For most of my life until recently reading this book I thought that I was an introvert, it seems I had a misunderstanding of what those character traits really were in a person. One of the major clues of my misunderstanding was the fact that I could just go up to anyone to start a conversation just because they were there. A second is my spontaneity to offer up a little humor off the cuff and out of the blue in a slight devilish way to see a person's reaction.
I grew up in the household of a pastor going to church several days a week while also attending numerous formal gatherings through out the year where I was expected as a child to be very mannerly in my conduct, and was always taught to be reserved with the tongue. So (no pun intended here) I had to contain that devilish side of me which was a learned trait that I had unknowingly carried over into my adult years. It seems according to this book I am really a Right Brained middle of the road Extrovert; you will have to read through the book to know what that means. This book was an eye opener for me into what really defines both groups of people.
The book describes the attachment system of adults. It also briefly describes the attachment system of children. According to attachment theory there are three attachment styles: "anxious", "avoidant" and "secure". The book describes how people with these attachment styles behave. It includes tests, which can help readers to recognize their own attachment style. The book includes a lot of examples of different situations and authors describe secure and insecure ways to deal with such situations in relationships. It was really an interesting reading. And the book looks scientifically.