In today's episode, I'm sharing some reflections from my recent experience of pregnancy and birth on self-trust, control and surrender. These are themes that most folks with insecure attachment patterns struggle with, and learning to trust in your capacity to navigate life's ups and downs with confidence and agency is a huge step on the path to building secure attachment.

For more episodes on building trust, check out:

• Ep 130: The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self
• Ep 124: On Trust, Risk & Vulnerability
• Ep 111: The Pillars of Trust & Trustworthiness

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• Secure Together Relationship Course
• Higher Love Break-up Course

Further Links & Resources

• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to navigate a partner pulling away. If you're someone with anxious attachment patterns, a partner's withdrawal or disengagement can feel extremely distressing - and yet, many of our go-to strategies for managing that distress can ironically have the effect of pushing someone further away.

We'll cover:

• what to do when someone pulls away in an early dating context
• why we feel drawn to pursuing connections with people who are inconsistent
• how to navigate a partner repeatedly leaving and coming back
• what to do when a long-term partner is emotionally withdrawn or distant

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• Better Boundaries Masterclass
• Sex & Attachment Masterclass
• Secure Together Relationship Course
• Higher Love Break-up Course

Further Links & Resources

• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
• Visit my website

In today's episode, we're talking all about self-soothing and anxious attachment. For most anxiously attached folks, self-soothing and self-regulation can be a real struggle. This typically shows up as an over-reliance on others (often a partner) to be our sole source of safety and reassurance when we experience emotional distress, and an accompanying sense of helplessness and panic if and when they are not available to perform that role.

We'll cover:

• why anxiously attached people struggle to self-regulate
• how an inability to self-soothe impacts our relationships
• mindset shifts and practices to start building your self-soothing toolkit

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• Secure Together Relationship Course
• Higher Love Break-up Course

Further Links & Resources

• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
• Visit my website

This episode is part two of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.

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Further Links & Resources

• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
• Visit my website

Today's episode is part one of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.

⭐️ JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR HEALING ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ⭐️

💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following:

• Building Trust Masterclass
• How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass
• Better Boundaries Masterclass
• Sex & Attachment Masterclass
• Secure Together Relationship Course
• Higher Love Break-up Course

Further Links & Resources

• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
• Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by James "Fish" Gill to talk all things conflict and conscious communication. Fish is a coach, teacher and facilitator whose work offers a compassionate paradigm for relating to and transforming moments of conflict in all of our relationships.

We cover:

• why we so easily end up in conflict and opposition with people we love
• how we unconsciously escalate conflict
• using compassion and curiosity to understand someone else's perspective
• holding both positive intention and unintended impact as true
• reframing defensiveness, withdrawal and other assumed ill-intent...

...and so much more!

Learn more about Fish's work:

• On Instagram: @james_fish_gill
• Visit his website: leadbyheart.com

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• Secure Together Relationship Course
• Higher Love Break-up Course

Further Links & Resources

• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
• Visit my website

In this week's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're exploring some common misconceptions about avoidant attachment. Avoidant attachment is frequently misunderstood and misrepresented in a lot of online content, and it's so important to me to dispel some of those portrayals and offer something more humanising and more honest about what's going on for avoidant folks.

We cover misconceptions around:

• avoidant people not wanting to be in relationships
• avoidant people only caring about themselves
• avoidant people never experiencing anxiety in their relationships
• avoidant people being unable to change

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• Higher Love Break-up Course

Further Links & Resources

• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
• Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by Julie Menanno. Julie is a couples therapist, best known for her hugely popular instagram account @thesecurerelationship where she offers nuanced and insightful takes on attachment dynamics and how couples can overcome negative cycles to build secure relationships. She has just released her first book, Secure Love, which offers couples a roadmap for building thriving relationships that last.

Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including:

• a deeper look at the fear of abandonment in anxious attachment
• key challenges of avoidant attachment
• negative cycles in anxious-avoidant relationships
• what to do when one partner doesn't want to go to therapy
• the importance of validating your partner's emotions (even if you disagree with their position)
• Julie's tips (as a mum of 6!) for raising secure kids

Buy Julie's book Secure Love on Amazon
Follow Julie on Instagram @thesecurerelationship
Visit Julie's website

💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following:

• Building Trust Masterclass
• How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass
• Better Boundaries Masterclass
• Sex & Attachment Masterclass
• Secure Together Relationship Course
• Higher Love Break-up Course

Further Links & Resources

• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
• Visit my website