Untangled

By: Lisa Damour

Narrated by: Lisa Damour

Length: 8 hrs and 37 mins

Publisher's Summary

Lisa Damour, PhD, director of the internationally renowned Laurel School's Center for Research on Girls, pulls back the curtain on the teenage years and shows why your daughter's erratic and confusing behavior is actually healthy, necessary, and natural. Untangled explains what's going on, prepares parents for what's to come, and lets them know when it's time to worry.

In this sane, highly engaging, and informed guide for parents of daughters, Dr. Damour draws on decades of experience and the latest research to reveal the seven distinct - and absolutely normal - developmental transitions that turn girls into grown-ups, including parting with childhood, contending with adult authority, entering the romantic world, and caring for themselves. Providing realistic scenarios and welcome advice on how to engage daughters in smart, constructive ways, Untangled gives parents a broad framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most common questions, including:

• My 13-year-old rolls her eyes when I try to talk to her and only does it more when I get angry with her about it. How should I respond?
• Do I tell my teen daughter that I'm checking her phone?
• My daughter suffers from test anxiety. What can I do to help her?
• Where's the line between healthy eating and having an eating disorder?
• My teenage daughter wants to know why I'm against pot when it's legal in some states. What should I say?
• My daughter's friend is cutting herself. Do I call the girl's mother to let her know?

Perhaps most important, Untangled helps mothers and fathers understand, connect with, and grow with their daughters. When parents know what makes their daughter tick, they can embrace and enjoy the challenge of raising a healthy, happy young woman.

©2016 Lisa Damour (P)2016 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

"For years people have been asking me for the 'girl equivalent of Raising Cain', and I haven't known exactly what to recommend. Now I do." (Michael Thompson, PhD, coauthor of Raising Cain)

"An essential guide to understanding and supporting girls throughout their development. It's obvious that Dr. Damour 'gets' girls and understands the best way for any adult to help them navigate the common yet difficult challenges so many girls face." (Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees & Wannabes)

"A gem. Damour deftly blends insights from her clinical experience working with girls, time-honored wisdom on adolescence, the latest social science and neuroscience research, and frank descriptions of cultural trends and media messages. From the moment I read the last page I've been recommending it to my clients (including those with sons!) and colleagues, and using it as a refreshing guide in my own work with teenagers and their parents." (Wendy Mogel, PhD, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee)

Love it! Living it! Beyond amazing

In love with this audio book.... the person reading it and the content.... so many stories or scenarios I've already went thru my daughter and made me laugh so much... I used one of examples when I had to continuously ask my daughter to work in her school work, and grades... finally told her I've given you all the tools to succeed and always will be here, but you are responsible for going to schoool, getting your work done, and getting good grades. It's your responsibility not mine.... it HELPED... this book is an amazing guide to what teens bring to the table!!! Thanks for such a well written book.... I never write reviews as you might be able to tell ^^^^ but just wanted other parents to know that it helped me in so many ways... thanks!!!!!

10 of 10 people found this review helpful

A "must read" for any parent with an adolescent or teenaged daughter!

This is undoubtably the best guide ever for raising adolescent and teenaged daughters. Lisa Damour easily explains the adolescent and teenaged female mind, the importance of "tribes," how to discuss important and difficult topics, how to respond to inevitable teenaged behaviors, how and where to draw the proverbial line, and more. It was encouraging to hear that I was already doing many of the suggestions (I read and research a lot - LOL), but this book also provided many, many insights and crucial information. I repeatedly found myself saying, "great point!", "yes!", "wow, that's really good to know!", etc. The author does a fantastic job narrating her book and always keeps it fresh and interesting.

5 of 5 people found this review helpful

About time.....

Through this book I could recognize myself as I too, was going through these stages. Now I can fully understand what my daughter is going through. And I love all the helpful suggestons, tried a few already and many argumets have been avoided and we both understood each others point of view. I have to admit, I thought the author had been secretly following us because the book was following our every aspect of our journey so far. I'll be re-reading in case I missed anything!

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

Great insights

This book was wonderful in its insights. It helped me find some logical reasons for what we saw as illogical behavior

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

I will be listening to this again.

I have a 12 yr old daughter, and have successfully applied some strategies even before the book was done. Very insightful giving me knconfidence

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

Great book if you have a preteen daughter at home.

This book helped me to understand and connect with my daughter .I totally recommend to parents .

Very Insightful

Such a great book to help navigate pre-teen/teen parenting. Helpful insight as to why my daughter is behaving the way she is as well as practical advice.

Good Sound Advice

Good practical advice coming from humility, intelligence, and experience. The direct, compassionate approach coupled with discipline sets a great platform for us parents to stand on and use as a compass when dealing with the teenage years. Thank you.

Engaging and informative

Excellent. Well written book with lots of interesting infomation. The author does a great job of exploring adolescent behavior and relates research to her experience counseling teen girls, clarifying concepts and presenting pssible approaches for specific situations (for ex., motivating a rebellious teen to keep up with her academic work). Her explanation of teen behavior, even when baffling, coutnerproductive or erratic, as part of a necessary developmental stage aimed towards becoming an independent adult is well presented and informative.

Ahhh! thank you!!

Thank you, thank you, thank you Dr. Damour. The book was an easy listen (and I usually can't stand listening to an author narrate their own book) but more than that, this book has contributed to serious reflection of myself, my daughter, and how we are doing as parents. Great examples with real-life, up-to-date scenarios and suggestions on how to tackle some of the most trying aspects of raising girls. My daughter is 12 and, after listening to this book, I now feel a lot more prepared for what to expect from her; what is normal; and what we should be worrying about. I'll be recommending this to everyone I know who can benefit from it. Can't praise it enough.