Untangled

Publisher's Summary

New York Times best seller.

An award-winning guide to the sometimes erratic and confusing behavior of teenage girls that explains what's going on, prepares parents for what's to come, and lets them know when it's time to worry. 

Look for Under Pressure, the companion guide to coping with stress and anxiety among girls, available now. 

In this sane, highly engaging, and informed guide for parents of daughters, Dr. Damour draws on decades of experience and the latest research to reveal the seven distinct - and absolutely normal - developmental transitions that turn girls into grown-ups, including parting with childhood, contending with adult authority, entering the romantic world, and caring for herself. Providing realistic scenarios and welcome advice on how to engage daughters in smart, constructive ways, Untangled gives parents a broad framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most common questions, including: 

• My 13-year-old rolls her eyes when I try to talk to her and only does it more when I get angry with her about it. How should I respond? 
• Do I tell my teen daughter that I'm checking her phone? 
• My daughter suffers from test anxiety. What can I do to help her? 
• Where's the line between healthy eating and having an eating disorder? 
• My teenage daughter wants to know why I'm against pot when it's legal in some states. What should I say? 
• My daughter's friend is cutting herself. Do I call the girl's mother to let her know? 

Perhaps most important, Untangled helps mothers and fathers understand, connect, and grow with their daughters. When parents know what makes their daughter tick, they can embrace and enjoy the challenge of raising a healthy, happy young woman. 

Books for a Better Life Award winner.

“Finally, there’s some good news for puzzled parents of adolescent girls, and psychologist Lisa Damour is the bearer of that happy news. [Untangled] is the most down-to-earth, readable parenting book I’ve come across in a long time.” (The Washington Post) 

“Anna Freud wrote in 1958, ‘There are few situations in life which are more difficult to cope with than an adolescent son or daughter during the attempt to liberate themselves.’ In the intervening decades, the transition doesn’t appear to have gotten any easier which makes Untangled such a welcome new resource.” (The Boston Globe)

©2016 Lisa Damour (P)2016 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

"For years people have been asking me for the 'girl equivalent of Raising Cain', and I haven't known exactly what to recommend. Now I do." (Michael Thompson, PhD, coauthor of Raising Cain)

"An essential guide to understanding and supporting girls throughout their development. It's obvious that Dr. Damour 'gets' girls and understands the best way for any adult to help them navigate the common yet difficult challenges so many girls face." (Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees & Wannabes)

"A gem. Damour deftly blends insights from her clinical experience working with girls, time-honored wisdom on adolescence, the latest social science and neuroscience research, and frank descriptions of cultural trends and media messages. From the moment I read the last page I've been recommending it to my clients (including those with sons!) and colleagues, and using it as a refreshing guide in my own work with teenagers and their parents." (Wendy Mogel, PhD, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee)

Love it! Living it! Beyond amazing

In love with this audio book.... the person reading it and the content.... so many stories or scenarios I've already went thru my daughter and made me laugh so much... I used one of examples when I had to continuously ask my daughter to work in her school work, and grades... finally told her I've given you all the tools to succeed and always will be here, but you are responsible for going to schoool, getting your work done, and getting good grades. It's your responsibility not mine.... it HELPED... this book is an amazing guide to what teens bring to the table!!! Thanks for such a well written book.... I never write reviews as you might be able to tell ^^^^ but just wanted other parents to know that it helped me in so many ways... thanks!!!!!

10 of 10 people found this review helpful

A "must read" for any parent with an adolescent or teenaged daughter!

This is undoubtably the best guide ever for raising adolescent and teenaged daughters. Lisa Damour easily explains the adolescent and teenaged female mind, the importance of "tribes," how to discuss important and difficult topics, how to respond to inevitable teenaged behaviors, how and where to draw the proverbial line, and more. It was encouraging to hear that I was already doing many of the suggestions (I read and research a lot - LOL), but this book also provided many, many insights and crucial information. I repeatedly found myself saying, "great point!", "yes!", "wow, that's really good to know!", etc. The author does a fantastic job narrating her book and always keeps it fresh and interesting.

5 of 5 people found this review helpful

About time.....

Through this book I could recognize myself as I too, was going through these stages. Now I can fully understand what my daughter is going through. And I love all the helpful suggestons, tried a few already and many argumets have been avoided and we both understood each others point of view. I have to admit, I thought the author had been secretly following us because the book was following our every aspect of our journey so far. I'll be re-reading in case I missed anything!

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

Great insights

This book was wonderful in its insights. It helped me find some logical reasons for what we saw as illogical behavior

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

I will be listening to this again.

I have a 12 yr old daughter, and have successfully applied some strategies even before the book was done. Very insightful giving me knconfidence

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

Exactly what I needed to help understand my teen

Exactly what I needed to help understand my teenager. It's nice to know you are not the only one dealing with teenage issues. Highly recommend.

So insightful!

I purchased this book as I am going through the teenage years with my daughters and I felt like this really connected us!

Fantastic

Excellent book. I found it easy to understand, I loved the real examples and conversations and I found the author personable. I liked that it was backed up by both research and experience but was still very human and interactive. Was worth every minute I invested in listening to it.

Every Parents should read

Insightful and decisive. Dr Darmour gave readers a map so we as parents wouldnt miss our direction while growing up together with daughter!!!

A. Maz. Zing. You MUST Read

Fantastic resource that is not only both technical, detailed, but also easy to read. I found so much help for raising my teenage girl as well as my teenage boy. I've read a lot of parenting books and been in search of the best Buck... I have found it here. absolutely worth every penny and every minute of my time. Thank you thank you thank you!