When someone in authority told you "your body isn't really yours," that messaging didn't just live in your mind—it rewired your nervous system. In this revolutionary episode, Dr. Misty exposes how high-control systems, particularly religious environments, strategically target sexuality as their primary mechanism of control. We dive deep into the neurobiology of religious sexual conditioning, exploring how it creates internal "parts" that continue enforcing these rules long after you've intellectually rejected them. But this isn't just about understanding the damage—it's about liberation. Discover practical, somatic approaches to reclaim your erotic sovereignty, decolonize your nervous system, and develop an embodied sexuality that genuinely belongs to YOU, not to systems that sought to control you. Because your pleasure isn't just personal—it's political resistance against institutions that weaponized shame to maintain power.

Ever wanted sex but found yourself mentally checking out, counting ceiling tiles, or suddenly reorganizing your mental sock drawer instead of feeling pleasure? In this raw, neuroscience-backed episode, Dr. Misty breaks down why your body sometimes hits the emergency eject button during intimacy—even when you enthusiastically consented. Through the lens of Polyvagal Theory, we explore how trauma, religious shame, and societal conditioning create nervous system patterns that can override conscious desire. This isn't just theory—you'll get actual, practical, neurodivergent-friendly tools to expand your capacity for staying present during pleasure. Because your disconnect isn't a defect; it's your brilliant body trying to protect you. Time to reclaim your birthright to embodied joy as an act of radical resistance.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Unspoken Disconnect
• (00:01:02) - Understanding the Disconnect: You're Not Broken
• (00:01:37) - Polyvagal Theory: Decoding Your Nervous System
• (00:02:45) - Three Key Insights: Practical Neuroscience
• (00:05:13) - Recognizing Dysregulation: Signs and Symptoms
• (00:11:57) - The Window of Tolerance: Staying Present
• (00:15:51) - Practical Tools: Expanding Your Capacity for Pleasure
• (00:20:54) - Conclusion: Reclaiming Your Birthright to Pleasure
• (00:22:44) - Final Thoughts and Resources

Healing isn’t about linen pants, pastel lighting, and performing peace.

In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty takes a flamethrower to the healing industrial complex—the whitewashed, commodified wellness machine that polices our grief, hijacks our rage, and sells calmness like a lifestyle brand.

You’ll hear:

• Why “high vibe only” is toxic nonsense

• How performative healing silences marginalized bodies

• What consent-based healing actually looks like

• How to build rituals that are messy, honest, body-inclusive—and actually yours

Plus: a listener question that hits deep—what do you do when healing spaces don’t feel safe, inclusive, or built for you?

✨ Spoiler: You stop shrinking to fit them. You start building something real.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction to the week's episode on Untamed Ember
• (00:00:34) - The Healing Industrial Complex Exposed
• (00:01:55) - The Aesthetic of Modern Wellness
• (00:04:08) - Exclusion in Healing Spaces
• (00:05:22) - Weaponization of High Vibes Only
• (00:07:45) - Consent in Healing Spaces
• (00:12:53) - Building Personal Rituals
• (00:18:56) - Listener Question: Finding Inclusive Healing Spaces
• (00:22:47) - Conclusion and Soft Rage Blessing