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Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

De: A.J. Mahari
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A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.

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Episodios
  • BPD Love is a Reverse Fairytale

    BPD Love is a Reverse Fairytale
    Aug 24 2025
    BPD Love is a Reverse FairyTale
    What starts like a pseudo BPD relationships fairytale in reverse ends in emotional devastation—and you’re left wondering what happened. In this episode, I explore why relationships with someone with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and their supposed
    "Love" feel and are experienced like a reverse fairytale: magical in the beginning, somewhere along the way, sooner or later, traumatic in the end or the many on-going unsuccessful ends in the trauma bond.

    You’ll learn why the intense beginning isn’t real intimacy, isn't real "love" and how idealization flips into devaluation, and why the cycle never leads to a “happily ever after.” This episode is a compassionate wake-up call for those still hoping to get back to “chapter one.” You get what you think is the "happy-ever-after" in the beginning and that starts to unravel into the exact opposite.
    If you’ve been stuck in a looping pseudo love story that keeps breaking your heart, it’s time to understand the pattern—and reclaim your own narrative by breaking free of the quest to get back to the magical fairytale reverse beginning of idealization and intermittent
    reinforcement of a toxic love passed off as a fantasy that you don't want to admit now.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
    https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube Feed

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    19 m
  • Enmeshed in a BPD Relatioship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles

    Enmeshed in a BPD Relatioship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles
    Aug 24 2025
    Enmeshed in a BPD Relationship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles

    Are you enmeshed in a BPD relationship? Why can’t you let go—even when it’s hurting you? This Codependency Inside Out, surviving cluster B episode explores the 5 trauma-rooted codependent hooks that keep you psychologically and emotionally enmeshed, fueling the cycles, in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.

    From rescuing and self-abandonment to enmeshment and fantasy bonding, you’ll learn how these unconscious patterns pull you deeper into the storm—and how to finally begin breaking free.

    You’ll Learn:
    – What enmeshment really is and why it feels like love
    – How your nervous system mistakes chaos for connection
    – Why self-erasure becomes a survival strategy
    – How to reclaim your identity and rebuild your boundaries
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    17 m
  • BPD Frustration Intolerance

    BPD Frustration Intolerance
    Aug 18 2025
    BPD Frustration Intolerance

    BPD Frustration Intolerance explains one of the most confusing, crazy-making, and painful dynamics loved ones face in relationships with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder. In this episode, I unpack why ordinary limits, boundaries, or small disappointments can trigger emotionally explosive reactions, chaos, and betrayal cycles. No matter how any times you try to calm a person with BPD down, jump to their demands, apologize for what they are doing to you, try to help them emotionally regulate, you cannot stop these betrayal cycles.
    In the betrayal cycles and through all the demands and the Borderline (protective) entitlement as they shame you and blame you and "hold you responsible" in their projective identification they have no real-time emotional awareness of YOU, of what YOU are feeling, of what YOU are going through. They don't care after each and every one of these betrayal cycles. YOU won't be seen or heard or empathized with, understood, or apologized to either.

    In this podcast episode you will learn and I hope gain clarity about:

    1. What frustration intolerance really means in the context of BPD
    2. How trauma and emotional dysregulation fuel these reactions
    3. Why the cycle creates a false promise of peace that never lasts
    4. The toll it takes on partners, family members, and friends
    5. Why this makes BPD relationships unsustainable

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
    https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube Feed

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.

    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    18 m
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as the comment currently shown when scrolling past this podcast claims heartbreak from the way bpd is discussed, perhaps you are experiencing emotional pain from realizing that you're kind of a terrible person when going through the described cycles of behavior? If so instead of being heartbroken go to therapy and stop propagating these, basically true and honest, perceptions of those people interacting with those with the diagnosis.
use this as a test. remove the label, it doesn't matter what but in this case dbt I think. now it's just a person that will engage another individual, happily establish what appears to be a healthy relationship, and then suddenly act as if their former partner is the source of all their problems and refuse to ever talk to them again never saying why.
when anyone else in the world behaves like that they are called many things, and really, none flattering. BUT! just like the podcast says (if you listen and attempt to improve your life and thus those who try to love you rather than go straight to uhh heartbreak) going to therapy can help and one day you'll be able to be with someone without the inevitable dumpster fire that always happens. and it's not the fault of everyone else in the world, it's definitely the person with the matches and dumpster.
go. to. therapy.

maybe not for you?

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This is the worst podcast series ever! The speaker is extremely negative and demeaning towards BPD. I cant help but to feel discouraged, unworthy and hopeless by this series! Completely heartbreaking.

Unbelievably Negative

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As the spouse of someone with BPD, I am well aware of the heartache and frustration that can be caused by those with BPD. However, this podcast is simply someone ranting about their negative experiences with BPD individuals, by someone who has not bothered to take the time to try to understand individuals who suffer from this diagnosis. Despite their challenges and inappropriate behaviors, individuals with BPD can also be creative, loving, insightful, and fun to be around. I will not pretend that dealing with BPD individuals is always easy, but the black & white/good & evil view of of this disorder voiced in this podcast is simply ignorant & inaccurate.

A bitter rant about a misunderstood group

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It's people like her that give BPD a stigma. As a person diagnosed with BPD, I can tell you that this doctor is trying to sway the perception of people diagnosed with BPD in a bad light. We do know how to have a successful intimate relationship. We know who we are and our worth. So trying to be heard and understood is not us, projecting it onto our partner, rather its us trying to have healthy communication addressing normal needs and concerns within the relationship. Is it for fear of abandonment or fear of losing the relationship? Yes, absolutely. it's called trying to find a resolution to everyday relationship problems. Something healthy relationships require. So quit trying to make it something it is not. We are not dramatic. It may seem that way when the other party refuses to contribute to coming to a mutual understanding on what is borderlines are trying to address. and not all of us are violent or give the silent treatment. Some just want to be heard and understood. To feel validated. Like any human being. I would appreciate it if you did not portray us as unstable people incapable of having good relationships.

Absolutely Inaccurate

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Thank you for your well informed and truthful discussions . I listen to all of your videos . This has helped keep me together as I try to not reverse hover my ex. He told me he would marry me 5 times always coming up with excuses and empty promises. It was my responsibility to not continually enable or stay sitting in this mistreatment. We have the power to value ourselves and take back our lives

Thank You

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AJ has been through it and really understands the pain and confusion one experiences in a relationship with pwbpd. Her advice is spot on with no unnecessary fluff and has helped keep me grounded. She definitely keeps it real.

So helpful

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