking about how to negotiate the complexity of relationships. This is truly not that kind of book. It is much more for the layperson who can't afford counseling and wants to try a workbook approach. It takes many chapters for him to actually get to the meat of his theory. By that point I feel a little misled, as if the introduction to the book - which promises to offer secrets to dissolve interpersonal conflict - has really only enticed me to buy the book.
This book has a lot of real life exemplas that we all go true on regular basis.
I wish Dr. Burns would have all his other best selling books available in audio as well.
This book seems to be aimed for those who are just beginning to look into how their own behavior affects their relationships. I have read many books, taken classes and seminars about relationships and emotional intelligence and have been in marriage counseling with my husband for 8 years and in personal therapy for even longer. The concepts presented here are for some one who believes that all of their issues are due to the other person's failings and does not recognize their own contribution to a troubled relationship. The tone of the book is not for the well informed or educated, thoughtful person, but for the "brute or bitch" who would not even be introspective enough to buy a book on improving relationships.
Full of fantastic examples and practice opportunities. Easy to follow, engaging and practical. Will be helpful for all aspects of life involving interpersonal communication.
I found this book very informative until I reached around chapter 20. after that it is mostly just exercises and practicing that ask you to use pen and paper to make lists and complete tasks. even practice with partners. It gives a nice breakdown of how different things you say can effect the outcome of a conversation and how you can reach the conclusions you want in an argument and reduce tension while helping you create a closer bond in your relationships.
I really like this book. Great techniques! Simple! Practical!
Homework must be done on paper!
I also bought the feeling good handbook and can't wait to start it!
I recommend this book to everyone!
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