Why Your Body 'Ghosts' You During Sex: Polyvagal Theory & Reclaiming Embodied Pleasure

Ever wanted sex but found yourself mentally checking out, counting ceiling tiles, or suddenly reorganizing your mental sock drawer instead of feeling pleasure? In this raw, neuroscience-backed episode, Dr. Misty breaks down why your body sometimes hits the emergency eject button during intimacy—even when you enthusiastically consented. Through the lens of Polyvagal Theory, we explore how trauma, religious shame, and societal conditioning create nervous system patterns that can override conscious desire. This isn't just theory—you'll get actual, practical, neurodivergent-friendly tools to expand your capacity for staying present during pleasure. Because your disconnect isn't a defect; it's your brilliant body trying to protect you. Time to reclaim your birthright to embodied joy as an act of radical resistance.

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Chapters

• (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Unspoken Disconnect
• (00:01:02) - Understanding the Disconnect: You're Not Broken
• (00:01:37) - Polyvagal Theory: Decoding Your Nervous System
• (00:02:45) - Three Key Insights: Practical Neuroscience
• (00:05:13) - Recognizing Dysregulation: Signs and Symptoms
• (00:11:57) - The Window of Tolerance: Staying Present
• (00:15:51) - Practical Tools: Expanding Your Capacity for Pleasure
• (00:20:54) - Conclusion: Reclaiming Your Birthright to Pleasure
• (00:22:44) - Final Thoughts and Resources