Episodios

  • Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents

    Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents
    Oct 12 2025
    Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents

    When you try to talk to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and the conversation suddenly turns emotional, chaotic, or painful — you’re not communicating. You’re in an induced conversation.

    In this episode, A.J. Mahari explains how Borderlines and Codependents unconsciously pull each other into trauma-based emotional loops that feel like connection but are actually dysregulation. You’ll learn what’s really happening in your nervous system, why you keep getting drawn back in, and how to finally step out of these trauma-bonded “talks” that never resolve anything and never bring peace.

    In this podcast episode:
    What an induced conversation really is
    How Borderlines project pain and Codependents absorb it
    The nervous-system collision behind emotional chaos
    Why calm feels unsafe after trauma
    How to end the cycle and reclaim your peace

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    20 m
  • Borderline Love a Looping Trap of Deception

    Borderline Love a Looping Trap of Deception
    Oct 11 2025
    Borderline Love a Looping Trap of Deception

    Borderline Love is a looping trap of deception rooted in fantasy, betrayal, false hope, and trauma bonded dynamics of pseudo attachment and the Borderline idealization trap of deception (conscious or unconscious). People with BPD deceive boyfriends and girlfriends, husbands and wives, the favorite person, friends and family members as well as themselves.
    People with Borderline Personality do not know who they are. They do not know how to relate to you as separate from their own internal dysregulated and emotionally immature "lack of self". "Love and/or attachment" believed to be given by a person with BPD or received by a Codependent is an emotional deception and a trap.

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    30 m
  • The Invisible Borderline Man Why Women Don't See Him Coming

    The Invisible Borderline Man Why Women Don't See Him Coming
    Sep 20 2025
    The Invisible Borderline Man - Why Women Don't See Him Coming

    The invisible Borderline man. Why is he so invisible? Are men diagnosed properly enough with BPD - the answer is no. This doesn't help in many cases. Why do so many women fail to recognize the signs of a man with Borderline Personality Disorder until they are already deeply involved? In this episode, I explore The Invisible Borderline Man — the subtle ways BPD traits show up in men and why women often don’t see him coming.

    I'll look at how cultural expectations, hidden patterns, and codependent conditioning blind women to the early red flags. By understanding these dynamics, you’ll learn how to protect yourself from being pulled into a relationship built on chaos, trauma bonding, and false hope.

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    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    12 m
  • Borderline Man Unmasked

    Borderline Man Unmasked
    Sep 15 2025
    Borderline man unmasked

    The Borderline Man Unmasked. Yes, men have BPD too! It is important that women learn more about the many ways the 'Borderline Man' does differ from women with BPD. There are many overlaps but men with BPD do often endanger women more than most BPD women physically endanger men (though some women with BPD are physically dangerous especially with a weapon).
    Women need to unlearn what many young girls learn in childhood about being maternal. Women need to heal their wounds from childhood that sees maternal instincts and nurture be engulfed by Codependency.

    https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog
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    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
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    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube Feed

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    16 m
  • The Broken BPD Man Fantasy

    The Broken BPD Man Fantasy
    Sep 15 2025
    The Broken BPD Man Fantasy

    The Broken BPD Man Fantasy is very real for women. Yes, men have Borderline Personality Disorder too! Countless numbers of women suffer with men with BPD in those trauma bonded relationships. Gay men are also suffering in relationships with men with BPD.
    This is part one of 3 podcast episode series focusing on Borderline Men for the women who get into dating and relationships with BPD men that they can't see coming.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
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    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube Feed

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    12 m
  • BPD Love Legacy of Doubt 5 Reasons Why Closure is An Illusion

    BPD Love Legacy of Doubt 5 Reasons Why Closure is An Illusion
    Sep 13 2025
    BPD Love Legacy of Doubt 5 Reasons Closure is An Illusion]

    BPD Love leaves a legacy of doubt. There are 5 main reasons why closure is an illusion during or after a BPD Breakup, ghos6 and/or discard. People who have been in a relationship or dating someone with BPD desperately want to understand and when necessary find closure. People with BPD (especially untreated) do not do closure. If you continue to try to get closure you will only be strengthening the trauma bond.

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    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube Feed

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    16 m
  • Quiet BPD 10 Reasons Why It Dsstroys Relationships

    Quiet BPD 10 Reasons Why It Dsstroys Relationships
    Sep 8 2025
    Quiet BPD 10 Reasons It Destroys Relationships

    Quiet BPD 10 reasons it destroys relationships. Often people in a relationship with someone with Quiet BPD, also known as the Discouraged BPD Subtype, it can take quite a while to understand that your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife has Quiet BPD. People with Quiet BPD internalize most, if not all of their splitting, fear of abandonment, push/pull, relational issues etc and often partners think that the "problem" is they just drink too much, or they just are hot and cold. Identifying that a person with Quiet BPD in your life actually has Borderline Personality can be difficult and the off/on ghosting cycles of many Quiet Borderlines can be so confusing. Quiet BPD is not someone being "less Borderline" or having BPD only mildly.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
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    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube Feed

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
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    36 m
  • 10 Ways BPD Relationship Recycling Increases Your Suffering

    10 Ways BPD Relationship Recycling Increases Your Suffering
    Sep 6 2025
    10 Ways BPD Relationship Recycling Increases Your Suffering

    10 ways that BPD relationship recycling actually strengthens your suffering and the trauma/fantast bond hurting you more and activating your nervous system over and over again in ways that are unhealthy, stressful, anxiety-producing and extremely painful. It is so important that people with Codependency recognize why you need the harm reduction of ending BPD relationship recycling and going full no contact and getting into your own therapy and healing process.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
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    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon

    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube Feed
    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.

    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
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    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    34 m