• The How

  • Notes on the Great Work of Meeting Yourself
  • By: Yrsa Daley-Ward
  • Narrated by: Yrsa Daley-Ward
  • Length: 2 hrs and 57 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (59 ratings)

1 title per month from Audible’s entire catalog of best sellers, and new releases.
Access a growing selection of included Audible Originals, audiobooks and podcasts.
You will get an email reminder before your trial ends.
Your Premium Plus plan is $14.95 a month after 30 day trial. Cancel anytime.
The How  By  cover art

The How

By: Yrsa Daley-Ward
Narrated by: Yrsa Daley-Ward
Try for $0.00

$14.95/month after 30 days. Cancel anytime.

Buy for $14.03

Buy for $14.03

Pay using card ending in
By confirming your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and Amazon's Privacy Notice. Taxes where applicable.

Publisher's Summary

From the acclaimed poet behind bone, an exploration of how we can meet our truest selves, the ones we've always been meant to become.

Yrsa Daley-Ward's words have resonated with hundreds of thousands of people - through her books of poetry and memoir, bone and The Terrible; through her writing for Beyoncé on Black Is King; and through her always illuminating Instagram posts.

Now, in The How, Yrsa encourages listeners to begin, as she puts it, the great work of meeting ourselves. This isn't the self we've built up in response to our surroundings, or the self we manufacture to please the people around us, but instead, our most intimate self, the one we visit in dreams, the one that calls to us from a glimmering future.

With a mix of short lyrical musings and her signature stunning poetry, Yrsa gently takes listeners by the hand, encouraging them to join her as she explores how we can remove our filters, and see and feel more of who we really are behind the preconceived notions of propriety and manners we've accumulated with age. With beautiful and intriguing meditations, The How can be used to start conversations, to prompt writing, to delve deeper - whether you're solo, or with friends, on your feet or writing from the solace of home.

©2021 Yrsa Daley-Ward (P)2021 Penguin Audio

Critic Reviews

 “In this gratifying exploration of the self, Daley-Ward excels at describing the indescribable…this work defies genre and features a beautiful blend of lyrical prose and bold poetry…. This is a tender, hopeful meditation.” (Publishers Weekly)

"A heartfelt, artful manifesto focused on living fully and authentically.... By turns simplistic, elegaic, and illuminative." (Kirkus) 

The How is a brilliant reminder that the answers we seek are in ourselves.... Yrsa Daley-Wards words [in The How] - as they’ve always been - are a guidepost, a reminder, and a welcome home.” (Refinery29) 

More from the same

What listeners say about The How

Average Customer Ratings
Overall
  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    55
  • 4 Stars
    3
  • 3 Stars
    1
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    0
Performance
  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    50
  • 4 Stars
    2
  • 3 Stars
    2
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    0
Story
  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    49
  • 4 Stars
    4
  • 3 Stars
    2
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    0

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Gorgeous book, wonderful performance.

Do yourself a favor and listen to this book. Read it in paperback. Carry it with you and memorize its reminders. A beautiful book that seems to have been working it’s way through the author for years. A beautiful reminder of our unique humanity. Grateful to have it in the world.

1 person found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Beautiful

Reminds you of all the truths that you already knew, but didn’t know you knew…very poetically encourages your spirit, your mind, and your body to see the beauty that was always right in front of you.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

What a delight to met oneself

I love the author’s voice! It is calming and inviting! You will at times see yourself thru this book and at other times get lost and then try to figure things out again. You could definitely read this book again and likely have a whole new experience! Great book, great story about us and life!

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Therapeutic

I enjoyed this read. I’m 23 and learned so much. A teaching on How to truly be yourself in some way be self aware. I liked it. Al’s the narrator voice is so nice

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Beautiful reminders, insightful perspectives, revolutionary work!

I’ve been following and taking in Yrsa’s work since her spoken word and Bone. ‘How’ is an incredible and beautiful work. I’ve listened to the chapters slowly, thinking about an individual chapter over the course of the day or even week. I’ve revisited, meditated on, and even journaled about them. I convinced a friend to listen to the book - specifically for Chapter 35 (Not the End of the Day) as she was grieving a loved one - and she raved about the entire work! Thank you, Yrsa!

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Insightful

I wish I could say I enjoyed it as much as Bones and The Terrible, both of which I have listened to about 15 times. This was not a story, but a journey, one which I have been on for many, many years. It is not a light book and it contains so much information that at times it feels overwhelming. Having said that, I am sure I will read it again and again. I find the authors voice mesmerizing. She could be reading the telephone directory and I still would enjoy it. What I would really like is to see Oprah interviewing Yrsa.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Yrsa has done it again!

Beautiful read!!!! It’s always a pleasure to open a book by Yrsa Daley -Ward. In these times of great uncertainty it’s a great book that reminds us all to remain grounded no matter what.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Lovely

Saw this book at an airport bookstore and caught my eye.
Decided to spend a credit and get the audiobook.
It made me cry. Would listen again.
She has a lovely voice and some lovely thoughts.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars

awesome

Appreciated every chapter from Start to End. I will definitely be employing the exercises & practices suggested.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    3 out of 5 stars

Another thought provoking book!!

Yrsa has really penned a wonderful book. In one way it is a self help book but donee with prose and candor. She writes with out abandon. It would be impossible to read this without finding specific connections to one’s own truth. It is a book to revisit for certain. Highly recommend it.