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Publisher's Summary

Discover the powerful way to transform your relationships with friends, loved ones, and even coworkers, with proven strategies that you can put to work immediately on improving the way you communicate with anyone in any environment. 

From climbing the career ladder to making new friends, making the most of social situations, and even finding that special someone, communication is the powerful tool at your disposal to help you achieve the success you truly deserve. 

In The Science of Effective Communication, you'll learn how to develop and polish that tool so that no matter who you are, where you go, or what you do, you'll make an impact on everyone you meet for all the right reasons. 

Discover the Secrets Used by the World's Most Effective Communicators

We all know that one person who positively lights up any room they walk into, who seem to get on with everyone they meet, and who lead a blessed life as a result. Yet here's something you may not know: Those people aren't blessed with a skill that is off-limits to the rest of us. You too can learn the very same techniques used by everyone from Tony Robbins to Evan Carmichael to that one guy in your office who everyone loves, and put them to work in getting what you want - without bulldozing over everyone in your path. 

Bursting with actionable steps you can use IMMEDIATELY to transform the way you communicate, this compelling, highly effective book serves as your comprehensive guide to better communication.

©2018 Ian Tuhovsky (P)2018 Ian Tuhovsky

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Great book with concrete suggestions

Great book with concrete suggestions (an audio review)

I have a degree in English and a speech communications minor, so I wasn’t sure I had much to learn in the bastion of communications. I thought it was all pretty straightforward.

I’m happy to say, I learned a lot while listening to this audiobook. I took tons of notes, and so will pick and choose the sections I think were most valuable. Overall, though, this is well worth your time to listen to. Everyone can come out with something from this book.

The section on how to deal with people who are hard of hearing and deaf was wonderful. As an aware person, I always want to be inclusive. Now I have practical tips on how to converse with people with hearing issues. I especially liked the idea of a talking stick in a large group of people. It is a way of showing the person who is hard of hearing who is speaking, but it is also a visual reminder to others that speaking over each other is unhelpful. In fact, I think there are many times when a talking stick would be helpful in other interactions.

Preparing for a job interview may seem straightforward, but this book offers concrete advice on how to answer the five most common questions. If I had known some of these things, I am sure I would have been more successful in previous interviews.

The author makes suggestion on how to speak clearly, discussing intonation, enunciation, and breathing through your diaphragm. All of these are things I learned in my vocal class and are very helpful. He also discusses a ‘digital detox’, acknowledging that people say things online that they would never say to a person’s face. Being aware of our ability to hurt people with words is a good reminder that not all communication is clearly understood. He also makes suggestions on how to deal with rejection. He encourages the person who has been hurt to fight the urge to strike back.

The concept of empathy is addressed and I have experienced the power of being known as someone who is empathetic through my interactions with others. People feel comfortable opening up to me and it has made me better able to put myself into other peoples’ shoes. This book offers suggestions on how to approach someone who is hurting, to let them know you’re open to listening without pressure or judgement. Also, the author reminds us to fight the urge to solve their problems, instead let them know they are believed and valued for their honesty. In the days of the #MeToo movement, these skills are more valuable than ever. That being said, when someone is opening up and sharing painful issues, it is not the time for you to share your story. Find someone else if you are triggered, otherwise, the person trusting you may think you’re insensitive.

In discussing gossip, the author says to ask yourself questions such as “why am I feeling the need to pass this on, what are my motives, and do I even know if this information is true?” These are all questions I will consider the next time I’m going to pass along information.

Apologies, long-distance relationships, conflict, and how to give compliments are all addressed in detail. I could go on and on about all the great advice, but I truly urge you to listen for yourself. There is something in this book for everyone. I know I am going to hold onto my notes and review them at different times when I am having communication difficulties or when I am heading into a challenging situation. I’m so glad I listened to this book.

