In today’s episode, we’re exploring what avoidant attached people actually need to feel safe and secure in a relationship — and how partners can support that without self-abandoning.

Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood — labelled as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But when we look beneath those surface-level behaviours, what we often find is a deep need for space, safety, and self-reliance.

We’ll cover:

• Why space needs to be respected, not punished
• The importance of having a partner who can self-regulate rather than emotionally offload
• How clear, direct, and honest communication builds safety
• The value of each partner having a full, meaningful life outside the relationship
• Why pacing matters — and how moving too fast can trigger shutdown
• Balancing lightness and heaviness

Whether you’re avoidant yourself or in a relationship with someone who is, this episode will help you better understand the conditions that allow these relationships to thrive.

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If you deeply fear abandonment, there’s a good chance you’ve also been abandoning yourself in quiet, subtle, and painful ways.

In today’s episode, we’re exploring how fear of abandonment often leads to patterns of self-abandonment — especially for those with anxious attachment. We’ll look at why this happens, how it shows up in your relationships, and what it actually costs you when you disconnect from your truth just to stay connected to someone else.

You’ll learn:

• Why self-abandonment is often a survival strategy rooted in early attachment wounds
• What self-abandonment looks like in dating and relationships
• The trade-off between authenticity and connection
• Why the work must begin with us

Highlighted Links

• FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
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Additional Resources

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing two key principles for building a truly resilient, balanced nervous system — and why one without the other tends to keep us stuck.

We’ll explore:

• Why nervous system health isn’t about being relaxed all the time
• The importance of deliberate stress exposure to build capacity and resilience
• The equally vital need to resource and nourish ourselves through rest, pleasure, and co-regulation
• How to work with the natural ebb and flow of activation and recovery
• A simple metaphor to help you reflect on how you’re currently supporting your system

Whether you’re feeling burnt out, dysregulated, or just curious about how to better support your emotional wellbeing, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate reframe of what nervous system care can look like.

Highlighted Links

• FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
• Buy tickets - London Event

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
• Join my email list 💌
• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Visit my website