The advice in this book is the only advice I've gotten from a parenting book (and I've read quite a few) that has been effective almost from the moment I started to try it out with my strong-willed daughter.
It espouses, among other things, time-outs and natural consequences which are frowned upon by the more modern books I've read. But it stresses that this type of discipline must NOT be meted out in a punitive, angry, or mean-spirited way. And that, I believe, keeps this kind of effective discipline from crossing the line into cruelty.
I HIGHLY recommend this book if you have a strong-willed child. But do read other, newer books that set out very different but still very valuable approaches. No one book has all the answers or the one right approach, but this one works both well and fairly quickly with the kids who are less naturally compliant.
Note that it's approach might be a bit over-the-top for compliant children. Still, meaning what you say and using less words with compliant children probably won't hurt...
This was a great book. It suggests a very caring and appealing parenting approach and the author's logic is hard to disagree with.
I have already strengthened the relationship I have with my son using this author's advice and that to me is a priceless reward for buying "Parenting Without Power Struggles". My only quibble is that while the advice in this book will probably work with less compliant, stronger-willed children like my daughter, it seemed to me that it would take a long time to have the effect I needed to happen ASAP.
I found "Setting Limits With Your Strong-Willed Child" worked quickly and effectively for my hard-case daughter, who was starting to drive me crazy. But, if I also follow the "Parenting Without Power Struggles" approach, I am sure that will deepen my relationship with her over the long-term. So, I'd recommend both books and both approaches, despite this author's distaste for time-outs and consequences.
This is simply the most practical and helpful parenting book I've listened to so far. P.E.T and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen... are great, but this one is now my favourite by far.
It had really and truly helped me understand and connect better with my kids and to reduce the level of discord I was unintentionally generating. I am currently listening to it a second time.
The narration is perfect, and I don't use that term lightly.
I HIGHLY recommend this audio book.
I am an avid listener. I listen between 75-100 hours per month on my iPhone: 60% fiction to 40% non-fiction.
Wow! I have to give it to Knepper; she certainly has a vocabulary of swear words. I grew up in a trailer park so I have known my share of artists in vulgarity – an artist she is not. Knowing how to artistically turn a phrase with them -- nope -- big fail. If you took out the #$%$$#$ and the f-bombing, you are left with humorless pedestrian stories. I had so hoped for a little Sedaris-esq mix with a female twist. She did not deliver on any level.
There were a few moments that made me smile overall, but they were too far apart. I just can’t recommend a book whose sole impact and selling point is listening to a woman swear. Punch up the stories, get me rolling with laughter, connect me to my kids memories, throw in some potty mouth and now you’d have some success. Hard pass.