My only issue is that the author threw in that people who are good communicators are getting the “most attractive partners” and that this book will help you get “better romantic relationships”. That almost caused me to stop listening. As you can tell by the review, I’m glad I didn’t. Is the advice in this book helpful? Of course. Is this the best place to find advice on romantic relationships? Not really. Becoming more confident and improving your communication skills are important and should be the goals unto themselves. If you are a better communicator, you could possibly open yourself up to meeting many different people and that is another laudable goal. The “more attractive partners” line cheapens the power of the self-improvement suggestions.

I have to discuss Randy Streu. He was perfect for this book and he owned it. I had to keep reminding myself that he wasn’t the author because he was so beautifully authentic.

This is a great book with practical and useful suggestions that everyone can learn from.

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Excellent!

Great suggestions! I feel more confident walking into a situation when I don’t know anyone. FORD! Thank you!

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Alot of eye opening information

This book has somthing for everybody and is definitly worth cheacking out. It will become increasingly important as electronic comunication diminishes our face to face comunication skills.

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Not That Helpful

A lot of the content is common sense and just tips. Some tips were helpful but the majority of the read was just filler.

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A little basic...

This book is a bit more basic than I would have liked. It would be great for a young person or someone early in their career. But there are very few advanced communication techniques or ideas. Due to the subtitle, I was hoping for specific examples and techniques for improving my small talk, since it is sometimes do not care for. If this is what you are seeking then this is not the right book.

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Down to earth advice for anybody

I find this book very practical for anyone interested in making a significant improvement in any life relationship. Nice tone of voice and pace. Greeting from Nicaragua

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Informative

I found this book useful for defining and identifying conversational skills, however some of the later chapters I felt did not really apply to me and were a little boring.

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Good tips for introverts

a lot of good tips. Learned a lot about where my conversations went wrong in the past. I'll be practicing the techniques discussed and continue to grow as a conversationist.

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Great book

I learned a lot about communication. I will read it again in about six months so I cam keep myself current. Really enjoy the audible book.

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Helpful guide!

I thought this book was a great reminder on how key language is when managing people and networking with folks easily regardless of background or familiarity. I felt as a manager I felt I knew most of the content but the book with examples was great to drive points home. Great listen for leaders!

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  • J. Daniels-Kennedy
  • 07-17-18

Exactly what i needed!

Great audio book to help with social skills, easy to understand and put into practise

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  • Cori
  • 08-29-18

great book

this book has given me the confidence I needed to open up and communicate with people.
I like that it gives you ideas and also examples of how to put it in to practice.

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  • 07-30-18

very good audio

you have made A positive impact in my life. Thank you so much. stay blessed

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  • tino
  • 04-16-18

Practical, useful and inspirational

I enjoy the practical approach and the guidance offered in this book. Thank you Ian.

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  • Faizan Aziz
  • 04-12-18

Good book

Author presented points precisely about daily conversation and day to day small talk...good book overall

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 04-03-18

Definitely worth the read

Fantastic book, the tips and advice given in this book are simple, concise and easy to implement into your everyday life. I now look forward to my quest of improving my communication skills. Thank you!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 03-02-18

A relationship essential!

This audiobook is full of essential advice and tips about how to have a lasting relationship with others. Ian writes about things that are seemingly obvious once you hear it but it all makes perfect sense. after all, you cannot solve a problem by only wanting to win the argument instead of trying to find a solution together. Ian also includes a checklist of pointers that help to identify if someone is right for you. This book is great for people wanting to find compatible friends as well as looking for a suitable mate. It's also useful for a therapy tool for couples who want to improve and work on their relationship.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-20-18

Already a winner

I implemented a couple of these stratergies last night (before finishing the book today). It was the most productive talk I've had with my partner in a long time.

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  • Celeste
  • 08-16-18

Helped with my social anxiety

Good practical tips that helped me feel less anxious in conversations. Thank you, I enjoyed it. It was well read, too.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-09-18

Informative and useful

I found this audio book Informative and useful in the field of effective communication.
Highly recommend