Understanding Your Avoidant Partner: New Course

Many people find themselves trying to decode confusing or inconsistent behaviour, wondering whether it reflects avoidant attachment or a lack of interest — but in early dating, a lack of clarity is often the clearest signal in itself. The more meaningful question is why we stay engaged in dynamics that leave us feeling uncertain, rather than stepping back and asking whether this meets our needs.

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In today’s episode, I’m walking you through how to navigate the first 30 days after a breakup in a way that is supportive, grounded, and deeply healing.

This initial period can feel overwhelming — full of grief, anxiety, confusion, and emotional swings. And while it’s natural to be in survival mode, there are small but powerful ways you can support yourself through this time rather than getting swept up in the chaos.

I share a practical roadmap for what to focus on (and what to avoid), so you can move through this chapter with more intention, self-respect, and care.

We cover:

• Why the early days after a breakup can feel so destabilising
• The two common nervous system responses: anxiety and shutdown
• How to create a supportive, calming environment for yourself
• The importance of maintaining basic self-care and routines
• Why boundaries (especially no contact) are so important
• The impact of screen time, social media, and rumination
• How to approach this period with intention rather than survival mode
• Beginning the process of reconnecting with yourself

✨ Free break-up training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up

In today’s Ask Steph episode, we’re talking about how to cope when your ex seems to have moved on soon after your break-up — and is now in a new relationship that appears to be working.

This can be an incredibly painful experience, especially if you’re still grieving the relationship. It often brings up comparison, self-doubt, and questions like “Was I the problem?”

In this episode, I unpack why this situation feels so triggering, what’s actually going on beneath the surface, and how to shift out of rumination and back into your own power.

We cover:

• Why seeing your ex move on can feel like “salt in the wound”
• The different ways anxious and avoidant people process breakups
• Why your ex’s behaviour isn’t a reflection of your worth
• The illusion of their new relationship “working”
• How new relationship energy can mask underlying patterns
• The impact of comparison, rumination, and self-doubt
• Why focusing on your ex keeps you stuck
• How to set boundaries and reclaim your energy

Resources

• For free resources on break-ups and anxious attachment, click here.
• Check out my break-up course Higher Love here