When Dr. Brandy Engler opened her sex therapy practice for women in Manhattan, she got a big surprise. Most of the calls were from men. They wanted to talk about womanizing, porn addiction, impotence, prostitutes - and most of all, love.
Her patients were everyday guys from all walks of life. Among them were David, the Wall Street hotshot and compulsive womanizer; Charles, an introvert who kept pushing away the fiancée he thought was too beautiful for him; Paul, the self-made man who visited massage parlors despite his sexy wife; and the men's group whose stark revelations about male anger and their search for the right woman will open your eyes. In The Men on My Couch, Dr. Engler allows listeners inside those private sessions to witness her exciting and evocative encounters with what men desire and fear.
Dr. Engler tells her own story, too. At first her patients' revelations are painful and disconcerting, especially against the backdrop of her own difficult love affair. Yet Dr. Engler lets listeners experience how she evolves both professionally and personally, from chagrin to compassion, and reconciles her idealized notions of love and sex with the unexpected and raw truths she hears in the office.
The Men on My Couch is unlike other relationship books. There are no tired facile conclusions or pejorative generalizations. Here are fresh insights into modern sexual maladies, gleaned from real people having real struggles and experiencing real epiphanies - in the real world.
This book will change how both women and men think about love, sex, and desire.
©2012 Dr. Brandy Dunn and Resin, Inc. (P)2013 Tantor
While the author does go into the sexual behaviors and practices of her patients, it isn't excessively voyeuristic. Fundamentally, the book is about how a person's experiences as a child, teenager, and young adult can affect someone to such a degree that they can lead subconsciously to undesirable behavior. The author also provides a fairly rational hypothesis as to why those subconscious "wounds" are frequently manifested sexually in men.
This is not one of those "all men are dogs" books, and I felt sympathy for some of the patients -- but not all of them. The book gave me a look at men's sexuality from a different angle.
The best book in my library!!!
I could easily relate to the men being treated by Dr. Engler and her own relationship, for the first time ever I realized the reasons for my unexplained behavior with most of my past girlfriends and ex wife, but after listening to the audiobook most of it became clear and I'm no longer tormenting myself with unending questions of what went wrong and now I'm ready to pick up the pieces and truly love again.
I really enjoyed this book. I was interested in the author's personal story that was intertwined with her real life patient's stories and their subsequent progress. This book gives a great insight in to men and how they view sex.
Among a slew of psychotherapy books that have flooded bookstores over the last few years, this gem stands out in both its subject matter and depth. Treating sex with both frankness and complexity, Engler broadens our conceptions of what motivates sexual behavior and fantasy, moving it out of the simplistic behaviorist conceptions so common in the sex therapy world, and treating it with the depth and awe characteristic of the analytic therapies. The case vignettes are woven skillfully into the author's own love story, the insights gained from her work, reverberating in her life. As any good therapist knows, our patients change our lives, just as we change theirs, and it is refreshing to find an open acknowledgement of this truth in a book on therapy. Eloquent and enlightening, this book is a terrific read for lay readers and clinicians alike. Highly recommended.
totally worth listening to foot a different perspective on matters of sexual defense mechanisms.
narration was expressive and good for selected
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